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Forbes
4 days ago
- General
- Forbes
2 Ways The ‘Nonchalance Epidemic' Is Killing Love, By A Psychologist
Acting like you don't care might help you feel like you're saving face in the moment, but in the ... More end, it leaves you feeling lonelier than ever. Here's why the "nonchalance epidemic" needs to stop. Falling and staying in love can be messy. Relationships and dating can involve some degree of shyness and embarrassment, but people often go to great lengths to avoid these feelings. Many people resort to trying to look 'cool' and indifferent, as if love will find them without ever having to ask for it. In other words, they have stopped trying. This is part of the 'Nonchalance Epidemic,' a cultural moment where emotional detachment is seen as desirable, and showing you care feels 'cringe.' Often, people send texts without being too emotionally involved, leave others on 'read' and ghost them when things seem like 'too much effort.' Many singles are scared to seem too interested. But this chronic nonchalance, where no one wants to make the first move or admit they care, can quietly sabotage our chances at loving relationships. It's not as though relationship fears aren't valid. We can have a host of anxieties around relationships, such as not meeting our partners' and their families' expectations, subjugation fears such as losing independence, getting bored, sexual frustration or even feeling held back in life. But we can't overcome fear without making a move — without taking a few steps forward. Here are two ways the 'nonchalance epidemic' chips away at our chances of healthy relationships. 1. It Prioritizes Ego Over Emotional Connection Many people have perfected the craft of masking their loneliness. They stay aloof in a bid to seem cool and mysterious. They avoid eye contact and everyday interactions, lest they seem too forward or eager. Maybe you've been in this scenario, hesitating to strike up a conversation with someone at a bar or a party because the fear of being brushed off felt unbearable. What if you approach someone to ask them out, only to get dismissed, or worse, laughed at? However, constantly pretending that nothing affects you can backfire. It might push people away or even prevent you from meeting the right people. Over time, that emotional distance becomes all too real, and you might find yourself surrounded by people, yet feeling entirely alone. People hide real emotions and needs as a way to protect themselves. They worry that expressing their feelings might be seen as a sign of weakness, and that rejection would deal another blow to their self-esteem. For those with rejection sensitivity, this fear can feel especially paralyzing. Many people also hide their needs because they fear they won't be met. They yearn for emotional connection but struggle to seek it, so they put on a brave face instead. A 2024 study published in the Canadian Review of Sociology on friendlessness and isolation interviewed 21 people who identified as having few or no friends in an Atlantic Canadian city. They found that loneliness, when it becomes chronic, can do serious harm. Many talked about the emotional toll this took on them, with one participant in her twenties tearing up during her interview, describing the experience as 'a pervasive feeling of loneliness.' Another participant said he had stopped taking his prescriptions because he didn't see the point anymore. 'Well, I feel lonely all the time. Because, when I go out, I'm not going out to meet people, usually. I'm just going out to, you know, grocery shop. Trying and taking your prescriptions every day, I find it hard. I don't know how to explain it other than I don't have anyone, you know, to talk to or whatever, so why bother taking prescriptions?' Avoiding meaningful connections isn't limited to dating alone. When relationships start to feel out of reach or devoid of meaning, even basic self-care can become a struggle. Without purpose or connection, even survival feels challenging. Sociologist Erving Goffman's dramaturgical approach explains how we often perform and adjust our behavior depending on who we're with and how we want to be perceived. The 'nonchalant' persona is just another performance. We try to appear detached and unbothered, in a bid to increase our desirability. At some point, you have to choose between the risk of rejection and the certainty of loneliness. Indecision often fuels inaction. 2. It Keeps People From Owning Their Actions On the receiving end of nonchalance, you may have heard phrases like, 'It's not that deep,' or, 'You're overthinking this.' Maybe you've met people who dismiss anything they view as 'minor' and act like you're making a big deal out of nothing. Such individuals may act like you're overreacting, as though you're the one at fault for 'expecting more' from them. They may also avoid confrontation and respond vaguely when they need to clarify the intentions behind their actions. Their need to create emotional distance can keep them from taking responsibility and owning how they feel. Moreover, making excuses might get them out of a difficult conversation today, but in the long run, it erodes trust. And trust is the foundation of any meaningful relationship, romantic or platonic. People may start to think that they're insincere, dishonest and, eventually, stop trusting them. Forging connections is not a weakness, and dating shouldn't be a performance. We all have limited time on this planet, and spending it trying to appear stoic and unbothered only robs us of the deeper joy that comes from truly opening up — even if it hurts at times. Caring feels almost radical in a culture that rewards detachment. Going all in when people around you act like they're above it all might be your best shot at salvaging relationships and finding something real. Do you feel lonely, even around your partner? Take this science-backed test to find out: Loneliness In Intimate Relationships Scale
Yahoo
5 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Bad Bunny, Travis Scott, Saweetie, and All the Songs You Need to Know This Week
