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Yahoo
16-07-2025
- General
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11 Phrases Women Often Say To Keep the Peace—but They Come at a Cost, Psychologists Warn
11 Phrases Women Often Say To Keep the Peace—but They Come at a Cost, Psychologists Warn originally appeared on Parade. "Peacekeeper" sounds like a noble profession, but women often find themselves on a never-ending mission to fill this role, often to their detriment. One psychologist explains that women receive the template for this role via social cues they pick up starting in early childhood."Most girls are socialized to be 'good girls' and therefore taught to attune to those around them rather than themselves," reports ., a licensed psychologist. "This creates an early dynamic of ignoring their needs in the quest to be accepted."The result? Women often internalize the idea that harmony is more important than the truth. Unfortunately, it can lead to burnout, resentment and even physical and mental health issues—and Dr. McGeehan warns that peacekeeping is more prevalent in relationships with power dynamics that leave women vulnerable, like ones where someone has the upper hand professionally, emotionally or you say can reveal a great deal about whether you are trying to play the role of perpetual diplomat or chronic people-pleaser. Psychologists share 11 phrases women often use to keep the peace, but warn that they often come at a cost. Plus, how to shed the pressure to keep everyone else Cue the narrator. "Often, it's not fine," Dr. McGeehan unsurprisingly, all three psychologists we spoke to mentioned this phrase."It's harmful because women are dismissing their own discomfort, which can accumulate over time and damage the trust in the relationship, especially when someone else is taking them at their word," shares Dr. Holly Schiff, Psy.D., a licensed clinical psychologist noticed she defaulted to this phrase and has since intentionally made an effort to stop using it unless she really does feel fine."It's easy to say to make someone else feel better about a wrong that may have been done, but it shuts down your own needs and teaches others your needs can be ignored or are unimportant," says Dr. Gayle MacBride, Ph.D., LP, a psychologist with Veritas Psychology Dr. MacBride notices women usually use this one in situations where feelings are tense, but the "peacekeeper" is worried that they'll get labeled "dramatic" or "too much.""The problem here is that it minimizes harm done and invalidates the speaker's feelings in the process—double whammy," she warns. This phrase is an exercise in people-pleasing and self-sabotage. "This is a phrase that can signal when a woman is about to self-censor," Dr. MacBride reveals. "Sometimes, we shut ourselves down before anyone else can do it for us. Sometimes, decades of self-doubt result in women picking up where others have left off." This phrase sounds well-meaning, but Dr. MacBride reports that it often enters a woman's "rotation" early in life because of social conditioning to be a "good girl.""The messaging was, 'It's your job to make sure no one else had uncomfortable feelings or experiences,'" she says. "It's a message about being in charge of other people's emotions."Indeed, this phrase shows how we can carry the messages we got in childhood into adulthood, even the harmful Dr. McGeehan concedes it's a word, not a phrase, but she's not sorry about bringing it up."I hear it being used with women so frequently that it's worth mentioning," she shares. "Women overapologize in so many situations, especially those where they are fearful of taking up space. It has become as common as breathing air."Do any of these examples sound familiar?"We use it when we've walked in the same direction as someone and most certainly when we've had the audacity to voice our unique thought process," Dr. McGeehan says. "It's used as a filler to take tension out of a situation that may not even be there." Related: Sure, it's another single word, but Dr. MacBride doesn't like how it qualifies whatever comes next."Adding a qualifier like 'just' is dismissive of feelings, needs and requests," she explains. "This qualifier softens, minimizes and signals an insecurity on the part of the asker. People will take you less seriously and are more ready to decline to fulfill your request."The tough-love takeaway: "If you don't believe you deserve to take up space in the room, then others likely won't either," she Dr. McGeehan notes that women pull out this phrase when they're already anticipating that their needs won't get met and want to keep everything hunky-dory anyway. In addition to wanting to keep others