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Daily Mail
4 days ago
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- Daily Mail
Strictly's Karen Hauer breaks down in tears as she speaks about her toxic third marriage to Jordan Wyn-Jones for the first time
Strictly Come Dancing star Karen Hauer broke down in tears as she spoke about the breakdown of her toxic third marriage to Jordan Wyn-Jones for the first time. The dancer, 43, married Jordan in 2022 after they met online, but they divorced just 16 months later. Speaking in a moving interview on Paul C. Brunson's We Need To Talk podcast, Karen broke down in tears as she accused her ex of leaving her 'emotionally battered', and admitted she was lying to loved ones about her struggles. She said: 'I was just in panic mode, panic mode, love should not be panic. It's almost like he made up things to scare me so that I wouldn't go anywhere. 'But it's OK and I get on with it, I get on with it and smile because I don't want to cause trouble, I don't want to shake things up because that puts you in a bad mood which then makes my day really awful, and that's the state I lived in... From A-list scandals and red carpet mishaps to exclusive pictures and viral moments, subscribe to the Daily Mail's new Showbiz newsletter to stay in the loop. 'I was not only lying to my family and friends and they were seeing it, but I was lying to him as well, because that was the only way I could get through the day, that would keep the peace.' Breaking down in tears, Karen added that she begun to suffer hair loss caused by autoimmune disease alopecia, which she believes was her nervous system responding to the stress she was under. She went onto reveal that on the day she was due to marry Jordan, her brother confronted her and said she needed to leave the relationship. When Karen and Jordan tied the knot in Hampshire, they sold their wedding snaps to magazine Hello!, and at the time she described her big day as a 'fairytale.' But in her hard-hitting interview with Paul, Karen painted a very different story, revealing: 'Everyone was trying to stop this from happening and I wish they would have just taken me, grabbed me and put me in a car, and I would have kicked and screamed, but I wouldn't have gone through more hell.' Speaking of Jordan, she said: 'He didn't hurt me physcally so you couldn't see it. It was there, digging, digging, digging ... 'Every dig every text, every call, why did I let someone do that to me?' Karen added that her friends eventually tried to stage an intervention to try and convince her to end the relationship. Sharing her most challenging moment in the ordealKaren said: 'There was a weekend I had to work but Pink was in concert and my two best friends, we got tickets and I was able to get away as an excuse as well that I was working down in London so I came down. 'I cried for the first 35 minutes of the show. The freedom of being out there with my friends and them holding me up. And going, 'You have to do this'. 'And then obviously the phone call from him (Jordan), 'Why did you take your luggage?' It's almost that he knew what was coming. 'I remember that moment, ''I have to, I have to do it because if not something is going to happen to me.'' Karen said things turned nasty between herself and Jordan following their split, adding: 'He started losing control of me and it was game-on from him. 'He pulled every shot, every string, did everything he needed to do to try and get my attention and try to get me away from what I was doing to go and see him.' The star admitted that Jordan begged her to take him back insisting he 'would change,' but he still made their divorce 'difficult.' Originally from Brighton, Wyn-Jones was living in Sydney when he began following Hauer on Instagram. She followed him back and they began to exchange messages before regularly speaking on FaceTime. The businessman eventually relocated to the UK, with the couple marrying in 2022, but the marriage soon crumbled and the couple announced their separation just 16-months later. She said: 'I got myself into a relationship that I shouldn't have. I felt embarrassed that I couldn't keep anyone around me and I said to myself, 'No, I'm not going to get into a relationship... spend some time on your own.' 'But I don't know how to be on my own.' Looking back on their relationship, Hauer says her former husband rarely contributed financially after moving into the home she owned before they met. 'He was saying to me I'm going to get a job soon, I'm going to help out when I can. But I work hard for my money and I was bankrolling everything,' she claimed. 'I wasn't home alone, but there was nothing that fulfilled me. He wasn't providing anything, there was no enhancement in my emotional being, my physical being. 'I was working, doing my thing, coming in and out of the house and letting him settle down.' Karen also admitted her family saw the red flags long before the relationship turned toxic and she found herself in 'a situation she couldn't control.' She recalled: 'They weren't excited by him at all because to other people it was like a big no. Like no, she'll get rid of him quick. And I didn't because it just got worse. ''I don't have what you have.' Well, yeah, but I need to go to work every day. 