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Yahoo
4 days ago
- General
- Yahoo
"When Someone Calls Me 'Bro' But Then Calls Me 'Sir' Immediately Afterwards": People Are Sharing The Slightly Funny Moments That Made Them Realize They're Officially Old
The age at which someone feels "old" definitely depends on the individual's perspective of it. So, when we asked some of our readers to share the moment they realized they were old, the responses varied a lot! Here is what was said... 1."When you mention your age, and no longer get the, 'Aww, you look so much younger.' Just an awkward silence and tumbleweed." —pangalacticgargleblaster 2."You know you're old when most of the contacts on your phone begin with 'Dr.'" —silkylight667 3."You no longer give a flying fig newton about what you wear. Comfortable? You wear it, period." —greenjaguar162 4."When high school classmates post selfies on Facebook, and I'm shocked into the realization that I look as 'old' as they do." —fizzy59 5."Two little shits said 'okay auntie' to me when I told them not to eat the unripe cherries from the tree because they will get a tummy ache." —himalayall 6."I was at Ross, cashier very sweetly 'had to ask' if I qualified for senior discount. I asked the age required, she told me, I said, 'Oh no, not yet!'... Then I got in the car and thought about it (did math). I DID QUALIFY, WTAF!?! oops. 😆🤣🤣🤣" —teamglatz3 7."For me, personally, it's when someone calls me 'bro' but then calls me 'sir' almost immediately afterwards." —djn6ix88 "When people started calling me 'sir.'" —icychinchilla458 8."The way I can see through all the tricks that used to work when I was under 35. I know I am old because now I see them coming a thousand yards away!" —trendykid572 9."I knew I was old when I began regularly checking my bathrooms to be sure there was an ample supply of toilet paper…" —icychinchilla458 10."My sister and I were finishing our meal at a restaurant where tables were close together, and we were talking with a couple of guys in their late 20s, early 30s at the next table. When we got up to leave, I said, 'You boys enjoy the rest of your dinner!' I was immediately struck by the thought, 'OMG, when did I become my mother?' Normal me would have said you 'guys,' not 'boys.'" —blinky_bo 11."I'm a 37-year-old woman. I just shaved my head because I felt like it. First time going from medium to short, I also have very dark hair. I knew I was greying on the sides in the front, but OH MY GOD EVERY CLUMP I SHAVED OFF HAD GREY IN IT! WTF." —secretauthor 12."When I started referring to ppl in their 40s as young." —bittersnail65 13."I knew I was getting old when I lost the battle with my weight. Even now, I can lose weight with lots of effort, but no matter how many vegetables I eat, I gain it back eventually. And it just gets harder the older I get. Of course, there are the things going wacko with your body. Started with a little high blood pressure, acid reflux, arthritis, gallbladder, then tearing rotator cuffs just doing every day stuff, and now a stroke. It feels like a cascade effect that I only have minimal input or control over." —truthmatters 14."Just this morning, I picked up an empty trash can — it was narrow, about waist-high, seven pounds max — and sprained my back." —certified_drapetomaniac 15."When the fitness instructor at the gym I was touring said they would play Elvis music if I requested it." —copperadmiral496 16."My daughter said watching bands break up. For me, it's watching them all die! And making sure all my plans end at 8 p.m." —greenjaguar162 17."When they just automatically give you the senior discount." —angryghost237 18."You know you're old when a nun calls you ma'am!" —lorijpain 19."I remember watching Football and thinking, 'Wow, the players all look so young!' Now I think the same thing about the referees." —alwayspickdlast "I was OK when the athletes playing on TV looked like kids to me. Then one day I realized that the COACHES had started to look so much younger." —messysmoothie29 20."I'm 25 and admire people's landscaping and think about houses. I still live with my parents, so I think it's me wanting to move and do my own thing." —smileymug493 21."I refer to myself as 'older.' Old means someone older than me. I'm 73. I flipped out a little when my firstborn turned 50! Of course, I couldn't have a 50-year-old child 😜!" —psychicghost195 22."Saving good boxes is a dead giveaway. Also, realizing that I will be 80 in two months. Seems as though I was only 49 when I went to sleep last night. Still, it beats the alternative." —linnster 23."I knew I had crossed into the old lane when a store clerk called me precious. And now I have the crepey skin! For God's sake, how does that even happen?" —grouchylion27 24."I realized I'd become old when half the attendees at a rock concert had walkers and canes, and the band had their kids and grandkids playing with them." —copperadmiral496 25."I realized I was getting old the first time I saw an old person and realized they might be younger than me." —poeticcadet1782 26."Told a friend about a recipe I loved. When I went to make a copy of it, the notation I made on the recipe was dated 1970. Since we are in 2025, I realized that I had been making it without the cookbook