happy, she says women use this one to self-preserve, even though it has the opposite effect. "This woman is trying to give someone an out so she doesn't have to risk being rejected," she explains. "In doing so, she tells herself that her needs are a burden and is actually teaching the other person the same message as well, because at the end of the day, we teach people how to treat us." Related: Context matters here. This phrase isn't toxic if you want or need to do something and have the capacity to complete the job. However, Dr. Schiff sees it veer into toxic peacekeeping territory."'I'll do it' can sometimes be said automatically, either in a group or household to avoid conflict and appear helpful," she explains. "However, the woman is now taking on extra work without addressing the unfairness of it, which can lead to frustration and emotional exhaustion." OK, but will the choice work for you?"This phrase is a way to avoid appearing demanding and inflexible, but it is only superficially generous," Dr. MacBride explains. "Being the person who always adapts comes at a steep cost: Your agency and identity."Related: This one is worrisome if it's not true."It seems polite, but often masks deep fear of being 'too much,'" Dr. McGeehan says. "When overused, it teaches others that it's OK to deprioritize this woman because she'll always make it easy for them." "No worries if not" has an also-evil twin, and it's "Don't worry about it.""'Don't worry about it' is used when someone has crossed a boundary, but the woman feels uncomfortable naming it and calling them out on it," Dr. Schiff reveals. "It spares the other person's feelings while invalidating her own. This teaches people that it is okay to overlook her needs."Related: Dr. MacBride wants conflict-avoidant women to view conflict vs. peace as something other than a binary choice when they have opinions or needs."Disagreeing or holding a different opinion doesn't inherently mean conflict," she explains. "It might seem like a rebranding, and it is, in a way. I don't think holding a different opinion has to mean conflict in the first place."She notes that working on listening and reflection skills while calmly maintaining your perspective can help you move out of "fix-it" mode, where you try to soothe any uncomfortable emotions the other person may have about your Dr. McGeehan points out that silence can feel like a threat to peacekeepers, but it's not."It's not your job to fill every quiet moment with a buffer," she says. "This discomfort can fuel someone to say things they don't mean."She suggests counting to five in your head before responding."This tiny pause can give your nervous system a chance to ground, and you a chance to decide what you want to say, not just what will make things smooth," she This phrase offers nuance—yes, that still exists, and you can embody it."This phrase allows you to hold your ground without escalating tension," Dr. McGeehan explains. "I always encourage peacekeepers to have a go-to phrase on hand for disagreements. It doesn't reject the other person's perspective, it simply honors your own."She suggests using it in low-stakes situations first, like group texts or casual chats. You'll build a muscle for disagreement. Dr. McGeehan advises women to check their internal overrides."Peacekeepers often know when they've overridden themselves but only after the fact," she explains. "Start asking, 'Am I agreeing because I mean it, or because I want this to be over?' Awareness is the first step to shifting the pattern."She also suggests tuning into your body's cues, such as a faster heart rate, heat in the face and avoiding eye contact. Eventually, she says you'll start to notice the override sooner and choose Dr. MacBride reports that peacekeepers usually have three strategies for conflict: "Avoid, avoid and avoid." The problem? It ultimately results in a "spill" (or explosion). Put time for tough conversations on your calendar."Scheduling and creating an agenda lets you think about what you need to say and be thoughtful about what needs to be addressed," she says. "This is the concept of 'striking when the iron is cold,' which will let you frame and issue as a shared problem, instead of offloading hurt and then feeling guilty about it." Up Next:Dr. Brittany McGeehan, Ph.D., licensed psychologist Dr. Holly Schiff, Psy.D., licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Gayle MacBride, Ph.D., LP, psychologist with Veritas Psychology Partners 11 Phrases Women Often Say To Keep the Peace—but They Come at a Cost, Psychologists Warn first appeared on Parade on Jul 16, 2025 This story was originally reported by Parade on Jul 16, 2025, where it first appeared.