'Yeah, but I never see you.' 'Then 'Oh, but are you cheating on me?' No, no, I'm not, I'm not cheating on you. 'So, are you cheating?' No. No, I'm not cheating on you. I just like that person's Instagram post. ''Are you sure you're not sleeping with that person?' No, no, no. 'Can you send me a picture of where you are and who you're with?' 'l had to check in everywhere I went.' She added: 'Whatever he had going on, whatever was happening, I didn't want to be a part of it. So, I'd just leave. I'd just go away and then I'd come back. 'When can I come back home? Five days later. Okay. Are the dogs okay? Yeah, they're fine. You can come back now.' 'But the grip that he had on me, it paralysed me. It's really hard to explain. When he proposed to me, I didn't tell anybody. 'Why was I so attached to this feeling of insecurity, of gaslighting to the max. In my previous relationships, there was no such thing as that. There were probably hints of it, but this was at a different level. 'Finding myself in a situation where I couldn't control because I was afraid.' During the interview, Karen also reflected on her protracted and painful divorce from Kevin Clifton, saying they maintained a professional facade on Strictly while behind-the-scenes their three year marriage fell apart. The Venezuelan-American ballroom specialist, 43, married Clifton, her second husband, in 2015 - three years after joining Strictly's team of professionals. They would announce their divorce in 2018, and Hauer admits the separation played out behind the scenes for months before she finally confirmed they were no longer together. Karen insisted it was she who instigated the separation when it became clear that he had 'distanced himself' from the marriage. She said: 'This one hurt, because we belonged together. You wouldn't say each other's names without following the other person's name. 'I felt that he distanced himself from me, but I was probably doing the same. Because I felt that if you don't want me then OK, I'll retreat, I'll give you your space. It was one of those, where we're both not talking about it. 'I was like, 'Do you want a divorce? Do you want to split up? I don't know what I want to do. What do you want to do? Do you know what you want? I don't know what I want. Are we broken up?'' 'So it took a while actually, it took about a year... behind the scenes. In front of the scenes everything was normal. 'We fell apart, and me not knowing... obviously, I didn't know what was happening in his mind and whether he wanted to be with me or not.' Despite calling time on the marriage after just three years, Hauer claimed she would have worked at salvaging their relationship had he wanted to be with her. She said: 'I knew that I would've worked on it - I would've stayed. But at the same time, I couldn't be with someone who wasn't sure of whether they wanted to be with me or not. I couldn't wait. 'I waited for a while, and I was giving him his space to think, and then funnily enough I met someone. I was literally waiting to be loved. 'He just wanted a divorce, and I didn't fight it. Something had to happen in order for him to make a decision, because I wasn't going to make the decision. 'I wasn't going to pull the plug. So then I tripped and then the grenade went off. You know, I pulled the pin.' She added: 'It was tough for him, tough for me. It was tough for both of us at that moment. 'I could see he didn't want to let go. But that didn't give him any choice. He had to do the right thing for himself.' Despite their separation, Hauer insisted she and Clifton maintained a mutual admiration for one another as trained professionals on Strictly Come Dancing. She said: 'The respect we had for each other in the workplace. We respected one another, you know. 'We never said a bad word about one another. I think that's because we hold each other to such a high regard, you know. 'There will always be love there. So, we still danced together on the show and we were still working around each other. We would still applaud each other, support each other. 'We never lost that and that was what was really sad, that we could and transfer that onto our relationship.' Clifton subsequently embarked on a new relationship with documentarian Stacey Dooley after meeting her on the set of Strictly Come Dancing. The couple welcomed a daughter together in 2023. Meanwhile, Hauer will return to Strictly Come Dancing this year following recent claims that she had been axed. It was rumoured that the programme's longest-serving dancer had been dropped by bosses, sparking an 'ageism' row among the cast. But Hauer will be back as normal when the series returns in September. The dancer, who joined the lineup in 2012, is yet to win the glitter ball trophy but has reached several finals including with celebrity partners Made In Chelsea's Jamie Laing and former TOWIE star Mark Wright. Last year, she was partnered with former footballer Paul Merson, 57, but the pair were eliminated in week five and the previous season the dancer performed with DJ Eddie Kadi. A TV source told MailOnline: 'Karen is a well loved and respected member of the Strictly cast and there's no way she would be axed, especially not because of her age.
