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Yahoo
14 hours ago
- General
- Yahoo
I moved from New York City to Texas for my husband. Now, we're divorced, and I'm full of regret and far from home.
I didn't want to move to Texas, but felt like I had little choice. Looking back, I wish I'd stuck up for myself and had more serious conversations before moving. I would have asked my now ex-husband how he envisioned our future and if we could update our prenup. I never imagined living anywhere else but New York City. It's where my grandparents met, where I went to college, got married, and gave birth to my two kids. So, when my husband suddenly wanted to move to his home city of Houston after four years of marriage, it came as a shock. He was the breadwinner of the family, so I agreed without much fuss. He said it would be temporary, but I felt nervous in my gut. Two months later, we were packed and off to Texas. Three years later, I was going through a divorce and stuck here. Looking back, there are many things I wish I'd asked and done differently before we moved. It probably wouldn't have prevented our divorce, but it could have prevented, or at least curtailed, the pain and regret I still feel five years after. I should have asked how my ex imagined our future 5 and 10 years later Perhaps, if I'd been clearer on his intentions for our future, I may have never agreed to leave New York. I never asked because I feared it could lead to a fight. During the divorce, I actually did ask him where he wanted to live long-term because I really did not know his feelings. Of course, he wanted to stay in Houston, where his family, friends, and memories were. And because our divorce was filed in Houston, that is what happened. We stayed. I was more homesick than ever during the divorce process. Houston was an unfamiliar place. I didn't know anyone here, and adjusting to divorced motherhood while getting my own apartment, car, and job felt very isolating. I should have changed our prenup before moving Another thing I should have done was to change our prenup to include a split of some assets. I had signed a terrible prenup days before our wedding, before having kids, that offered me one year of my rent paid by my ex. The agreement waived spousal support and decreed that none of the property or assets acquired during our marriage was marital property, so nothing was split, and I didn't receive a share of retirement benefits. If talking about our future would have started a fight, I was pretty anxious that discussing changes to the prenup might end the marriage right then and there, so I never brought it up, and we never updated the terms, even after having kids. I put my career on hold to raise the kids, but this meant that I didn't protect myself financially while married, and so I didn't have any savings to carry me through when everything fell apart. I had been foolish to believe there was going to be good faith and care during the divorce. If I could, I would have altered the prenup to include a portion of retirement benefits from the length of the marriage so I had more of a financial cushion to support myself afterward. I should have been more involved with our housing situation Before moving over 1,000 miles from my roots, I wish I had asked that we purchase a home, even a small one or a fixer-upper. I would have requested that the property be in both our names. As a stay-at-home mom, it would have given me some security that my well-being was considered, or, on the flip side, if he'd refused, I may have had more clarity that my well-being was not being considered. In Texas, we rented a home at first, and then moved to a small apartment, where my ex remained after the divorce, and I found a new apartment to live in. I wish I'd stood up for myself more Staying quiet, not having these important conversations, and going with the flow put me at risk. I'm still recovering, years later. My eyes well up when I think about how far my home is. The distance, time, money, and planning it takes to return to visit New York is overwhelming, though I manage it once a year or so. I can't help but think about how life would have looked if I spoke up. I wish I had those conversations before moving so far away from where I'm from, to ensure the plans involved my well-being and happiness. Living in Texas until my kids finish high school, at least, is not what I expected, but I'm trying to focus less on my displacement grief and more on making memories with my kids, no matter where we live. Read the original article on Business Insider Solve the daily Crossword
Yahoo
4 days ago
- Sport
- Yahoo
"I maintained that attitude for way too long" - Kareem Abdul-Jabbar admits he regrets not showing a friendlier personality during his basketball career
"I maintained that attitude for way too long" - Kareem Abdul-Jabbar admits he regrets not showing a friendlier personality during his basketball career originally appeared on Basketball Network. Kareem Abdul-Jabbar remained, for the most part of his Hall of Fame career, an enigma. Dominant on the court but distant off it, his stoic demeanor and deliberate detachment from the media carved out a misunderstood figure who often appeared aloof in the public eye. Now, in hindsight, he has voiced what many long suspected: that he regrets the emotional wall he built during his time in the league. Lessons that lingered too long Before Abdul-Jabbar became a name in NBA legendary history, he was Lew Alcindor, the towering centerpiece of John Wooden's dynastic UCLA Bruins. Under Wooden, the team was molded into champions with a discipline that emphasized humility, structure and media silence. Wooden discouraged his players from seeking attention and actively coached them to avoid it. The message was clear, the press was a distraction, a nuisance and not to be trusted. This mindset, built into the team culture at UCLA, stuck with Abdul-Jabbar far beyond his college