Yahoo
13-07-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
The Rudest Things You Can Do In Someone Else's House
The isolation of the pandemic gave many of us a newfound appreciation for simple forms of socialization, like getting together at a friend's home. Although we might be more freely attending house parties, potluck dinners and casual living room gatherings to watch sports on the couch, that doesn't give people free rein to behave however they'd like in someone else's space. We asked etiquette experts to share some common rude behaviors when visiting someone else's home ― and advice for avoiding them. 'When someone says 'Make yourself at home,' they usually do not mean this literally,' said Jodi R.R. Smith, president of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting. 'You should keep your feet off the furniture, and unless this is a close friend, you should not be opening the fridge without being asked to do so.' Wait for the host to give you the go-ahead to touch or interact with things you see. Until that happens, quickly ask for permission if something strikes your fancy. 'Ask before touching an object or removing a book from a shelf,' advised Nick Leighton, an etiquette expert, and co-host of the 'Were You Raised by Wolves?' podcast. 'Don't demand a tour of someone's home,' Leighton urged. 'Wait to be invited by your host.' Many people are happy to lead a little tour of their space when they invite people over, but that isn't true of everyone at all times. And if your host doesn't offer a tour, don't take it upon yourself to give yourself one, either. 'Don't take a tour of the house unless you are encouraged by the host to 'wander' around,' said Diane Gottsman, an etiquette expert, author of 'Modern Etiquette for a Better Life' and founder of The Protocol School of Texas. 'Know when it's time to leave,' urged Leighton. 'The number one complaint we hear from hosts is about guests who overstay their welcome.' You might still be enjoying your nightcap or get the sense everyone is having a great time chatting. But pay attention to the hosts' body language and suggest that those who want to continue hanging out relocate elsewhere. 'If your hosts have changed into their pajamas, that's probably a good sign that it's time to go,' Leighton added. Unfortunately, things happen when you're in another person's home. You might accidentally spill red wine on the carpet or knock over a lamp. Don't ignore or try to hide it. 'If you break something, or even just finish the roll of toilet paper, it is best to let your host know as quickly and quietly as possible,' Smith said. 'Refrain from peeking in cabinets and cupboards,' Smith advised. Of course, it's natural to be a little curious, and we've seen this exact behavior in countless movies. But resist the urge to look inside the medicine cabinet in the bathroom. 'Beware that some hosts put glass marbles in their medicine cabinets to catch snoopers in the act,' Leighton said. 'The marbles will ping around the bathroom and make a lot of noise for your host and all other guests to hear.' 'Never show up with an unexpected plus one,' Gottsman said. Sure, you might know the host loves hanging out with your cousin, or you think everyone will enjoy meeting the new guy you're seeing. But that doesn't mean you can extend an invitation without getting the go-ahead. Unless you were explicitly told that you may bring a plus-one (or plus-five), always ask before bringing anyone else into someone's home. Even if it's a casual gathering, shoot the host a quick text to make sure. 'If you have been invited for a meal, any dietary restrictions should be shared well in advance, not when you sit down at the table,' Smith noted. Don't just expect the meal to be vegan-friendly or not contain any of your allergens. Tell the host as soon as possible about any limitations you may have (and stick to actual limitations, not preferences). Regarding dietary restrictions, it's important to remember that the host's pets may have some, so don't share your food. 'Don't feed the host's dog under the table unless you ask your host first,' Gottsman said. 'The dog may have an allergy or be on a special diet.' 'Shoes on or off tends to be very individual specific,' Smith noted. 'Listen to what your host prefers.' It's understandable why many people prefer not to track the dirt and germs of the outside world into their homes when possible. 'Be prepared to remove your shoes if asked,' Leighton said. 'Throw a pair of socks or slippers in your bag if you don't like being barefoot and think you might be heading to a no-shoe household.' Smith also believes hosts should be prepared for their ask. 'Hosts that want shoes left at the door should also have slippers or socks for the guests,' she said. 'Hosts will also need to understand if the guest declines. Fashionistas prefer to keep their shoes on as part of their ensemble.' 'Don't switch place cards at the dinner table,' Gottsman advised. People put time and effort into hosting events like dinner parties, so respect what they put together and don't try to interfere or make changes. 'As a guest, you should arrive with a small gift for the host,' Smith said. However, there's no need to be too extravagant or overthink the host's gift. Pick up a nice bottle of wine or a bouquet of flowers. It's the thought that counts. 10 Of The Rudest Things You Can Do At The Grocery Store The Rudest Things You Can Do On A Group Trip The Rudest Things You Can Do At The Beach
