22-05-2025
People Are Revealing The Shocking "Secrets" They're Keeping From Their Partners And Will Never Admit
A while ago, Redditor @EvilSugarDealer asked, "What's a secret that you're never going to tell your partner?" This inspired us to ask the BuzzFeed Community to reveal major relationship secrets of their own. So here are just 21 "revelations" that stood out from Redditors and BuzzFeeders alike:
The responses have been edited for length and clarity.
1."My boyfriend is Spanish, and he refers to our sprinklers in the yard as 'sprinkles'. Whenever he loses something, he says he 'cannot found it'. I just can't correct him. It's too damn adorable."
—sos_poseidon
2."My biggest secret is that I cheated on my first husband. It was only once, and the guilt nearly killed me. It was 40 years ago, and I never did it again. Ever."
—Anonymous, 65; Mesa, AZ
3."I randomly woke up in the middle of the night and started checking my phone. My beautiful girlfriend was knocked out, mouth open, and moistening her pillow. All of sudden, she let out a loud ass fart that scared the s**t out of me. I mean, felt the furious wind because her ass was curled up so nicely against my thigh. I jumped out of the bed and rolled to the floor in fear for my safety. I was so confused by the humongous boom and the shotgun blast of wind that came from her delightful and cute bum. I was blown, but I still love her. As much as she complained about my silent farts, I never mentioned that night to her. I'm still confused that so much power came from such a dainty woman."
—Anonymous, 45; Washington DC
4."That I still love my ex and would go back to him in a heartbeat."
—Anonymous, 47; Canada
5."Before my wife and I were married, I saw her using my foot file as a cheese grater. I didn't say anything about it then, and I don't plan to ever say anything about that. Neither one of us got sick from dinner that night. I threw the foot file away the next morning."
—Anonymous, 34; South Carolina
6."I am strongly anti-military and always prefer peaceful solutions to military ones. My partner enlisted in the National Guard when we were in high school, and I will never tell him how much I disagree with his career choice. His pay and benefits are decent, but I still don't like that he gets them from participating in the military."
—Anonymous
7."My wife got cancer some years ago. She completely blacked out what the oncologist told her. He told me she only had a 30% chance of chemo working. And, if it did, the cancer would definitely return within five years and be untreatable. I jollied her along, telling her convincingly that the cancer was totally treatable and the chemo would work. It did. Afterwards, I told her about the 30% chance, and she was so grateful I'd taken the burden to save her any stress. I've never told her about the five-year thing, and it's been 15 years of a stress-free life for her so far."
—Anonymous, 60; Arizona
8."She insists she can't sing, but I've heard her sing quietly to herself. She sounds lovely. But I don't want her to know that I know her singing secret!"
—Anonymous
9."I wish my girlfriend hadn't gotten her husky. I have asthma, and my allergies are really bad. I'm very sensitive to pet hair. It gives me anxiety for some reason. But besides that, we live in a very small place. She has been telling me for years that this was her dream dog. The exact dog she's always talked about, and one happened to land in our care due to unfortunate circumstances. I couldn't say no. I can't say no to any of the animals she wants because I just love more than anything when she's happy."
—Electrical-Horse-974
10."When I connected with my wife on AIM after we met in person, I thought it was her sister (who at the time I thought was objectively more attractive). We talked on the phone and on AIM for almost a month before I saw her again in person. But by then, I was pretty much head over heels."
—Specific-Gain5710
11."That I spend the last dollar in my bank account and overdraft quite often for us to eat or for flowers for her. I know it's dumb, but I don't wanna not treat her well and wait for myself to be able to afford it. I want her to enjoy life and not feel bad. Money will come later once I get this firefighting job finally squared away in the next few weeks. It's been about 8 months of hell getting it, and I'm almost there. But I love her so much and want her to enjoy every moment together without any guilt or using her own money."
—bmw320i2015
12."We are not at all sexually compatible. I'm kinky, and she is not. I can tell that she ONLY does certain things because she knows I like them. She thinks this makes her a good partner. For me, it kills the excitement that I have for the acts. Just once, I'd like to feel like she's into me or interested in exploring pleasure a shade beyond vanilla."
—Anonymous, 35; Albany, NY
13."How rough my life really was. Her dad had it rough, and he and I have opened up to each other. But neither his wife nor mine could comprehend to any real level the crap we went through."
—TotallyNotKenorb
14."She's my second choice. It's been 28 years, and I've never gotten over the one who got away."
—CptDawg
15."Partner hates microwaved food. I tell him I did it on the stove when really I zapped it for 45 seconds."
—Almondeyezz
16."I once used his toothbrush to clean around the sink and accidentally left it out to find him using it. I had bought him a new one that was sitting downstairs. I didn't have the heart to tell him and promptly threw the old one away. Safe to say I didn't kiss him for a few days afterwards."
—BarbieMindi
17."I still have the stuffed animal I said I lost years ago. It's hidden in a drawer because it's too embarrassing to admit I can't sleep without it sometimes."
—knowledgepower1192
18."She needed a win for the night because of her stressful job. I kept boasting how good I was playing Unstable Unicorns, so she decided to play me one-on-one. We played four rounds, and I let her win the first two and last rounds. I was holding back my best cards because she really enjoyed watching me put on an annoyed face every time she won. I love her to bits!"
—Ok_Fruit_2600
19."One night, we heard a rattle and a clatter coming from the kitchen. I had placed a couple of sticky no-pest strips under the oven and refrigerator. I got up before she did in the morning and checked both. There was a baby rattlesnake stuck on one of the strips under the refrigerator. If I had told her what I found, I would've been packing that afternoon."
—Sad-Variety-6501
20."Before we started dating, I asked his cousin to hang out. He agreed but never would set a date. It didn't happen. It's not a secret. It just never came up. It literally was nothing...I just know he doesn't particularly like this cousin. 🤣"
—nessa_from_ns
"He is doing better in his career than I am in mine, and that stings when it shouldn't. I know we are a team. But since we're not married and we both don't have kids, I worry he can get in a position that pays well and leave me for someone better."
—Swirl_612
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