The Sun
4 days ago
- Entertainment
- The Sun
Heartbreaking moment Strictly's Karen breaks down in tears as she speaks for first time about ‘toxic' marriage
STRICTLY'S Karen Hauer has broken down in tears as she opened up for the first time about her 'toxic' marriage to ex Jordan Wyn-Jones. In a raw and emotional interview on Paul C Brunson' s We Need To Talk podcast podcast Karen, 43, described a relationship filled with fear and control, saying she started losing her hair from stress. 8 8 8 8 Dressed in a white suit and adidas trainers, the Strictly favourite had tears streaming down her face as she accused her ex of leaving her "emotionally battered". The dancer confessed to living a double life, lying to friends, family – and even to Jordan just to get through the day. She said: "I was just in panic mode, panic mode, love should not be panic. "It's almost like he made up things to scare me so that I wouldn't go anywhere. "But it's ok and I get on with it, I get on with it and smile because I don't want to cause trouble, I don't want to shake things up because that puts you in a bad mood which then makes my day really awful, and that's the state I lived in ... "I was not only lying to my family and friends and they were seeing it, but I was lying to him as well, because that was the only way I could get through the day, that would keep the peace." In a heartbreaking moment, Karen says she suffered hair loss caused by autoimmune disease alopecia, and believes it was her nervous system responding to the stress she was under. She also revealed on the day of her wedding her brother confronted her over the relationship, and begged her to leave Jordan. Karen had been married twice before, previously to Matthew Hauer for nine years but they went their separate ways in 2009. She was wed to former Strictly pro Kevin Clifton but they divorced in 2018. Karen and Jordan said their vows at Chewton Glen in Hampshire in 2022 and sold their wedding snaps to glossy magazine Hello!, calling the big day a "fairytale" at the time. But in her emotional interview with Celebs Go Dating star Paul, the dancer reevealed: "Everyone was trying to stop this from happening and I wish they would have just taken me, grabbed me and put me in a car and I would have kicked and screamed, but I wouldn't have gone through more hell." She added of Jordan: "He didn't hurt me physcally so you couldn't see it. It was there, digging, digging, diggingg ... "Every dig every text, every call, why did I let someone do that to me?" Karen revealed her friends staged an intervention to encourage her to be brave and end the relationship. Asked her the most challenging moment throughout the ordeal, she said: "There was a weekend I had to work but Pink was in concert and my two best friends, we got tickets and I was able to get away as an excuse as well that I was working down in London so I came down. "I cried for the first 35 minutes of the show. The freedom of being out there with my friends and them holding me up. And going, 'you have to do this'. "And then obviously the phone call from him (Jordan) 'why did you take your luggage?' It's almost that he knew what was coming. "I remember that moment, 'I have to, I have to do it because if not something is going to happen to me'." She says things turned nasty after the split. Karen added: "He started losing control of me and it was game on from him. "He pulled every shot, every string, did everything he needed to do to try and get my attention and try to get me away from what I was doing to go and see him." Karen says she reached out to his family and they were supportive, and says they told her more about his issues. She leaned on her mum for support, flying her over from New York, saying her mum was "a pitbull". She added Jordan begged for her back, saying he "would change". He eventually left her home, but Karen says he made the divorce "difficult". The star, who has appeared on Strictly for 14 years, is now in a new healthy relationship with rugby player Simon Davidson. She told Paul: "I'm in a new relationship and it's my first proper relationship at 43 years old. He has a job. Tick. He takes care of himself. Tick. "We have conversations about what we want, our values. I'm still a little bit messy, and the thing with me, what I'm navigating right now is learning when to accept when someone's telling me this is the way you should do it and now this is how you do it. "So, making sure that I understand where you're coming from without going, oh, why are you telling me what to do? "Instead of oh, you're trying to help me. That's what I'm learning in this relationship." 8 8 8 8
Yahoo
6 days ago
- Business
- Yahoo
Daughter, 23, Graduates College. Now, Her Mom Is Demanding a $1K Monthly Allowance