Globe and Mail
11-07-2025
- Business
- Globe and Mail
High Caliber Working Dog Training Launches Comprehensive Puppy Training Programs in Upland, CA
High Caliber Working Dog Training in Upland, CA, now offers expanded early puppy training programs focused on socialization, obedience, and health. Using positive reinforcement, expert trainers help puppies develop confidence, good behavior, and strong bonds with their owners. With group classes, private sessions, and community support, this program sets a solid foundation for lifelong companionship and success. High Caliber Working Dog Training, located at 949 W 21st St, Upland, CA 91784, today announced the expansion of its early‑education curriculum designed to set local puppies on a lifelong path of obedience, confidence, and health. The initiative answers growing demand for puppy training Upland CA and reinforces the facility's reputation as the premier center for dog training in Upland CA. Early socialization remains the cornerstone of every program. Under the guidance of certified instructors, puppies are introduced to diverse sights, sounds, and canine companions in a controlled setting. These carefully structured sessions—held both on‑site and in nearby parks—help prevent fear‑based behaviors and nurture calm, well‑mannered dogs that integrate seamlessly into the vibrant Upland community. 'Confidence built during the first weeks translates into better interactions at farmers' markets, neighborhood gatherings, and pet‑friendly cafés,' explained the lead behavior specialist at High Caliber Working Dog Training. Through incremental exposure, each puppy learns appropriate greetings, leash etiquette, and polite responses to busy environments. Positive‑reinforcement methodology underscores every lesson. Hand signals, consistent verbal cues, and immediate rewards teach fundamental commands such as 'sit,' 'stay,' 'come,' 'heel,' and 'leave it.' This science‑backed approach establishes clear communication without resorting to harsh corrections, ensuring that each dog associates training with security and enthusiasm. The result is a robust foundation that owners can build upon long after classes conclude. Structured instruction further strengthens the human–canine bond. By participating in short, focused drills, families learn to read posture, tail movement, and vocal cues, fostering mutual trust and respect. Graduates consistently demonstrate lower anxiety and heightened adaptability—qualities that translate into smoother veterinary visits, safer off‑leash adventures, and relaxed introductions to new people and pets. Health benefits accompany behavioral gains. Regular drills encourage both physical exercise and mental stimulation, reducing the risk of destructive habits while supporting cardiovascular fitness. Consistency also establishes dependable daily routines, alleviating household stress and promoting overall well‑being for pets and their families alike. High Caliber Working Dog Training complements its group classes with tailored one‑on‑one sessions led by a dog trainer Upland residents repeatedly recommend. Individual coaching targets specific challenges—ranging from leash reactivity to crate‑training setbacks—ensuring that every puppy progresses at an optimal pace. Clients also receive access to an online resource library containing step‑by‑step tutorials, progress trackers, and nutrition advice. Community engagement amplifies program success. Weekly meet‑ups at the Upland Dog Park provide graduates with supervised play and ongoing skill refreshers, while social‑media forums allow owners to exchange tips, schedule practice outings, and celebrate milestones. These collective efforts create a supportive ecosystem that sustains good manners well beyond the classroom. Local families have already witnessed dramatic transformations. Bella, a timid Golden Retriever, overcame sound sensitivity within weeks, emerging as a confident fixture at city events. Max, an exuberant Labrador, redirected boundless energy into agility exercises, earning applause for precise recalls and polite