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The Sun
20-07-2025
- General
- The Sun
I'm pregnant after affair with wealthy man but he won't take any responsibility… should I contact his mum?
DEAR DEIDRE: A PASSIONATE but short-lived affair with a wealthy man has ended with me now expecting his baby. I am a 30-year-old single mum. I've been divorced for two years and have two beautiful daughters, aged seven and five. One night I was lonely at home after they had gone to bed and I set myself up on a dating app. It was quite encouraging to see the responses I got and it wasn't long before I had arranged to meet up with a guy. He was 37, single and very, very good-looking. He told me he was a financial adviser and he was clearly pretty well-off. We went to a bar for a few drinks and afterwards I went back to his penthouse flat. We used condoms but one night I noticed the condom was torn. Still, I thought it was safe and put any worries out of my head — until I missed my period. I was pregnant. When I messaged him, he told me he wanted nothing to do with the baby or me. I was so shocked at his tone and messaged back to tell him I'd booked a termination. Predictably he replied, telling me it was the right decision and to get rid. But before my appointment, my maternal instincts kicked in and I couldn't go ahead with an abortion. I told him I'd had a change of heart and cancelled the appointment. Since then I have sent him updates of my pregnancy including photos of ultrasound scans. It hasn't made any difference. He is adamant he doesn't want to be a father or take any responsibility. He is from a wealthy background and I am certain he hasn't told anyone about this. He is still on the dating app and acting as though nothing has happened. I know I can cope on my own and my daughters are excited at having another sibling. I am wondering whether I should contact his mum and tell her she is going to be a grandmother. Why should she miss out? Is this a good idea? He can't abandon you either. He has a legal obligation to pay towards his child's upkeep even if he doesn't want to be involved in their life. HE WANTS ME AS I'M A VIRGIN DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER a perfect first date with a lovely guy, he has told me he only wants a casual, physical thing. I am not sure if this is such a bad idea. I am 18 and he is 20. We met through a mutual friend a couple of weeks ago. I was so excited when he asked me out on a date. We ended up going for a drink in town before heading off into our local park for an impromptu picnic. It was so romantic and I thought it was the beginning of something really special. We talked about anything and everything and had loads of things in common. Then he told me that he wasn't looking for a girlfriend. He just wants someone to hook up with occasionally and keep things casual. I am still a virgin. He said that because of that he likes me even more. He has promised to look after me and make our first time special but is it a good idea? DEIDRE SAYS: This guy is investing nothing in you emotionally. He doesn't want a girlfriend, he just wants sex and to be your first. He has also made that pretty plain. You owe him nothing, so only have sex when you are ready and when you are with the right guy. You could be setting yourself up to get very hurt and feeling used. Tell him being so casual just isn't your scene. My support pack Learning About Relationships explains more. SO REGRET FINISHING WITH HER DEAR DEIDRE: SPLITTING up with my girlfriend was the worst decision I ever made. I realised that I'd made a big mistake when she spotted me at a beer festival in town. I am 34 and she is 33. We split up just over a year ago after being together for three years. We just seemed to be drifting apart and things were stale – or so I thought at the time. It was my decision to end our relationship, and I know she was heartbroken when I told her how I felt. We have been able to stay friends and I see her out and about. She has a new guy now. She seems really happy with him whereas I have not been able to move on. She told me they have plans to go to New Zealand next year. It is a place I have also wanted to visit for many years. I know I made a terrible mistake in letting her go. DEIDRE SAYS: Please don't beat yourself up over this. You made a decision that felt right at the time. The chances are if you and she got back together you would soon feel the same way all over again. She has put you behind her and you have to get on with your life. My support pack Moving On will help you to do this. Start planning your own holiday now. It will give you something to look forward to. There are lots of single traveller websites if you don't want to travel alone. SPITEFUL EXES KEEPING KIDS AWAY FROM ME DEAR DEIDRE: MY daughter's mother says I can only see our girl for a few hours in the morning on my birthday, rather than having her stay with me overnight as originally planned. It means she will miss out on seeing my parents too as they were going to arrive in time for a celebration dinner. I'm 37 and my daughter's ten. I know my ex is doing it to punish me because I can't pay her this month. I also have a son by a different woman. He is almost 13 but I barely see him at all. His mother has virtually alienated him against me so all I get is an occasional text and a visit