A young woman has been financially supporting her family for years, but her mom's latest request went too far The mother is demanding that her daughter give her $1,000 each month The 23-year-old shot down the request, but is struggling to maintain her boundariesA young woman turned to the Reddit community for advice after her mother demanded a hefty monthly allowance. For background, the 23-year-old explained that she had previously promised to help her mom if she left her toxic relationship, which impacted the entire family. However, money became the "subject of constant arguments" between the two as her mom "expected" her to support them financially despite being in school. The situation became increasingly complicated as her mother's expectations grew. 'I lived away from home for 5 years while studying, rarely visiting on weekends and sometimes never at all as I worked a hospitality job to support myself and would constantly give money to my mom to help even though I don't live there,' the daughter explained in her post. After graduating, the poster said she found a job that "pays really well for a new grad." As she embarked on her professional career, the woman hoped to focus on building her own life and financial stability. However, the mother's recent request for a $1,000-a-month allowance has reignited tensions between them. The daughter found herself torn between her desire to help and her need to establish her own independence. 'Now I have moved to another city, rent on my own, have finance on a car, have student loans, and have to pay my own bills,' she shared. 'Plus pay for my own travel to and attendance of professional development hours (at least 20 hours a year) which cost tens of thousands in my profession," the poster continued. The woman's frustration only heightened as she recounted her mother's spending habits, noting that the money she had previously sent was often used for non-essential items rather than basic necessities. 'She doesn't want to work and she overspends what I used to send her," the Redditor shared. "She buys designer clothing for my younger brother and so much junk food rather than just essentials." To shed light on the mother's work history, the poster explained that "she couldn't work" because her ex-husband "didn't let her," but "she was happy being a housewife." However, now that she's out of the relationship, the mom is still making excuses for why she can't get a job. "Then when I convinced her to leave, it was that culturally she isn't allowed to work and people will see her as brazen,' the poster explained. Despite her efforts to set boundaries, the young woman said she feels constantly guilt-tripped into providing financial assistance. Her mother's latest request for a $1,000 allowance, framed as 'only $30 a day,' pushed her to seek outside perspective on the situation. 'I said to her, 'My siblings, all 5 of them, can work to earn $30 a day and still earn more than that and I will not be paying,'' she recounted of their conversation. Never miss a story — sign up for to stay up-to-date on the best of what PEOPLE has to offer, from celebrity news to compelling human interest stories. Now, the mother is upset that her daughter won't meet her demands. Meanwhile, the college graduate is struggling to balance her desire to help her family with her own need for financial stability and independence. Read the original article on People
BBC News
7 days ago
- BBC News
Chester: 'I finally have peace after stalker sentenced'
A woman whose ex-partner stalked her after she ended their 13-year "toxic" relationship has said she can finally "lock the door and feel safe" after he was given a restraining order. Teana Lynne, 52, said it "took a long time to be brave enough" to leave him and report the stalking and she wanted people to know "there is a light at the end of the tunnel". Ex-Chester FC player, Andrew Shelton, 44, from Blacon, Chester, pleaded guilty to stalking Ms Lynne and sending communications of an offensive nature to her and was given a suspended sentence at Chester Crown Lynne said she had been scared by his "dangerous" behaviour. After she ended their relationship, she said Shelton, who she also ran a bistro in Chester with, sent her a card saying: "Enjoy your birthday. I'll be watching from afar." Ms Lynne, who is from Saltney, Flintshire, said Shelton had also posted an abusive response to a comment she had made on a friend's social media post telling her to "die".A friend had told her he had made disparaging remarks about her, while commenting about what she was wearing in a particular place at a certain time."That really scared me. That was the day I realised that this could be dangerous," she said it had been a "toxic and narcissistic relationship" with a "rollercoaster of up and down emotions", where "you're living for that time when they are how they were when you first met, not realising that that first time was just an act". 'Peace at last' Shelton was given a 40-week jail sentence suspended for two years, along with 100 hours of community service and a restraining order was put in place banning him from going into her North Wales hometown for a 10-year Lynne, who is a model and head of operations at a financial investment company, said she was relieved and glad "to have peace at last and not loud voices and banging" in her home."I can lock that door and there are cameras all around and I can sit there with my feet up and with my dogs and just feel safe," she said."Even the dogs have stopped shaking now. They used to run out of the room in fear."She added: "I wish I'd stuck to my guns the first time I left him. "It might just help people to know there is light at the end of the tunnel. Don't give up."I don't want anyone else to go through what I did." Read more stories from Cheshire on the BBC, watch BBC North West Tonight on BBC iPlayer and follow BBC North West on X. You can also send story ideas via Whatsapp to 0808 100 2230.
