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The Standard
3 days ago
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- The Standard
Trial begins for mother-in-law in Abby Choi murder case
Abby Choi Tin-fung's former mother-in-law Jenny Li Sui-heung. Download The Standard app to stay informed with news, updates, and significant events - The upgraded app is now available on both iOS and Android platforms.
Yahoo
3 days ago
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- Yahoo
Woman Feels 'Like a Guest' in Her Own Home Due to Mother-in-Law's 6-Month Stays
Woman says her mother-in-law rotates between sons' homes for six months, staying two weeks at a time She describes feeling like a guest in her own home, with no privacy or boundaries during visits Despite sharing her concerns, her husband dismisses them, leaving her emotionally drained and desperate for changeA woman turned to the Reddit community for support after years of feeling suffocated by her mother-in-law's extended visits. The poster, married for seven years, shared that her husband's mother "lives overseas and intends to move to our country permanently, and so while her visa is processing, she visits every year." "And by visits, I mean she stays for nearly six months, rotating between her sons' homes every two weeks," she writes. "This has been the routine for years." From the beginning, she has tried to be understanding, initially agreeing to the setup when her husband first asked if she'd be okay with it. 'I (naively) said yes,' she writes in her post, recalling how her mother-in-law seemed 'pretty independent' at first, traveling alone and joining group tours, which led her to believe it wouldn't be difficult. After they got married, the couple "lived in a shared house" with her younger brother-in-law and mother-in-law. However, the reality turned out to be far from what she expected. 'They were both around all the time — it felt like I never had any privacy or personal space as a newlywed,' she confides. Her mother-in-law, a widow for nearly two decades, had grown used to living with others for long stretches, rarely staying in her own home, even while overseas. 'She just prefers being around people - which I get, to an extent - but it's becoming too much for me,' the woman admits. "When she stays with us, she basically parks herself in the living room all day,' she explains, adding that her mother-in-law 'never goes out, doesn't do much on her own, and there are no boundaries.' The poster describes that the mother-in-law's constant presence leaves her feeling like a guest in her own home. 'I can't walk through my own house without feeling like I have to engage or at least acknowledge her presence 24/7,' she laments. Over time, she realized that her mother-in-law is "just incredibly clingy and constantly inserts herself into everything." The woman's patience was tested further by her mother-in-law's "pointed remarks" about her family, "including one about how my dad drinks 'a bit more than normal,' which I found really inappropriate.' She's not alone in her feelings. Her sister-in-law agreed that the situation has also taken a toll on their household. 'My sister-in-law opened up to me about how much of a nightmare my MIL was when SIL had her baby - constantly interfering, stressing her out, and not respecting boundaries,' she reveals, adding that as a result, her mother-in-law now only gets "limited access" to the child. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. These conversations only reinforce her own sense of frustration. 'My MIL thrives on meddling in other people's lives, playing the victim, and stirring up drama so she can get sympathy,' she writes, feeling that her mother-in-law 'inserts herself into other people's homes and routines because she's bored and wants entertainment - at our expense.' Despite repeatedly sharing her concerns with her husband, he dismisses her frustrations. 'He just doesn't see the issue. He's used to her being this way and thinks it's normal to go live in people's houses,' she says. 'I feel like I've never had a chance to build a life with just us without her constant presence looming over everything.' She insists that she values family and doesn't want to be seen as the villain, but feels "suffocated when she's here." "It doesn't feel like my home anymore when she stays with us,' she writes. Now, she's reached a breaking point. 'I'm at the point where I just don't want her to stay with us at all,' she confesses. Read the original article on People
Yahoo
3 days ago
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- Yahoo
Couple Opts Not to Know Sex of Baby While Pregnant. Then Unexpected Person Ruins the Surprise
A woman who opted not to learn the sex of her baby before the birth found out anyway, after her mother-in-law went behind her back She writes on Reddit that she found out she was having a boy when acquaintances approached her at the grocery store Now, she wants her mother-in-law to know she's upsetA woman who decided not to learn the sex of her baby before the birth was in for a surprise when her mother-in-law went behind her back to find out. In a post published to Reddit, the 26-year-old woman explains that she and her husband are expecting their first child. "I am not fussed on the gender of my baby, neither is my husband, we just want a healthy and happy baby. Thus, we have not found out the gender, rather we want a surprise, or at least I thought," she writes. She adds that she has always had "a pretty good relationship" with her mother-in-law and has been sending her ultrasound images and other updates about the pregnancy. However, as she nears her due date, her mother-in-law "has been dying to know the gender." She is "constantly asking if we have changed our mind, and time after time, my husband and I say our minds are set on a surprise," she writes. Recently, the woman "had some mutual family friends approach me in the middle of the supermarket, and congratulate me and my husband on having a baby, and how exciting it is to have a little BOY." The poster was "taken aback" and told their friends that they did "not know the gender of the baby." "The family friends reply that 'Oh yes, MIL NAME, told us it was a boy,'" she writes. "I didn't say anything at the time, just smiled, and turned to my husband and kind of just went 'You need to investigate this.' " The man then called his mother and asked for an explanation. "She explained that she asked her friend, showed images of the ultrasound (works in the medical field/midwifery), and she confirmed it was a boy." They also learns that the mother-in-law had "told everyone." Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories "I am FURIOUS that I, THE MOTHER, [am] finding this out last, when I did not even want to know," she writes. The couple confronted the mother-in-law, and the soon-to-be mom expressed her "deep disappointment and anger," telling her they need some space. Now her husband's siblings are saying she overreacted. However, Reddit users disagree, arguing that the woman should keep the baby far from the mother-in-law for as long as possible. "Make it at least a year. No contact, no holidays," wrote one commenter. "If she couldn't wait a few weeks for the gender reveal, she can wait a few months for the baby reveal," another added. Read the original article on People