for over 55 years. I suddenly felt ancient." —boringdaredevil43 27."I knew I was old when I saw the article about how they had dug up a time capsule and marveled at its contents. It was buried in 1975 when I was already 25 years old." —skimsword791 28."I really learned I was old when I realized the new pope is much younger than me!" —lovelymug3762 29."I had to stop at a college campus recently to pick up some records. Hadn't been on that campus since I'd gone there almost a decade ago. Looking at all the students my first thought was, 'Why do they all look like babies?!' That's when I realized I was getting older lol." —minibubble32237 30."I knew I was old when I saw a picture where I was in the background facing the wrong way, and my hair was all either gone or half gray!" —collapse finally: "The ultimate realization: In your 20s, you're really worried about what people think about you. In your 30s, you're not really worried about what people think about you. In your 40s and beyond, you realize no one was really thinking about you anyway." —the_great_bambino Do you relate to any of these, or have additional thoughts to share? Let us know in the comments! Solve the daily Crossword
Forbes
02-07-2025
- Politics
- Forbes
The Exile's Clarity: Distance As Leadership Strategy
Contemporary artistic collage depicting hands holding binoculars against a blue background with ... More space for text. The concept of planning and analytics. These days, flipping channels, scrolling news feeds, or reading opinion pieces doesn't just expose you to multiple sides of an issue. It drops you into parallel realities. Each one certain of itself. Each one sharpened by bias. What we call perspective or clarity is often just performance. And the deeper you go, the more you feel the strain—not just of disagreement, but of disconnection. It's in moments like these when we need what I call the exile's clarity. As a culture and leadership researcher, I've seen this same fragmentation inside organizations. Five executives describe the same workplace and somehow give five completely different answers. Culture, purpose, and even reality start to fracture. Not because people are wrong, but because they are standing too close. The exile's clarity is not detachment. It is deliberate distance. A way to observe the familiar with unfamiliar eyes. And that might be one of the most underused leadership disciplines today. Not everyone who steps away chooses to. The word exile carries its own history. For many, it means forced separation, not reflective distance. What I describe here borrows the language of distance, not its pain. It is a leadership mindset. A practiced way of stepping back so we can see again. And it comes from experience. I've lived more years outside my home country than within it. That distance hasn't dulled my connection—it has deepened it. You begin to see with two lenses. One that remembers. One that reconsiders. You notice what was invisible when you were still immersed in it. Familiarity becomes visible only when it is interrupted. Culture, too, reveals itself through contrast. That contrast matters. Especially now. Especially for leaders navigating complexity, fragmentation, fatigue, and the noise that passes for clarity. This is where the exile's clarity becomes not just helpful—but essential. Zooming Out To See The Vision At Play Many leaders treat vision like a pronouncement. A crafted phrase. A declaration to be shared. But real vision is not what you create. It is what others can carry. And sometimes, the only way to make vision work is to step back far enough to test whether it holds up. The closer we are to our own thinking, the more we believe in its logic. Confirmation bias. We mistake internal coherence for universal clarity. We assume that what makes sense to us must make sense to others. Let's say a technology company launches a new vision: 'We power meaningful connection.' Inside the company, it resonates. People cite it in meetings. It gets baked into strategic plans. But when leaders step out of their product bubble and invite new customers to reflect on that same phrase through their lived experience, it starts to fracture. What seemed strategic appears completely disconnected from reality. What leaders call meaningful connection, users describe as impersonal or automated. The interface confuses them. The algorithms make them feel unseen. From the center, the vision seemed true. From the outside, it seemed thin. That's what the exile's clarity helps you notice. Not just where a vision lands—but where it breaks. And whether others can find themselves in it. Because if a vision only survives inside the boardroom, it isn't a vision. It's branding in disguise. Areal view of dazzling Toronto cityscape during a blue hour using long exposure, zooming in bokeh ... More mode. Escaping The Decision-Making Echo Chamber Leaders rarely make decisions in isolation. But they often make them in echo chambers. Trusted advisors. Familiar metrics. Shared assumptions. What begins as confidence slowly hardens into sameness. The exile's clarity disrupts that rhythm. It asks you to leave the room your decision was born in and examine it from an angle it wasn't designed for. Let's say a global manufacturing firm is