Welcome to our weekly rundown of the best new music — featuring big singles, key tracks from our favorite albums, and more. This week, Bad Bunny shares a song he debuted during his historic Puerto Rico residency, Travis Scott links back up with his industry friends for Jackboys 2, and Saweetie ushers in a new era with full-blown confidence. Bad Bunny, 'Alambre Pua' (YouTube) More from Rolling Stone Saweetie Has Announced Yet Another EP, Shares New Song 'Boffum' Bad Bunny's Puerto Rico Residency Instantly Sold Out - Here's Where to Find 2025 Tickets Online Travis Scott Hangs Out With His Amazing Friends on 'Jackboys 2' Travis Scott, 'Dumbo' (YouTube) Saweetie, 'Boffum' (YouTube) Reneé Rapp, 'Why Is She Still Here?' (YouTube) Zach Bryan feat. Gabriella Rose, 'Madeline' (YouTube) David Byrne, 'She Explains Things to Me' (YouTube) Sublime, 'Ensenada' (YouTube) Blood Orange, Caroline Polachek, Lorde, Mustafa, 'Mind Loaded' (YouTube) Alex G, 'Oranges' (YouTube) FKA Twigs, 'Perfectly,' (YouTube) Fletcher, 'Hi Everyone Leave Please' (YouTube) Danna, 'Khé Calor' (YouTube) Bad Gyal, Ozuna, 'Última Noche' (YouTube) Eliza McLamb, 'Like the Boys' (YouTube) Water from Your Eyes, 'Playing Classics' (YouTube) Malcolm Todd, 'Original' (YouTube) Jessie Reyez, 'Nights We'll Never Have' (YouTube) Jessie Murph, '1965' (YouTube) Anycia feat. Tink, 'So Fine' (YouTube) Mr Eazi, 'Corny' (YouTube) Adekunle Gold, 'Coco Money' (YouTube) Jeff Tweedy, 'Out in the Dark' (YouTube) Laura Jane Grace, 'New Years Day' (YouTube) The Last Dinner Party, 'This Is the Killer Speaking' (YouTube) Dylan Gossett, 'Hangin' On' (YouTube) Scarlet Rae, 'The Reason I Could Sleep Forever' (YouTube) Yola, 'Amazing' (YouTube) Ruel, 'I Can Die Now' (YouTube) Niko Rubio, 'No Lo Volvere a Hacer' (YouTube) Penelope Road, 'So It Goes' (YouTube) Sam Pounds, 'Arizona Rain' (YouTube) Andria Rose, Alan Vega, 'Slow Burn' (YouTube) Best of Rolling Stone Sly and the Family Stone: 20 Essential Songs The 50 Greatest Eminem Songs All 274 of Taylor Swift's Songs, Ranked Solve the daily Crossword
CBC
5 days ago
- Sport
- CBC
Canada's Shapovalov claims 1st career outdoor ATP title
Denis Shapovalov of Richmond Hill, Ont., captured the men's singles title at the Mifel Tennis Open 6-4, 6-2 over American Aleksandar Kovacevic in Los Cabos, Mexico.
UAE Moments
6 days ago
- General
- UAE Moments
Daily Love Tarot Reading for July 20th, 2025
Daily Love Tarot Reading - 7.20.25 Card of the Day: The Moon The Moon reflects anxiety and illusions. However, in this position, it showcases your ability to use your intuition and kindness to overcome negativity. You are always there to support your partner and help them through their anxieties. You also know how to think things through properly to avoid instability in your relationships. This rational yet caring side of you allows your love life to thrive. For singles: Trust your intuition—love may not be as it seems at first, but your inner wisdom will guide you to the right person. For couples: Open communication is key—help your partner navigate their fears by offering reassurance and emotional support. Pro Tip for the Day: Don't let doubts cloud your judgment. Take a step back, trust your instincts, and allow clarity to lead your heart.
Yahoo
6 days ago
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Your Daily Singles Horoscope for July 19, 2025
Though the peace of single life can't be beat, it's always nice to have someone to curl up with at the end of the day. The path to your next cuddle buddy is only a click away with our singles horoscope. Aries Finding some kind of balance in your busy life is tough, especially now. Do something that centers you, whether it's yoga or jumping rope. Inner peace looks just as good from the outside! Taurus Whatever you've planned should go well for you, and if you allow room for romantic possibilities, they're likely to come your way of their own accord. Look around you, smile big, let love rule! Gemini How are you really feeling? Love can be mysterious and extremely confusing, and your conflicted energy may have you disoriented. Sit down, relax, and let your true feelings be your guide. Cancer Your homing instincts are strong, but it's vital to mix things up now. Enjoy some personal time, but show the romantic powers that be that you're ready by projecting yourself into the world too. Leo Seek out some new activity that takes you well outside your usual boundaries. Something that stretches your creativity, makes you think in a new way, and ignites enthusiasm should work. Do your stars align? Find out your Compatibility Score and reveal the truth! Virgo If you're reading messages or cleaning house today, try to stop for a bit. You've got some sweet personal energy coursing through you, so make the most of it! Libra Expect ebb and flow when it comes to your feelings now. You need to work with some waves. Plot a course with your usual smarts, figure out what's down deep, and just keep sailing. Scorpio Though you are sometimes rather prone to extremes, right now you've actually found a way to make sweet music in the middle, which is useful for anything related to your love life! Sagittarius Why did you start dating again? It may seem simple, but think hard about whether you want something casual, long term, or in between. Make a short list of your needs in a mate too. Capricorn Whoever thinks love doesn't respond to the focused energy you've been emitting is mistaken. If you've been working on romance by meeting people, it's sure to work out well. Aquarius Sometimes the right people just aren't that into you, or vice versa. Don't make too much out of that weird truth, and definitely don't take it personally. Just move on and keep trying new things! Pisces Asking a friend or relative to set you up feels weird, but those who know you best have friends or coworkers who might make good matches. Mention that you're dating again and see what happens. What does your karmic journey hold? Discover your destiny with our Karma Report. ✨ Solve the daily Crossword