News.com.au
14-05-2025
- Entertainment
- News.com.au
Sean ‘Diddy' Combs trial: Ex Cassie Ventura to testify again on day three
Sean 'Diddy' Combs' ex-girlfriend Cassie Ventura is testifying at court again on Wednesday as the disturbing trial enters its third day. A very pregnant Cassie broke down in tears on Tuesday as she testified about how the music mogul allegedly forced her to participate in days-long sex marathons known as 'freak-offs.' She took the stand to speak on the coerced orgies which took place throughout her 10-year relationship with Combs. Combs, 55, faces five criminal counts, including racketeering conspiracy, sex trafficking by force, and transportation to engage in prostitution. Cassie, who is eight months pregnant with her third child with husband Alex Fine, spoke about her toxic relationship with Combs that started when he signed her to his record label in 2006. Cassie 'objectified' The singer testified she reluctantly agreed to the freak-offs just months after they first started dating when she was 22, but the drug-fuelled sex parties soon took priority over her music career. Cassie testified that the freak-offs 'became a job' as they would sometimes last days while she took cocaine, ecstasy, and mushrooms to disassociate from the experience and to stay awake for up to four days at a time. She choked back sobs as she told the court she wanted the freak-offs to end because she was 'humiliated' as Combs allegedly made her have sex with male escorts while he watched, even at times when she bled on her period or vomited while on drugs. 'I was an object being heavily objectified by men in that scenario,' she said. She recalled that Combs once made her get inside an inflatable pool full of baby oil and lubricant in a hotel room while fully clothed with shoes as he demanded she be 'glistening' for his sick fantasies. Cassie also testified that Combs ordered escorts, whom she initially was ordered to find on Craigslist, to urinate into her mouth on multiple occasions. 'It was disgusting, it was too much,' she said, adding that she once choked after putting her hands up to signal for it to stop, to no avail. She said Combs would sometimes join in to urinate on her in a humiliating ritual and said, 'It was obvious I didn't want to be on the ground being urinated on by two men.' She told the court she was terrified to refuse Combs' incessant demands because of fears about blackmail videos from freak-offs being leaked, paired with his increasingly violent behaviour. 'He would bash me on my head, knock me over, drag me, kick me, stomp me on the head if I was down,' she testified. 'Two sides' of Combs She recalled how Combs would become a different person during his alleged violent attacks, saying 'his eyes would go black - the version of him I was in love with was no longer there.' Cassie said the bombshell video of Combs beating her in a hallway in 2016, which was shown unedited in court on Monday and released to the public the next day, took place after a freak-off in Los Angeles. She claimed Combs' staff, including his security guards and former chief of staff Kristina Khorram, helped keep his control over her by constantly calling her and taking away her phone and laptop whenever Combs ordered. Combs has pleaded not guilty to all charges and appeared stone-faced, besides smiling to greet his family, as prosecutors continue to paint him as the ringleader of a criminal enterprise. He has denied all allegations against him and argued through his lawyers that he has only participated in consensual sex between adults.