planning a regional expansion. The executive team has run the numbers. The models are solid. The timelines aggressive but plausible. Before final approval, they convene a team of local frontline workers and operational staff. Not executives. Not analysts. Just people who live with the impact of strategic choices every day. They don't call them to HQ. They travel to the frontlines. The response is sobering. What seemed like smart efficiency from headquarters feels like risky overreach in the field. The data is fine—but the assumptions underneath it need work. Without that outside view, the leadership team would have overcommitted. Einstein once said, 'We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.' Sometimes the clarity you need isn't more detail. It's more distance from what you hold to be true. From Culture Playbooks To Cultural Truths Culture doesn't live in strategy decks. It lives in how people experience leadership when no one is watching. And too often, leaders mistake articulation for impact. Consider a healthcare system that launches a new culture framework: compassion, curiosity, and integrity. Leaders announce it in town halls, posters go up, language is added to reviews. But within a few months, employee surveys surface cracks. Employees say compassion disappears under pressure. Curiosity feels unsafe when it challenges senior voices. Integrity is applied inconsistently depending on who is involved. So the leadership team makes a different move. They stop reinforcing the culture and start observing it. They shadow new hires. Listen in on crisis calls. Sit quietly during routine shift handovers. What they discover isn't rejection. It's confusion. Employees want to live the values—they just don't know what it looks like to win with them. The words are familiar. The behaviors are ill-defined. That shift—from performing the culture to witnessing it—changes everything. Leadership begins highlighting moments when the values show up under pressure. Recognition becomes real. So does change. This kind of truth doesn't come from repeating the message. It comes from stepping outside it. The Tyranny Of Closeness Letting go of your interpretation—even briefly—can feel like betrayal. Not of others, but of yourself. We become attached to the things we built. We defend them. We repeat them. And eventually, we stop seeing them. A senior leader I once coached had been the sponsor of a major transformation program. The logic was sound. The metrics were improving. But somewhere in him, something felt off. He couldn't name it. But he felt it. We ran a short exercise. He had to present the transformation program as if he were a skeptical outsider. The change in language was instant. He saw flaws he had stopped questioning. Not because the program was failing—but because he had gotten too close. Clarity is not about abandoning what you believe. It's about testing whether what you believe still works. Perspective Is A Leadership Practice Psychologist Carl Jung once said, 'Who looks outside dreams, who looks inside awakes.' But leadership requires both. You need the introspection to anchor and the observation to expand. The challenge is knowing when you've gotten too close. In today's multi-stakeholder, multi-channel world, proximity does not equal understanding. What seems clear in a strategy session can feel performative in practice. What looks aligned from the top can feel disconnected at the edge. Some astronauts describe something called the Overview Effect—a sudden shift in awareness when they see Earth from orbit. National borders disappear. Divisions fade. What emerges is not separation, but a sense of shared fragility. That effect doesn't require space travel. It requires perspective. And perspective requires leaders to stop viewing everything from the same position. Earth planet view from ISS porthole. View from Cupola. International space station. Orbit and deep ... More space with stars. Spaceship. Elements of this image furnished by NASA (url: Distance, when practiced with discipline, can sharpen not just decisions, but care. Clarity Is A Leadership Act Great leaders don't just stay in the center. They orbit it. They look from the outside in. They examine what still makes sense—and what doesn't. They create space between themselves and their assumptions. Not to abandon them. But to sharpen them. The exile's clarity isn't about withdrawal. It is about return. Coming back with cleaner eyes. With questions that open instead of answers that close. So the next time you feel sure, try walking the edge. Step away from what you've built, even for a moment. Look from the outside, and ask—what am I missing? What could be clearer if I weren't standing here? Because sometimes, clarity lives on the periphery. Quiet. Sharp. Waiting to be seen.
UAE Moments
30-06-2025
- General
- UAE Moments
Your Daily Career Tarot Card Reading for July 1st, 2025
1.7.25 The Devil: Try not to worry as things may not be as bad as they seem. Although you may feel there are no options available to you, there are likely more than you realize. What you really need is a fresh perspective or a way of seeing your current situation with new eyes. Perhaps a chat to a mentor or good friend might help you think outside the box.