once in a blue moon. I am doing my best to provide for both of my kids, but I have recently changed jobs and won't get my first wages for another week, which is why I can't pay my daughter's mum her monthly maintenance until later. I know she will have twisted it and told my little girl that I don't care about her. It is all lies but this is what she is like, as we had a bad break-up. I'm in a bad way. I feel like everyone's against me. Sometimes I think it would just be the easier option for everyone if I ended it all. DEIDRE SAYS: This is heartbreaking for you and your children too. It is cruel of your exes to deny you contact. I wonder whether you gave your daughter's mum the heads-up that your money would be late this month. Tell her the cash will be coming soon. If she won't speak to you, is there someone such as a friend or relative who can mediate between you? If not, mediation could really help ( For more advice check out Both Parents Matter ( 0300 300 363). If you continue to feel down, call the Samaritans ( 116 123) and please do see your GP too.
The Sun
02-07-2025
- Entertainment
- The Sun
I know I'm hot but I wasn't prepared for the legion of thirsty women after I posted a torso shot on Facebook Marketplace
A MAN trying to flog a kids' white desk on Facebook Marketplace was stunned when he became the thing people wanted to buy. Daz Gracie had a legion of thirsty women swooning over him when he posted the image of the desk on the site, along with his ripped six-pack. 3 3 3 The single man posted photos of the pink and white children's desk on a Facebook Freecycle page in a bid to free up space and inadvertently captured his toned tum in one of the mirrors. The 37-year-old says he didn't plan for his abs to make a guest appearance in the mirrored lid but when he realised, posted it anyway. The loft insulation installer said 'within 20 seconds' the desk had been claimed and his phone 'went wild' with messages from women desperate to claim him and leave the desk. The viral post, which racked up almost 4,000 likes, shares and comments, left Daz 'laughing his head off' and claiming that Facebook ads might be the future of dating. Daz, from Barnsley, South Yorkshire, said: "My mum's recently moved and whoever lived in the house before had left that desk. "I'd gone to hers on Sunday morning and put an Ikea desk together for her and she asked 'will you bang it [the kid's desk] on Facebook?'. "I took some pictures, then I noticed my torso was in it. Don't get me wrong I love a topless selfie but I could get a lot better one than that. "All the lads were like 'Daz I know what you're like' but honestly if I was meant to be in it I would have put my face in it as well. "I took it and was like 'I'm posting it anyway' and then all of a sudden my phone was just going wild. I was laughing my head off at some of the comments. "Someone said 'I'm not interested in the desk but I'd definitely take the man', I was like 'oh my God, here we go'. I'm a savvy mum & give my kids £10 charity shop shoes for Christmas but have a way to make them look like new £70 pair "I had people messaging me from Canada and America too, it went worldwide and it's still going. "The desk went in about 20 seconds, a woman from over the road took it." Single Daz admits that despite being a 'good-looking chap' the situation has been 'good for the ego'. Daz said: "I'm not on the dating apps. I think I'm a good-looking chap anyway, I get plenty of messages. "I've only been single about seven months and I was with my partner for a while. "Having a lot of thirsty women after me on Facebook is definitely good for the ego. "I'm not tempted to take any of them up on the offer just yet, I'm going on holiday so I'll see what happens after. "My advice to any single blokes struggling to get messages on dating apps - get a picture on 'items for sale' and see what happens. Your luck could change." Top tips when buying on Facebook Marketplace Be scammer-aware As a general rule of thumb, deal locally, and face-to-face. If someone asks you to ship an item, be wary. Only use secure methods of payment, look at buyer and seller reviews, and inspect an item closely before purchasing it. Stick to Messenger to communicate as well. Choose wealthy areas to get high-end items at low prices A well-to-do person who is selling something on Marketplace probably doesn't know or doesn't care what their item is worth. This is a jackpot scenario for a buyer. Don't be afraid to haggle If an item has been listed for weeks, offer 25% below the list price. It's likely the seller will counter offer, but you'll still get the item for less than originally priced. Don't send the auto-filled 'Is this item still available?' message If you notice an item is well-priced and desirable, and you really like it, don't wait around. Send a friendly opening message with an offer, and make the transaction hassle-free for the seller. Keep search items as broad as possible Assume the seller doesn't know exactly what they have, where it's from, what the material is, what the design style is, or how much it's worth—and cast a wide net. Daz's Facebook post reads: "Child's desk free to collect near Barnsley town centre. Thank you." One woman wrote: "Can I be considered, please, but not for the desk? X" Another commented: "Is the man still available with delivery. Erm I mean the item."
