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Yahoo
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TURN-ON TIPS: Avoid these foreplay fails that lead to bad sex
Sex doesn't always have to be about the act of sex. The fun time leading up to it can be just as good, sometimes great, and maybe even better — if you know what you're doing and what to expect. That said, if foreplay isn't your forte, there are ways to fix that. Alexa Johnston, a sex and relationship expert at Just, Australia's online adult toy store, let us know how to turn around some of the biggest flops in the bedroom so it's more about getting it on than getting it wrong. Great sex starts long before anyone gets naked. 'Sexual desire isn't just physical — it's mental and emotional too,' Johnston said. 'If there's no build-up with things like flirty messages, affectionate touches, or even a sense of connection, your body might not get the memo that it's go time.' If foreplay feels like something you tick off a checklist, then that's not allowing sufficient arousal time, Johnston said. 'Rushing straight to intercourse means the body doesn't get the chance to respond fully, which can significantly reduce the chances of orgasm.' Verbal and non-verbal gaffes can cause a partner to fumble, leading to missed opportunities for the kind of stimulation that can lead to that mind-blowing feeling. 'Everyone has different turn-ons, and those preferences can change,' Johnston explained. 'Assuming you just know what your partner likes is a risky game.' While some people are into the AI thing, not everyone wants to romp with a robot. 'Doing the exact same moves every time can make foreplay feel like a routine rather than something exciting,' Johnston said. 'The lack of variety can lead to boredom, and boredom is the enemy of arousal.' No, orgasms are not what most people love about sex, study finds SEX FILES: Why cooking together might be the ultimate relationship hack SEX FILES: Out of sync in the bedroom? You might be experiencing desire discrepancy The G-spot isn't the only spot, so don't forget those overlooked areas, Johnston advised. We're looking at you, neck, inner thighs, lower back and, yes, even the scalp. While some people need that slow, sensual build-up, others thrive on faster, more intense stimulation, so it's a matter of coming together in a way that works for all. 'Finding the right rhythm together is key. If one partner rushes while the other needs more time (or vice versa), it can lead to frustration and missed orgasms,' Johnston detailed. The good news is that all these missteps are fixable, she assures. 'Building mental and emotional arousal with flirtation and affection creates anticipation and amplifies desire,' Johnston said. 'Taking the time to slow down and immerse yourselves in foreplay means your bodies will be fully prepared for pleasure rather than simply rushing straight to intercourse.'
Daily Mail
27-05-2025
- Entertainment
- Daily Mail
Virgin Island contestant told to leave after shock comment to sex expert during intimacy session
A contestant on Channel 4 's Virgin Island had his session with a sex expert come to an abrupt end after making a shock comment on Monday's episode. Zac, 28, has been raising eyebrows throughout the process and made it clear to his ' surrogate partner', Kat, that he was ready to have sex. The Channel 4 show sees 12 virgins, aged between 22 and 30, get expert coaching from therapists and intimacy experts in a bid to have sexual relationships. During the penultimate episode of the series, viewers saw virgin Zac say: 'I want to move forward… I want to touch you and be touched by you.' However, Kat, the show's female surrogate partner, was keen to stick to the session's designated aim, touch, and told him so. Zac stressed: 'I came in here confident and excited, and I don't know if you're as used to that in this line of work and I don't know if you find that intimidating.' From A-list scandals and red carpet mishaps to exclusive pictures and viral moments, subscribe to the Daily Mail's new Showbiz newsletter to stay in the loop. After his attempt to take things further, the therapist immediately ended the task and told him to get dressed and leave the session. While the contestants on the show do have the opportunity to have sex, they can only do so when they are deemed ready. Viewers watching at home were shocked by the interraction with one posting on X, formerly known as Twitter: 'Zac needs a lesson on boundaries and the fact that sex isn't guaranteed- def needs talks about rejection.' A second said: 'I think the therapist wants Zac to leave the course.' A year on from filming, Zac, a delivery driver, told The Sun that while the experience helped him become to become more confident, it has not improved his ability with physical intimacy. He said: 'The bulk of the practical and physical skills that were explored have eluded me. 'Being able to express my thoughts and feelings is a work in progress.' The therapists on the show have since defended their work to MailOnline after it drew widespread controversy online and explained that the show gives viewers a realistic idea of what intimacy is. During the show, all of the 12 virgins achieve a level of intimacy with either a surrogate or a coach during the course, but only one of the virgins actually goes all the way with a surrogate partner. Sexologist Celeste Hirschman describes the relationship between the client and surrogate as 'authentic' and shared how the dynamic can reflect what would happen in a 'real relationships', including the possibility of 'performance problems' from either the surrogate or client. Celeste continued: 'It is really an authentic relationship. So one thing that can happen in a relationship is that someone has performance problems, and so they would just communicate about it and say, oh, you know, something's not working here. Let's take a break. Let's try again.' The sexologist added: 'That authenticity is what actually prepares people to have real relationships out in the world. 'So it's not just like trying to force something and a lot of times surrogates do work with people who have pretty significant dysfunctions, and so they need to work with those kinds of things, both in their clients and if it comes up in themselves as well.' There's a 'triadic relationship' between the client, surrogate and a separate therapist to help tackle issues, including if the client develops feelings. Virgin Island concludes on Tuesday at 10pm on Channel 4 VIRGIN ISLAND: MEET THE CAST! NAME: EMMA Emma said: 'I was the only virgin amongst my friendship group, I felt outnumbered. 