Fast Company
17-06-2025
- General
- Fast Company
How to add more fun to your workday (while still getting work done)
How often do you leave work thinking, 'Wow, that was fun!' Once a week? Once a month? Never? If you aren't having fun—real fun—it may be time to rethink your work life, says Bree Groff, author of Today Was Fun: A Book About Work (Seriously). The idea that work needed to be fun didn't hit home for Groff until her mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2022. She took a leave of absence from her job at a New York-based transformation consulting firm to care for her and her father, who had Alzheimer's disease. After her mother passed away, she went back to work part time with a new perspective. 'One of the things that became obvious while taking care of my parents is that at some point, we'll run out of Mondays,' she says. 'They aren't a renewable resource. So, what are we doing to our lives when we're wishing away five out of seven days of every week?' A common attitude is that work is called work for a reason; it's something to get through to get a paycheck. The flip side is: 'Love what you do, and you'll never work a day in your life.' This phrase suggests that the solution to work being drudgery is that it should be your passion and your identity. That notion also didn't sit right with Groff. Many of the leaders she'd worked with were pouring themselves into their work, but they were also sacrificing their health, sleep, and relationships, hoping for a reward that would come someday in the future.
Yahoo
17-06-2025
- Health
- Yahoo
"In That Moment, My Entire View Of Life Changed": 29 Times It Only Took 1 Sentence To Alter Someone's Life Forever
Sometimes, it only takes one sentence to change everything. Maybe it's a piece of life-changing news or a random comment that totally shifts your perspective. Recently, people on Reddit shared the sentence that altered their lives forever, and I really needed to hear some of them today. Here's what people had to say: 1."You don't have to show up to every argument you're invited to." —There_5oh "Now that's a good sentence. Especially on the internet. You don't realize how many people just wanna enrage you or troll or not even trying to engage in an actual discussion" —MemeArchivariusGodi 2."Read recently: 'Better to be cringe in someone else's mind, than a prisoner in your own.'" —Leading-Fly-4597 3."'If it happens every time, it's at least a little bit your fault.' Best boss I ever had!" —Dannydimes "I've heard it said slightly differently.'If everywhere you go, you smell shit, maybe you're the arsehole.'" —Adro87 4."'Babe, you don't want him; you want him to want you.' Said to me when I was in the middle of treacherous heartbreak. She was right!" —CeleryApprehensive83 5."Words from my therapist: 'Just because you can explain their behavior, doesn't mean you should excuse their behavior.' That's when I started making plans to leave my abusive ex." —AtavisticJackal 6."My therapist said, 'Stop comparing yourself to men you don't like.'" —reesethebadger 7."'We need to talk about your drinking.' Signed up for rehab shortly after that talk, and coming up on six years sober." —mezz7778 "My husband was an alcoholic and died at 51. I'm sooooo proud of you! Quitting is torture, and you did it!!!! Congratulations!" —FlamingoTeach 8."'Be mindful of those who come to water the soil and those who come to pick the fruit.' I was ignorant most of my life and kept company that never challenged me to grow or improve as a person, or were bad influences. After hearing this, I've been very careful about who I keep close. You also learn that although people may truly want to water the soil, some are simply unable to." —xXQuePastaXx 9."'You have stage 4b T-Cell Lymphoma.' Almost died waiting for that diagnosis. I'm 43, that was 18, every day since has been affected in some way by it. 24 years in remission." —-E-Cross "Thanks for staying with us and sharing." —positiveupt Related: 23 Cute, Happy, And Wholesome Posts I Saw On The Internet This Week That You Absolutely Need To See 10."'You're being made redundant because the company is ceasing trading.' I had been there for fourteen years. I got fourteen weeks of wages as redundancy pay, which gave me time to evaluate what I wanted to do with my life. I decided to give early years education a go, as I thought it would be something I would enjoy and be good at. Turns out, I absolutely love it." "I've been doing it for over ten years now, and there's no better job. The children love me. Some parents thought it was weird having a man in preschool, others know I'm great. Every July, I send a group of children off to primary school, knowing that I have done my best for them." —Ventongimp 11."If you don't heal what hurt you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you." —greencurtain4 12."When my psychologist said, 'You're not paranoid if you're right,' I stopped letting myself be gaslit by my then-partner." —dumbinternetstuff 13."Emotions