years. As he transitioned into the NBA, that suspicion hardened into routine. "It made me suspicious and cautious with the media, and I maintained that attitude for way too long," Abdul-Jabbar said, acknowledging the ripple effect it had on his public persona. "Those are people you deal with when you are a professional athlete and if you don't do it, then it's bad for you, it's bad for your spot." Few athletes have achieved what Abdul-Jabbar accomplished in terms of accolades and influence. Six championships, six MVP awards and the all-time leading scorer title for nearly four decades speak to a career of unmatched consistency and cerebral dominance. Yet while his statistics soared, his public image often stood in stark contrast to his brilliance. It wasn't that he didn't have something to say — he was always one of the game's most thoughtful minds — but that he rarely offered access to the media or fans. That wall wasn't entirely of his own design. His initial wariness wasn't unfounded. As a young Black Muslim athlete in a tumultuous era marked by civil rights clashes, political assassinations and cultural upheaval, Abdul-Jabbar bore a unique weight. Changing his name shortly after joining the Milwaukee Bucks in 1969 invited skepticism and criticism from press outlets unfamiliar or uncomfortable with his transformation. His refusal to participate in the 1968 Olympics due to racial injustice only cemented his position as an athlete willing to stand on principle, even if it meant standing alone. That principled solitude, however, came at a price. He often seemed remote to fans and uncooperative to journalists, which shaped a narrative that stuck for legacy outgrew the silence Despite the cold veneer, Abdul-Jabbar never stopped growing. As his playing days wound down and retirement ushered in a slower pace, he began to reveal more of himself. Essays, books, social commentary and speaking engagements brought forth the intelligence and compassion that had long been obscured by caution and restraint. Still, the regret lingered over the cost of staying guarded for so long. The cultural shift around athletes and media relationships has made his reflections even more poignant. In today's NBA, players are expected to manage their own brands, embrace social media and speak out on issues beyond basketball. Abdul-Jabbar helped blaze that trail, but he now sees how his approach may have limited connection when connection mattered most. In recent years, he's been more open, humorous and visible. He's appeared in documentaries, spoken out on political issues with clarity and calm, and even found a late-career rhythm as a writer — you can check out his Substack too! — and social critic. The distance that once defined him now feels bridged by his willingness to revisit the past with story was originally reported by Basketball Network on Jul 24, 2025, where it first appeared.
Daily Mail
4 days ago
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Anthony Anderson admits 'regret' over his VERY inappropriate comment to Lindsay Lohan when she was just 17
Anthony Anderson has admitted he 'regrets' an inappropriate comment he made to a teenage Lindsay Lohan in a resurfaced 2003 interview that has recently gone viral. The Black-ish star, 54, had been filling in on The Sharon Osbourne Show while joined by a then 17-year-old Lohan as she promoted her new movie Freaky Friday. Anderson - who had been 33 at the time - talked to Lohan as she opened up about moving in with close friend Raven-Symoné. She explained, 'I don't have a boyfriend,' which prompted Anthony to exclaim, 'She's single, but looking!' The Disney channel star emphasized, 'I'm illegal for people that are old,' with the guest host telling her, 'Some men like them young. We ain't gonna mention no names, but I'm one of them.' A spokesperson for Anderson told Entertainment Weekly in an article published on Friday: 'This interview was clearly intended as comedy. 'He regrets if the humor was in poor taste and maintains the utmost respect for Lindsay. Any implication to the contrary is both inaccurate and potentially defamatory.' has reached out to Anderson's reps for comment. Anthony Anderson has admitted he 'regrets' an inappropriate comment he made to a teenage Lindsay Lohan in a resurfaced 2003 interview that has recently gone viral The conversation began when he had told Lohan, 'Both of you are beautiful women. 'Both of you are young and have your individual styles. What gentlemen will be at the new pad with you and Raven-Symoné?' Also during the past interview, Anderson was preparing to go to a commercial break and before doing so, he mentioned Lohan's movie Freaky Friday. 'Right now, we're about to get our freak on,' the actor said and then moved closer towards the actress on the couch. The Law & Order star then put his arms around Lohan who placed her hands over her mouth. The 2003 interview has recently gone viral on social media as the actress is in the midst of promoting the upcoming sequel Freakier Friday. Some over on X offered their thoughts on the resurfaced clip, with one penning, 'It just kept getting worse... and worse...' Another added, 'This is shocking. Has anyone ever seen footage of him actually being funny btw?' and one social media user shared, 'She even said "I'm illegal" lol.' Another added, 'This is shocking. Has anyone ever seen footage of him actually being funny btw?' and one social media user shared, 'She even said "I'm illegal" lol' 'He actually said that out loud,' one said, while another commented, 'Nothing wrong with liking young WOMEN 18+ she was 17.' Others came to Anderson's defense as a fan shared, 'Calm down. It was cringe joke,' and one typed, 'It was extremely tacky but to me that's it.' Back in 2018, it was revealed that the actor was reportedly under a criminal probe by the LAPD when a female caterer accused him of assault. Anderson denied the allegations when they came to light that same year and a spokesperson for the comedian told The Blast, 'It's unfortunate that anyone can file a police report whether it is true or false. 