sits. Such stories underscore the long‑term value of enrolling dogs early and consistently. High Caliber Working Dog Training invites Upland residents seeking dog training Upland CA or specialized puppy training Upland CA to tour the facility, observe live classes, and consult with trainers about customized learning paths. Enrollment for the summer cohort remains open, with limited spots to preserve low instructor‑to‑puppy ratios. About High Caliber Working Dog Training High Caliber Working Dog Training is Upland's trusted destination for comprehensive canine education. From foundational puppy courses to advanced working‑dog programs, the team combines proven positive‑reinforcement techniques with real‑world socialization to cultivate well‑balanced companions. For details, visit the training center at 949 W 21st St, call +1 909‑288‑2574, or explore upcoming sessions online. High Caliber Working Dog Training (Address: 949 W 21st St, Upland, CA 91784, United States | Phone: +1 909-288-2574) Media Contact Company Name: High Caliber Working Dog Training Contact Person: Andrew Pena Email: Send Email Phone: +1 909-288-2574 Address: 949 W 21st St City: Upland State: California 91784 Country: United States Website:
Yahoo
26-06-2025
- Entertainment
- Yahoo
Dachshund's Elation Over Seeing Mom After Day Care Is Full of the Purest Love
Dachshund's Elation Over Seeing Mom After Day Care Is Full of the Purest Love originally appeared on PetHelpful. Most dogs love to go to doggy day care, and it's a great way to get them socialization, especially if you work a lot or are away from home during the day. Cannoli is an adorable mini long-haired Dachshund that enjoys going, but what he likes even more is coming home to his mom. His mom shared a video on TikTok of the greeting she receives when Cannoli arrives home from day care. It's the cutest thing you'll see today! Make sure your sound is on so that you can hear Cannoli's little squeaks of happiness and love. This video literally made my day! I watched it a handful of times because you can see the pure joy on Cannoli's face and hear it in mom's voice, too! Not to mention he's a gorgeous little guy! Commenters also loved the sweet video. @Take a Little Tripp swooned, "Aww the little whines are so cute!!!" @RoxietheRoxStarDoxie shared, "Best feeling in the world. It never gets old."Even though I work from home, I still have to work and focus on my job, much to my dog's dismay. That's why sending her to doggy day care a couple of days a week is something we've been considering. Not only do dogs get to socialize with other dogs, but they also get to socialize with other humans too, which is just as important. If you have an active dog, they get to burn off energy that they usually have to keep bundled up until you get home. And by the time you get home, they might be too tired to do anything other than nap…if they even make it that far! Most towns and cities have at least a couple day cares to choose from; in our city, they seem to be everywhere! If you're not sure which one is right for your dog, they usually offer a time to have you and your pooch come in to check it out. Asking friends for a recommendation is a good idea; just make sure to do your research to make sure the ones you are looking at are reputable and have the services you're looking for. You can expect to pay on average around $40 a day. Speaking of services, some daycares even offer grooming and training services, which can give you more time to spend on the weekends doing something fun with your pooch instead of running errands! Dachshund's Elation Over Seeing Mom After Day Care Is Full of the Purest Love first appeared on PetHelpful on Jun 25, 2025 This story was originally reported by PetHelpful on Jun 25, 2025, where it first appeared.
Yahoo
21-06-2025
- Health
- Yahoo
Mary Beth Nienhaus Activity Center officially opens, providing social opportunities for adults 50+
APPLETON, Wis. (WFRV) – After all of the anticipation and excitement, the Mary Beth Nienhaus Activity Center has finally opened, with a celebration event on Friday afternoon. The activity center, formerly known as the , provides adults 50 years and older with plenty of opportunities to socialize, learn and thrive. Green Bay native Tony Shalhoub to host global food docuseries on CNN From wellness studios to high-tech classrooms and gaming areas, the facility features a plethora of ways for adults looking to keep up their activity level to do so. It also features the only indoor pickleball court for adults in Appleton. The center is still holding a fundraiser, looking to raise about $6.5 million, and it is 85% of the way there. Copyright 2025 Nexstar Media, Inc. All rights reserved. This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten, or redistributed.