'I believed I was the only human experiencing adult life without intimacy but I couldn't relax when there is the possibility of intimacy and I had to battle previous traumas. 'The fact that this concept was being brought to TV made me realise being over 21 and never having sex was not as rare as I thought it was.' NAME: BEN AGED: 30 Ben said: 'A friend sent me the casting call for Virgin Island on social media. I'm not sure if he knew I was a virgin, but he knew I'd struggled in this area. 'Funnily enough, my immediate response to his message was 'not a chance'.' NAME: DAVE AGE: 24 Dave said: 'An initial joke by some friends for some cheap laughs slowly became the opportunity of a lifetime. 'I have always struggled to open up to people but this led me to feel invisible - a feeling I couldn't take anymore. 'I felt like it couldn't continue and I wanted to do something drastic to get my life back on track. NAME: JASON AGE: 25 OCCUPATION: ADMIN WORKER Jason said: 'I always felt like a failure in terms of intimacy and socialness. 'I know the island was primarily for intimacy, but it had the amazing bonus of helping me improve my social skills – and for that, I will be forever grateful.' NAME: LOUISE AGE: 22 OCCUPATION: CARE ADVISOR Louise said: 'I never really imagined applying for a show like Virgin Island but my friend sent me the application as a joke, and I thought, 'Why not?' 'I was at the point where I was willing to try anything. 'I had just accepted that there must've just been something wrong with me - I think the fact that my friends would see the word 'virgin' and think of me says enough to be honest.' NAME: CHARLOTTE AGE: 29 Charlotte said: 'Because I wanted to rid myself of my shame that I had surrounding my body, and my desire, and my ability to give myself pleasure. 'I wanted to be honest with myself so that I would not be hindered when having relationships in the future.' NAME: HOLLY AGE: 23 OCCUPATION: DOG GROOMER She said: 'I felt like I was at a point in my life where I was ready to experience being with someone, but I had a lot of anxiety and questions about myself that I felt I had to work through before taking that step. 'I was definitely nervous, not knowing what to expect, what the others were going to be like, whether I was actually going to get anything out of it.' NAME: PIA AGE: 23 Pia said: 'I applied for Virgin Island because of my struggles with vaginismus. 'I wanted to overcome the pain and anxiety I felt when exploring penetrative sex. 'Plus, I found intimacy incredibly overwhelming.' NAME: TAYLOR AGE: 29 Taylor said: 'I spent my whole adult life wondering why I found sexual things so difficult when others didn't. 'When I was a teenager, the risks of sex seemed to far outweigh the benefits, the only benefit anyone spoke of was babies, and I certainly wasn't ready for one of those. NAME: TOM AGE: 23 Tom said: 'I always found myself to be a freak because I struggled to lose my virginity whilst others around me continued to pop their cherries. 'It severely affected my mental health, filling me with self-loathing which in turn made me a worse person.' NAME: VIRAJ AGE: 25 OCCUPATION: PERSONAL TRAINER Viraj said: 'I had a massive struggle to express myself in front of women. 'For me it wasn't about the intimacy stage but more with the confidence side of talking to women and making small talk. 'This whole idea was encouraged by my friends for me to get out of my comfort zone and go through with this.' NAME: Zac AGE: 23 Zac said: 'There was a man reporting that Channel 4 was looking for adult virgins to take part in an experimental TV show. This was of course describing me. 'At first I was like - no way, I'm not gonna do that, but I started to think about it more and more, and I realised that I wasn't really getting anywhere by myself, time was just passing me by with no real positive change.'
The Sun
13-05-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Virgin Island viewers outraged over ‘uncomfortable' moment with sex expert as they brand show ‘creepy'
VIRGIN Island viewers have been left outraged over an 'uncomfortable' moment on the show with a sex expert, with some branding it 'creepy.' Channel 4's Virgin Island has landed on screens, and has viewers hooked. 6 6 6 6 Although the series features some racy, nude and steamy moments, it also delves deep into the heart-warming stories from the 12 virgins opening up on camera for the first time. And in new scenes, the 12 stars of Virgin Island have been learning new skills. But one scene left viewers very uncomfortable, over the 'heavy breathing' that was happening during it. Tom was invited up to 'demo' with sexologists Celeste Hirschman. He has no hesitation in getting up to join Celeste and they end up getting on their hands and knees to 'feel their senses' and 'let their animal go over the other person.' Celeste and Tom are seen moving about together on the ground, as she let out moans in the process. The voiceover could then be heard saying: 'Tom might be finding his wild side, but for the rest of the group, it's too much to bear.' After watching the 'uncomfortable' scene between the sexologist and Virgin Island participant, one person on X questioned: 'Why is she breathing like that??' A second said: 'I am turning off if this breathing continues.' Watch the shocking moment Virgin Island stars practise 'self-pleasure touching' with sex experts in awkward scenes Someone else echoed: 'Those noises are actually annoying and not sexual.' And a third penned: 'Oh my god CHARLOTTE the noises make it so much worse.' Another X user said: 'All that fake groaning is so off-putting.' 'I could not do this with any of the experts and im no virgin especially with the fake moaning,' said someone else. After the second episode of the show aired on Channel 4, some have complained about its 'creepy' nature. One person said on social media: 'Just watched the first episode of #VirginIsland and I'm finding it quite creepy and disturbing, don't think I'll watch any more.' While others have called the show a 'difficult watch.' 6 6