'The authorities have not contacted Anthony or any of his representatives about this matter. Anthony unequivocally disputes the claim.' However, only a couple of months after the complaint had been filed, the L.A. District Attorney's Office opted to not press charges against Anderson due to lack of evidence. Nearly 20 years earlier in 2004, a 25-year-old female extra had accused Anderson as well as an assistant director of raping her on the set of the film Hustle & Flow. However later that year, the charges were dropped due to the judge finding that there was no probable cause to try the case. Another woman came forward in 2004 and accused Anderson of sexual assault which she had claimed occurred on set of All About The Andersons. The comedian was previously married to Alvina Stewart - whom he tied the knot with in 1999 and also shares two children with. Stewart initially filed for divorce back in 2015 but the pair reconciled two years later. But in 2022, she filed for divorce for the second time. After the former couple reached a settlement, it was revealed back in 2023 that Anthony was ordered to pay his ex $20,000 per month in spousal support. Lohan has yet to respond to the viral 2003 interview as she has been busy doing press for her upcoming movie Freakier Friday. On Thursday, the actress was joined by her fellow co-star Jamie Lee Curtis at the premiere of the film in Mexico City. And earlier this week, Lindsay looked incredibly youthful as she made an appearance at the star-studded screening in Hollywood on Monday. The project is a sequel to the 2003 Disney movie Freaky Friday. Lohan has yet to respond to the viral 2003 interview as she has been busy doing press for her upcoming movie Freakier Friday; seen with co-star Jamie Lee Curtis on Thursday in Mexico City Lohan has reprised her role as Anna Coleman in the upcoming film, alongside Jamie Lee Curtis, Chad Michael Murray, Maitreyi Ramakrishnan, Julia Butters and Ryan Malgarini. The premise is: '22 years after Tess and Anna endured an identity crisis, Anna now has a daughter and a soon-to-be stepdaughter. 'As they navigate the challenges that come when two families merge, Tess and Anna discover that lightning might strike twice,' per IMDB. The fantasy comedy film, which was directed by Nisha Ganatra, is set to hit theaters next month on August 8.
The Sun
21-07-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Trinny Woodall opens up about ex-husband's suicide and says there's ‘nothing I could have done'
TELLY fashion guru Trinny Woodall has said there is 'nothing I could have done' to stop her ex-husband's suicide. Trinny, 61, co-host with Susannah Constantine of BBC show What Not To Wear, lost Johnny Elichaoff, 55, in 2014 — five years after they split. 3 He jumped 50ft to his death after taking a 'potentially fatal' amount of painkiller. Trinny said: "I think going back to earlier, it's that would've, should've, could've - so do I regret that I didn't do more for my ex-husband to stop him killing himself? "No, because it was nothing I could have done. "To ponder on the regret of somebody who kills himself, it can take you into the darkest hole. 'But you can also know when somebody who is in that situation switches off, and that is their path and nobody can get in. 'I had to learn.' Mum Trinny also told Fearne Cotton's Happy Place that she also had no regrets about taking drugs for a decade. "I actually don't. "Because it gave me such a depth of having to deal with life at an early age. "Some testing things that it rounded me up more as a person. Trinny Woodall: The Evolution of a Beauty Icon 'When I got into my 30s, I had a lot of experience to draw on to be resilient. "So thereby I don't regret that it happened and I should draw upon it.' 3 You're Not Alone EVERY 90 minutes in the UK a life is lost to suicide It doesn't discriminate, touching the lives of people in every corner of society – from the homeless and unemployed to builders and doctors, reality stars and footballers. It's the biggest killer of people under the age of 35, more deadly than cancer and car crashes. And men are three times more likely to take their own life than women. Yet it's rarely spoken of, a taboo that threatens to continue its deadly rampage unless we all stop and take notice, now. That is why The Sun launched the You're Not Alone campaign. The aim is that by sharing practical advice, raising awareness and breaking down the barriers people face when talking about their mental health, we can all do our bit to help save lives. Let's all vow to ask for help when we need it, and listen out for others… You're Not Alone. If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health problems, the following organisations provide support: CALM, 0800 585 858 Heads Together, HUMEN Mind, 0300 123 3393 Papyrus, 0800 068 41 41 Samaritans, 116 123
The Guardian
16-07-2025
- Entertainment
- The Guardian
Tell us: do you have a music tattoo that you regret?
Do you have a music tattoo that you regret? We'd like to hear about the music-themed ink that you've fallen out of love with – whether it's an artist's name or portrait, a lyric or a logo. Was it a band who changed the direction of their music? An artist who started spouting opinions or misbehaved in a way you didn't agree with? Or was it a teenage favourite you grew out of? Tell us all about it below. You can tell us about a music tattoo you regret using this form. Please include as much detail as possible. Please note, the maximum file size is 5.7 MB. Your contact details are helpful so we can contact you for more information. They will only be seen by the Guardian. Your contact details are helpful so we can contact you for more information. They will only be seen by the Guardian. If you include other people's names please ask them first.