The Sun
24-05-2025
- General
- The Sun
I'm confused by frisky widow twice my age – the sex is great but could a relationship work?
DEAR DEIDRE: ONE of my painting and decorating customers has made it clear that she wants more than my handyman skills. I'm a single man aged 24 and this is a sticky situation. A few months ago, I was asked to go round and quote for painting a huge, five-bedroom house. I expected to meet a family, but it was just a middle-aged woman living alone. Over coffee, she told me her husband had died a few years ago. She is 47 but has a great body, which was easy to see through her skin-tight gym gear. I accepted the job and got started. She was at home every day and kindly bringing me tea and biscuits every few hours. Then her flirting began to ramp up. One day my radio was playing a Spice Girls song, and she came into the room and started doing a provocative dance. I nearly fell off my ladder. That night as I was leaving, she opened a bottle of wine and asked me to share it. Over a glass, she told me she had been lonely in the house by herself, and enjoyed my company. Dear Deidre After Dark- Understanding open relationships As she said this, she put her hand on my leg, making her intentions very clear. We ended up on my dust sheet, having fast, passionate sex. She was exciting and adventurous and taught me more than a few new moves. I was back the following week finishing the house, and she clearly wanted a replay. But I'm unsure what to do. I really like her — she's just my type, sexy and passionate, and seems genuinely kind. But there's a 23-year age gap, Could this relationship work, or is she just using me to fix her loneliness? DEIDRE SAYS: Relationships with an age gap can work out well, as long as you want the same things and share a similar outlook. There is no reason why an older woman and a younger man couldn't enjoy a fun, passionate fling. But difficulties could arise later down the line, if you decided you wanted a family. Women over 45 can have children, but it can be more difficult and has a higher risk of complications. I suggest you read my support pack Age-Gap Concerns. It will give you more information on the possible problems you might face together. The sensible thing to do would be to discuss all of this with her – over a cuppa, not a Cabernet – and find out what she's looking for. And then be honest (with yourself, and her) about whether that is going to work for you. TERRIFIED BY MY ADDICT SON'S RAGES DEAR DEIDRE: I AM frightened of my teenage son. His drug addiction makes him have wild, violent rages and an explosive temper. He has wrecked his bedroom several times, kicked over my TV and even smashed the windscreen of my car. He's 19. I don't blame him. I think it's my fault he turned out this way. His father and I met when I was just 18. I got pregnant quickly. Although I tried to make a go of things as a family, my ex was rough and had a bad temper so I eventually fled with my son. From then on, I gave my son everything I could, and stopped dating to focus on him. When he was 14, he made some bad friends at school and began taking drugs. He's been addicted ever since. When he's not using, he loses control of his temper. He shouts and swears at me. He has even threatened my old, unwell mum. It's all so loud that I'm terrified the neighbours must hear what's going on. In these rages, he screams at me that I messed up his life by leaving his father. When he's calm, he's the most kind, loving person you will ever meet. But his rages are frightening. How do I deal with the awful situation I put him in? DEIDRE SAYS: None of this is your fault. Your ex was a violent, dangerous man – you had no choice but to leave. Since then, you have given your son everything you could, even putting your romantic life on hold so you could concentrate on raising him. His drug problem is also not your fault. It is likely the drugs have contributed to his violent rages, but you can't let this situation continue. First things first. You are in danger. The next time your son threatens you or you feel scared by his anger, call the police. Also, look for ongoing support and advice to