don't need to be resolved, just felt." —newdiyscared "Feelings need to be felt, otherwise they'd be called thinkies." —CMUpewpewpew 14."'Why are you putting up with it if you wouldn't do it to yourself?' Something my therapist said to me." —wollflourwer Related: 40 Really, Really, Really, Really, Really, Really, Really, Really, Really, Really, Really, Really, Really, Really, Really, Really Creepy Wikipedia Pages 15."Your track record for making it through bad days is perfect." —epicuerean 16."If you can't say truthfully, 'I like me best when I'm with you' in a relationship, you're in the wrong relationship." —CarmenDeeJay "This is huge. Yes, it's important to like the person you're with. It's equally, if not more important, to like the version of yourself you become when you're with them." —Kathrynlena 17."If you wait until you're ready, you'll be waiting the rest of your life." —zoeywillso 18."'If being mean to yourself would do something, it would have worked already.' Read that on Reddit some time ago, and I actually stopped talking down to myself." —paprikahoernchen 19."Thank you random Tumblr stranger for saying this: 'You only think you're ugly because you aren't your type.'" —crumbopolis 20."Whether you do it or not, time will pass god damn anyway." —InternationalBody275 21."'The days are long and the years are short.' Someone told me this when I became a parent. Has helped me get perspective when the days seem too long, and also appreciate that the years will indeed fly by if you don't try to live intentionally." —Notmyrealname 22."'Closed mouths don't get fed.' I've gotten so far in my life simply by asking. Worst they can say is no 🤷🏽♂️." —playboisothea "This is it. I had never been promoted despite doing great work. Thought if I worked hard enough, my managers would advocate for me. Nope. So, I started asking for what I wanted and went from Assistant to C-Level in 5 years. Insane and NOT typical, but really cemented this in my brain as excellent advice." —youllregreddit 23."'The thing that takes off the edge also takes off the shine.' It made me slow down on my drinking to 'take off the edge' when I realized I was drinking beyond a typical, healthy amount for me." —Calm_Palms_41 24."'You put boundaries in place to protect the relationship. This means keeping people at a distance where you can still love them, and no closer.' Alleviated a lot of guilt about pushing my family away. I am able to love them still because they aren't on top of me like they used to be. Any closer and I will grow to resent them." "Also true of romantic relationships. If I can tell that someone being my romantic partner erodes the relationship between us, and reparation doesn't work, then I break up. I've found that my breakups are much less messy, and it's much easier to transition to friendship than when I dragged it out because of guilt or a sense of duty." —Practical-Ant-4600 25."'The hardest thing about being a parent is being the person you want your kids to grow up to be.' It was on the dedication page of a parenting book I started to read. I don't remember anything else from the book." —udee79 26."Don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm!!" —No_Muffin5150 "I wrote this on my mirror for a reminder and had to keep it there for over two years. I still need the reminder often." —saturatedregulated 27."'You don't have to be like your mom.' That's when I realized I had a choice and could be whoever I wanted to be." —SurlyTurtles 28."I once told a co-worker during break that I couldn't wait until Friday to be off work. It was, like, Tuesday. Her response: 'Isn't it a shame how we wish our lives away?' In that moment, my entire view of life changed. I realized that I defined every day that I worked as a bad day, instead of focusing on what I could enjoy each day. I think of that interaction often." —Just-Khaos finally, "'It only spends once.' When I had my first 'big girl job' and received a good-sized tax refund, I was rattling off all the stupid stuff I was going to buy with it. My grandmother reached over and put her hand on my arm, and said that to me. It hit me, and I've repeated it to myself a thousand times since. I think that one sentence is why I could buy a nice house at 27 and have a credit rating of 820. Thank you, Grandmother, I miss you every day." —AnitaIvanaMartini What's a sentence that's made a difference for you? Share yours in the comments or via the anonymous form below. I'll go first: my dad always says, "Don't compare your insides to other people's outsides," and man, do I need this reminder all the time. Also in Internet Finds: Lawyers Are Sharing Their Juiciest "Can You Believe It?!" Stories From The Courtroom, And They're As Surprising As You'd Expect Also in Internet Finds: 51 People Who Quickly Discovered Why Their Hilariously Clueless Partner Was Single Before Meeting Them Also in Internet Finds: People Are Sharing "The Most Believable Conspiracy Theories," And Now I'm Questioning Everything I Thought I Knew
