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New York Times
02-07-2025
- Entertainment
- New York Times
A Craving for Street Food and Human Connection
Walking around Brooklyn with Nicolas Nuvan is an exercise in glad-handing. Passers-by stop, and Cheshire cat grins spread across their faces. Some ask him for a selfie, others shout his name from their cars to get his attention. Many simply wave. Street vendors offer him free food or drinks, and all Mr. Nuvan asks in return is for people to open up to him. 'This is, like, the most religious experience,' Mr. Nuvan, 36, who was wearing black Teva sandals and white pants, said one steamy June afternoon in Bed-Stuy. 'So much of what happens when I'm outside feels like it's happening to me. I'm not trying to force anything.' Among the countless microphone-in-hand influencers on social media, Mr. Nuvan has built a lane for himself with his distinctly laid-back approach to his man-on-the-street interviews of street vendors and shopkeepers. Although Mr. Nuvan will often try different foods during his interviews, his goal is not to provide his audience with a review, but to siphon life wisdom from the vendors. 'More important than merchandise is their time and memories,' he said. 'That's what I really like.' Walking south on Fulton Street, on the corner of Bedford Avenue, he came across a fan. 'What's up, Nicolas?' Danny Cevallos, 27, said before asking Mr. Nuvan for a selfie. 'I watch a lot of his videos all over Facebook, Instagram; he's a very cool guy,' said Mr. Cevallos, who is a maintenance worker, before stepping into Dave's Hot Chicken for lunch. 'I like the way he interacts with people, how he communicates and socializes. He's always open to everybody. He never says no to anybody or never neglects the food that he gets to try out.' Want all of The Times? Subscribe.
Yahoo
25-06-2025
- Lifestyle
- Yahoo
Adults Are Sharing The Biggest Mistakes People Can Make In Their 30s, And I'm Taking Some Serious Notes
As someone approaching their 30s, I'm open to receiving any advice I can get. Recently, Redditor u/oghrmiatr asked those in the Reddit community to share the biggest mistakes to avoid making in their 30s to have a good life in their 40s and beyond, and they're reminders to live life with intention: 1."I know this is a very capitalistic thing to say, but you need to fight like hell to earn more money. Don't get complacent with a low-paying job; improve yourself, learn new skills, and get to whatever level you need to get yourself so you can really enjoy life. So many problems can be solved with a bigger paycheck, and many people will sell themselves short and just assume that they have to be stuck in a job that pays lower wages." —climb-it-ographer 2."Don't have kids unless you're willing to give up a lot of your freedom and hobbies." —Ok-Improvement-4526 3."Being in a relationship or marrying someone who is totally wrong for you. I see brilliant, promising, and good people ruin their lives in their 40s because they chose the wrong partner." —OducksFTW 4."Neglecting your teeth." —Classic-Prior-6946 5."Avoiding tough conversations and tough decisions. Trust me, the more conversations you have in your 30s, the easier life will get in your 40s. Your career, your kids, and your overall stability of life will thrive when you are willing to take the risk." —ExtensionActuator811 Related: What Happened To This Woman's Head During Menopause Is Something You Have Got To See To Believe 6."I think the biggest mistake is not putting your finances in order before hitting your 40s." —perez_zinat 7."Don't let anyone live in your home, no matter the sob story." —AiresStrawberries 8."Continuing to eat like you're in your 20s. You don't have to go on some wild diet — just stop eating so much junk and change the small things, like getting more servings of vegetables every so often. Start cooking at home; it'll start making an impact. Just keep making small steps, and by the time you hit your 40s, you'll be used to eating a balanced diet. It's good to start now before your metabolism crashes." —No-Understanding-912 9."Let that cocaine be." —Ok_Outlandishness294 Related: 25 Life-Changing Habits People Added To Their Everyday Routines To Improve Their Lives For The Better 10."Limiting yourself because of anxiety and fears. Time goes by fast — it's important to prioritize what you like and what you want in life. Do you really want something, but you keep postponing it because it stresses you out? Screw that. Just do it; you will be grateful that you did." —Kaph- 11."Not starting a retirement account. Do it. Even $10 a paycheck or $5 — the more, the better. Do it every week, and you will not even notice it." —butcher99 12."Not seriously investing in building and maintaining friendships. A lot of people get divorced in their 40s and find themselves alone." —vkurian 13."Losing your functional mobility. I do a lot of kettlebell workouts now, and I've discovered that my balance has atrophied since my youth. It feels good to reclaim it." —generalright 14."Paying so much attention to your career that you don't spend the time you need with your family. I'm especially referring to your children, if that's your situation. This is the decade that will end up blessing you or hurting you for the rest of your life." —5daysandnights 15."The career you love in your 30s might be something you hate in your 40s. Give yourself an out and have another skillset to fall on, just in case." —MyDogBitz 16."Drinking like you're in your 20s." —AUnicornDonkey "If you start having a health problem, get it looked at and treated early before it turns into something else. I've lost friends to cancer in their 30s and early 40s. I've seen people lose their health due to problems they didn't treat. Your body isn't as resilient as it was when you were younger, and there's a bunch of stuff that might start going wrong. Look after yourself better, and don't let problems spiral if you can help it." —BobBobBobBobBobDave I'm taking note of all of these, TBH. What do you think is the biggest mistake someone can make in their 30s? Let us know in the comments, or you can anonymously submit your thoughts using the form below! Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity. Also in Goodful: Women Are Revealing How Their Lives Have Been Affected By President Trump's Policies, And They're Not Holding Back ANYTHING Also in Goodful: "I Can't Wait For This To Go Out Of Style": People Are Sharing Popular Modern Trends That Are Actually Pretty Toxic Also in Goodful: Boyfriends Are Sharing What They Never Knew About Women Until They Started Dating One, And These Discoveries Are Pure Relationship Gold
Yahoo
21-06-2025
- General
- Yahoo
People Are Sharing Sayings They've Heard That Are So Unhelpful It Hurts
Sometimes things are better left unsaid, at least in these cases. Reddit user Ancient-Designer135 recently asked, "What's a saying you've heard that is totally unhelpful?" Here's what people had to say, and it's hard not to find a lot of these *so* relatable: 1."Everything happens for a reason. I hate that saying. It's so untrue." —u/tuxedobird65 2."What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. No, it certainly doesn't. It may in some cases, but there are lots of scarred people out there for whom life's challenges have not made them stronger." —u/strugglewithyoga 3."People have it worse than you. OK, and? I can still feel upset about my circumstances!" —u/Memez_R_Life69 4."Follow your passion. Great advice for people with a passion. Terrible advice for those whose interests aren't so concentrated into one thing." —u/Culjules 5."It's always in the last place you look. Well, yeah." —u/throwaway9910191423 6."Sleep when the baby sleeps." —u/milee30 Related: "That Sentence Sat In My Head For Months": Men Are Revealing The Most Hurtful Things A Woman Can Say To Them, And It's Actually Fascinating 7."Money can't buy happiness. I'm sure I'd be happier with too much money than not enough." —u/Bottlecollecter 8."It could be worse." —u/itsmeskybaby 9."It could also be better." —u/illogical_mindset 10."Just be yourself. Yeah, it turns out that I'm very unpleasant." —u/Ethan-Wakefield Related: Here Are 50 Pictures That Make Me Grin Uncontrollably No Matter How Many Times I've Seen Them, In Case You Need Them 11."Calm down. No one has ever actually calmed down hearing that." —u/kyungsookim 12."Work hard and you'll be rewarded." —u/ejrhonda79 13."Jump, and the net will appear. I'm all for being optimistic, but what?" —u/likeSnozberries 14."Have you tried [obvious thing]? Always said by someone who has no idea what you're going through and/or what you're doing to try to make it better." —u/BellaDingDong 15."I'm sorry you feel that way. So, you're not sorry for the thing you did then." —u/Curleysound 16."Watch your tone. I had a tone? If I did, then I didn't know it, but I certainly have one now." —u/poppjane 17."People have adopted the quote from Star Wars: 'Do or do not. There is no try,' and it bothers the hell out of me. Sometimes all you can do is try. Why are we discrediting all of the effort people put into the things they do? Granted, I heard it a lot more when I was younger, not so much nowadays, but it has always bothered me." —u/Ok-Wheel7508 18."You know, back in the year XXXX, this cost this much. So really, if you account for inflation, it's accurately priced. OK, who cares how much something used to cost? I can't pay that now. That won't make when I pay more today feel any better." —u/brokenmessiah 19."He or she is in a better place." —u/ltlcrab 20."If you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best. If you're going to be a bad person, I don't want to be with you." —u/Thick_Caterpillar379 21."I'm guilty of it too, but 'it is what it is.'" —u/djnastynipple What's the most unhelpful phrase or saying you've ever heard? Share your thoughts in the comments! Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity. Also in Internet Finds: Holy Crap, I Can't Stop Laughing At These 28 Painfully Awkward And Embarrassing Conversations Also in Internet Finds: I Need To Call My Doc For A New Inhaler After Cackling So Hard At These 41 Funny Tweets From The Week Also in Internet Finds: People Are Sharing How What Happened In Vegas Did NOT Stay In Vegas, And This Should Be A Lesson To Never Go To A Bachelor/Bachelorette Party There
Washington Post
19-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Washington Post
Want to find better solutions? Learn to embrace questions.
What do I do when I don't know what's next? How do I move forward when I feel stuck? These were the queries at the heart of Franz Kappus's letters. It was 1903 when Kappus, a 19-year-old aspiring poet, began writing to the Austrian poet Rainer Maria Rilke and asking for advice about how to live his life. Like many 19-year olds, he had a lot of questions — about love, work, art, relationships.