help you turn this situation around before you or your son do something that can't be fixed. I would urge you to contact Pegs ( It offers free support to any parent or carer suffering from abuse from a child, whether that is physical, emotional, psychological, financial or sexual. You might also find it helpful to contact Adfam, a charity set up to help families who are affected by drug abuse ( You can also get advice on your son's drug use from your GP. SEX-HELP CLINIC DEAR DEIDRE: I HAVE only just turned 30, I'm pretty and I keep myself in shape, so why does my husband never want to have sex with me? He's 37 and we have been together for five years. We were in a long-distance relationship to begin with, so when we saw each other every weekend, sparks flew and we would make love for hours at a time. Throughout the week we would exchange flirty messages, teasing each other with descriptions of what we would do on our next date together. A year later, I got pregnant with our son and the excuses started. He didn't feel comfortable getting passionate while I was pregnant, then the baby was in our room, then he was tired. He even made an excuse on our wedding night. Since then, we have had sex about once every two months. When I talk to him about how I feel, he promises to change. But he never does. I have convinced myself he is gay because I don't know why else he wouldn't want to sleep with me. I asked him, but he strongly denied it. He says he still fancies me and loves me very much, but I need that intimacy. I can't go through life in a sexless marriage. I'm at breaking point. DEIDRE SAYS: It's all very well for him to say he fancies you and loves you, but his words don't match his actions. Talk to him once more – tell him you're worried and want to regain the closeness you had at the beginning. Explain you feel sad that you're both missing out on a lot of fun. If you express it lovingly – being clear how much you care about him, how sexy you find him, and how much you'd love to express your feelings in bed – he will hopefully open up about any worries or issues that might be curbing his libido. He might be stressed about work, have financial worries or be battling depression. You deserve a good sex life, and he knows this, but he also needs to know you've had enough. Please read my support pack Reviving A Man's Sex Drive to give you more ideas and techniques. CAN'T GIVE UP THE BOOZE DEAR DEIDRE: ALCOHOL made me lose sight of what's important in life. Now I'm desperate to quit but I keep failing. I'm 22. I started drinking six years ago when I kept having fights with my dad. I left home at 18 and my stress reduced, but I didn't manage to cut down on the drinking. My friends are getting on with their lives – going to college and starting interesting jobs – but I am just wasting my days away getting drunk. I look and feel older than I should, and I have lost all my self-esteem. Please tell me how to become a better version of myself. Instead of pursuing their dreams and ambitions, they pursue the numbness of being drunk. It's good that you've realised this at 22. There's still lots of time to turn your life around. Talk to your GP as they might be able to refer you to nearby support. You can also find help on the NHS website, at GRANDSON FEARS DEAR DEIDRE: MY grandson needs to go to a school for autistic children because I fear he will struggle in mainstream education. He's nearly five, but still non-verbal. He can't dress himself as yet or tell when he needs the toilet. My daughter has applied for his Reception year school place. There's a space on the form where we can give our reasons why he should be sent to a school for autistic children, but we need guidance on what to write. Are there any support groups that might be able to help us with this? DEIDRE SAYS: I do understand your concerns. Luckily, there is a lot of support available. Special Needs Jungle ( has resources to help parents navigate the SEND system, including a whole section on school applications. You can also find a lot of information about school applications through And check out the education section of the Child Law Advice website (