Yahoo
4 days ago
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- Yahoo
Woman Snaps at Mother-in-Law Over 'Snide' Remarks About Her Remote Work. But Her Husband Says She Was Too 'Mean'
A woman who works from home says her mother-in-law frequently makes rude comments about her job Her husband's mom always jokes that it "must be nice to sit in pajamas all day" Things reached a fever pitch when the mother-in-law made another remark during a dinner — and the woman fired backA woman finally had enough of her mother-in-law's disrespect, snapping back at the woman following a recent rude comment. In a post published to Reddit, the anonymous 28-year-old writes that she works from home as a software developer. Her mother-in-law, she adds, "has never understood or respected that." "Every time she visits, she makes snide remarks like, 'Oh, must be nice to sit in pajamas all day,' or 'Back in my day, we actually had to commute to work,' " she writes in the post. The situation reached a fever pitch at a recent dinner. "During dinner, someone asked what I do, and before I could answer, MIL chuckled and said, 'Oh, she watches Netflix and calls it coding,' " she writes. "Without skipping a beat, I smiled and said, 'Yeah, and that 'Netflix' paid off your son's student loans and bought this house.' " "Everyone laughed. MIL got really quiet," she continues. "After they left, my husband said I was being unnecessarily mean and should've just let it slide." Now, the woman wants to know if she was in the wrong for snapping back. Never miss a story — sign up for PEOPLE's free daily newsletter to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. However, many fellow Reddit users focused less on the two women and more on the husband. "Well maybe if he wants to avoid being humiliated in the future he should make sure he puts a muzzle on his mother so these unfortunate things don't occur any more," one user wrote. Added another commenter: "So many men can't handle even the most minor insinuation that their spouse might be the breadwinner." "He probably enjoyed the idea that people would think he'd paid it off himself, paid for the house himself, or at least contributed the majority of it," someone else chimed in. "Now it's in the open that not only is his mum horrible, he's also not 'the breadwinner' or whatever. Rather the wife, he's let be humiliated for years, is the one who gave him everything." Read the original article on People
Forbes
4 days ago
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- Forbes
What To Do If A Car Crashes Into Your House
My mother-in-law had just downsized from her charming but large house into a comfortable, brand new 2 bedroom in a lovely neighborhood. But the house happened to be positioned right where the street made a 'T.' Drivers would stop and make a left or a right. Within a week, a car was in her living room. An elderly driver stepped on the gas instead of the brake and 'it sounded like a bomb went off, "she said. Fortunately no one was hurt but of course it was a months-long process of paperwork, contractors and Peggy worrying every time she heard a car coming down the hill. Aylesbury,Bucks,UK - September 11th 2011. Car comes off the road and crashes into a house It's not a situation most people expect, but it happens more often than you'd think: a car crashes into a house. Whether it's a drunk driver, a medical emergency, or just someone who hit the wrong pedal, the result is chaos. Here's what you need to do immediately — and in the days that follow — to protect yourself, your home, and your sanity. Call 911 Immediately Your first move is to call 911 — even if the driver insists they're fine or tries to leave. You'll need police on the scene to document everything, and if there are any injuries (including your own), paramedics will be dispatched. Let the pros assess the situation. Even a small crash can compromise your home's structural integrity. Don't Enter the Impact Zone If the crash damaged a wall, foundation, or support beam, stay out of that part of the house until a building inspector or fire department clears it. One wrong move could bring down a ceiling or cause further collapse. Document, document, document Take photos and video from multiple angles. Capture damage to your house, the car's position, license plate, skid marks, debris, and anything else that tells the story. Write down what you remember right away — time, weather, noise, any details about the driver — because stress fogs memory fast. Exchange Info with the driver when appropriate Don't argue, don't accuse. Just gather facts. If the driver is uncooperative or flees the scene, let the police handle it. Notify Your Home Insurance Company Quickly File a claim ASAP. Even though the driver's auto insurance will likely pay for the damage (under their property liability coverage), your own homeowners insurance may help cover emergency repairs, hotel stays, or cleanup in the meantime. Ask your adjuster what's covered and when. Secure the Property Once emergency services give you the all-clear, board up any holes, broken windows or damaged doors to prevent theft or injury. If needed, hire a contractor or mitigation service to help with emergency repairs — and keep receipts for everything. Contact a Structural Engineer or Contractor Your insurance may send someone, but it's smart to have your own evaluation. Structural damage isn't always obvious. Cracks, bowed walls, or shifts in your foundation may not show up for weeks. Peggy, whose house was hit, discovered problems in the foundation months after the crash when a contractor was inspecting it. Get Legal Help If the damage is extensive or the driver was uninsured or underinsured, consult a lawyer. You may need help recovering full compensation. Also, if the crash caused emotional trauma — especially if you were home — don't underestimate your right to support. Be gentle with yourself for awhile Any crash is traumatic, but having your home hit is especially nerve-shattering. You might feel unsafe in your home for a while. That's normal. Get support if you need it — from a therapist, friends, or online communities. If you see a therapist, keep receipts to be presented when the time is right for reimbursement.