Forbes
17-06-2025
- Business
- Forbes
Surprisingly Uplifting Advice For 2025 Graduates In An Uncertain World
Too often people send graduates out into the world with platitudes and lofty thoughts. While I certainly don't want to diminish any aspirations for the future, my best advice for 2025 graduates is grounded in a somber reality compounded by both economic uncertainty and continued political division. The economic climate is troubling, with constantly gyrating tariffs, increasing levels of government debt, inflation heading higher, and the likelihood that interest rates will rise further and U.S. companies will cut investment spending and hiring. Many companies are laying off people, while those that are hiring are often delaying start dates, for example from July until December 2025. All of this adds up to a difficult job market for graduates. This is hardly the kind of news anyone wants to deliver to new entrants into the workforce. But there is a silver lining here: life lessons on dealing with uncertainty that will help graduates eliminate much of the worry, fear, pressure, anxiety, and stress they're feeling right now—and in the future. Based on my own life experience, including 45 years in business, here is my advice to 2025 graduates (which also applies to the rest of us, at any age or stage of life). 1. Make Self-Reflection Your Foundation. No doubt, graduates have a lot on their minds right now—college debt, finding a good job, struggling to get interviews and facing rejections, figuring out their personal lives. As these concerns pile up, the temptation is to go faster and faster to resolve everything as quickly as possible. My recommendation? Stop! Turn off the noise and distractions and engage in self-reflection. The more you self-reflect about your goals, priorities, and values, the more you can guard against becoming overwhelmed. Check in with yourself, ideally for a few minutes every day, about your feelings, what you're doing (or not doing), and how you treat yourself and others. No matter what is happening in the world, the one thing you can control is how you act and interact with others. As entertainer Steve Carell told the 2025 graduating class at Northwestern University, 'My topic today is kindness,' calling it 'something we need more of in the world.' In humorous speech interrupted with laughter, Carell delivered some pearls of wisdom: 'It is no more difficult to be kind than it is to be mean.' 2. Develop True Self-Confidence. Not just confidence—but true self-confidence. This has nothing to do with posing and posturing. Rather, you're becoming more comfortable in your own skin, with the knowledge of your strengths, talents, and skills. One of those strengths is staying positive in a negative world—as KIND founder Daniel Lubetzky told the graduates of the University of California at Berkeley. He described 'superpowers' of youth as grit, fearlessness, creativity, and love—all of which he equated to skills for career success. The other side of true self-confidence is acknowledging you also have weaknesses (like everybody else) and you're going to improve. These are development areas that ensure you'll always have something to work on. Keep learning and growing so you can contribute even more to your team, organization, and community. With true self-confidence, you'll see that the glass is never half empty—it truly is half full and on its way to overflowing. 3. Build And Expand Your Network. After the race to the finish line known as graduation day, networking may feel like something that will be 'nice to do' later. However, nothing can be more important for you right now than building your network. That means connecting with people you went to high school and college with, as well as with people who share your interests such as sports and recreation, volunteer work, or your faith community. Find out what they're doing and where they are working; ask if they will take the time to talk about their jobs, their companies, and their industries. They may know of an opportunity for you or may want to introduce you to someone. That's how you build and grow your network. But remember, networking is reciprocal. You're not just receiving help but also looking for what you can give to others. 4. Significantly Expand Your Job Search. Many of my students tell me they've applied to four or five companies and now they're waiting to hear back. That's hardly sufficient—especially today. You need to apply to at least 30 or 40 companies. No matter what your field of interest or specialization, you cannot have too many lines in the water. Knowing that it will likely take more time and more effort to land your first job, you can't afford to passively wait for your top-choice employers to get back to you. Expand your search, especially as you network about potential opportunities. 5. Recognize The Importance Of Getting In The Door. This advice may make the biggest impact of all. It's easy to focus only on a specific industry and a specific company—or even a particular role in one department. Now, more than ever, it's important to concentrate on 'getting in' a company, no matter which door opens for you. Once you're in the company then, assuming you are good at what you do, you'll be able to build your internal network by connecting with people on other teams and in other departments—such as by volunteering for task forces, interdepartmental projects, and cross-functional teams. As you do, you'll find out about other opportunities, including in the departments that most interest you. Consider this story from a few years ago: A student told me he really wanted to get into the marketing department of a particular company. The challenge, however, is all his experience was in finance. As it turned out, I knew the treasurer of that company and offered to help him get an interview in the treasury department. The student smiled and said, 'I'm sorry, Professor Kraemer, but I don't want to be in finance. I want to be in marketing.' I explained that I understood exactly what he wanted, but the first thing to do was to get in the company. Once he performed well in his job, he could tell the treasurer, 'I'm so grateful for this opportunity and I've learned so much. But I'm really interested in moving to marketing.' And that is exactly what happened. Three years after joining the company, he was a director of marketing. One final thought, your next job is obviously a big priority for you right now, but it's only the beginning. Far more important is who you are as a person—your values, priorities, and how you aspire to make a difference. In other words, your values-based leadership in every aspect of your life. As Grant Hill, one of the greatest college basketball players of all time, told members of the graduating class of Duke University, his alma mater, 'Don't just list your values, live them… The world doesn't need more promises, it needs people who keep them.' This is the journey that is unfolding for you as a new graduate, which will continue throughout your life. Now is the time to lead by example and show the world how you live your values.
