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"He Needs To Have The Emotional Support Needs Of A Cactus': Women Over 40 Are Sharing The Unconventional Things They Look For In A Partner
After dealing with relationships for so long, I'm sure there comes a point in life when you know exactly what you're looking for in a partner — no matter how unconventional those things may be.
So when Reddit user u/JacqueGonzales asked the question, "What's a really weird, UNCONVENTIONAL thing that you absolutely NEED in a partner?" in r/AskWomenOver40, I excitedly knew the women would NOT hold back. Here's what they had to say:
1."Cannot be a spitter. If you spit, I'm out"
—u/Mamba6266
2."Angry eyebrows. Like, you need to look like you would throw me around. Respectfully."
—u/nubianxess
3."No beards. In my opinion only, not trying to convince anyone else! Men with beards enjoy things I don't."
—u/Mysterious-Soft8798
4."I wanted someone that wasn't picky about food."
—u/NeedleworkerBroad751
5."Has the skills necessary to do well in a zombie apocalypse."
—u/emphaticduck
6."Must be willing to purchase feminine hygiene products without complaint."
—u/StartingOverAfter41
7."If they don't learn my coffee order within a few dates, they don't care about learning about me."
—u/TweedleDumDumDahDum
8."I must have my own room/rooms. My husband and I each have our own bedroom/bathroom/office. If he dies, I am absolutely not changing my ways. I need my space."
—u/Substitute_Chieftain
9."Must sneeze discreetly. Not keeping the sneeze in, make a scene every time. Also, they have to cover their mouth and nose properly. Always."
—u/emotional-ohio
10."Sending memes back and forth is my love language. A guy who doesn't reciprocate or, worse, sends memes that aren't funny would be a deal-breaker."
—u/Accomplished_Bed7120
11."Must be handy. I know my way around a toolbox and he should too."
—u/Pursed_Lips
12."Must love all things Halloween as much as I do, which is a LOT."
—u/Full_FrontaI_Nerdity
13."To be allowed to have space to be my feral and unhinged pathetic self at times. I need to unmask and just allow my feels and my bleh moments to just have no reasons other than simply to just be. To be able to express unhinged and sometimes really dumb thoughts and ideas, and not have these parts of myself held against me."
—u/glitcherious
14."Can't be a person who gets that thick buildup of saliva in the corners of their mouth. Makes me instantly gag on sight."
—u/Subaudiblehum
15."Open to kinky, fulfilling sex. Life is too short for bad sex."
—u/Intelligent_Pass2540
16."He needs to have the emotional support needs of a cactus because I am not nurturing."
—u/CasualCrisis83
And finally, here's one that's straight to the point:
17."I can't do 'half-assed' anything. He has to be capable of following through and doing a good job. I am talking about everything — job, chores, sex, conversations — whatever it is, for F's sake, participate fully and put in the full effort."
—u/New_Needleworker_473
Are you a woman over 40 (or any age) who wants to share the unconventional things you look for in a partner? Let me know in the comments!
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
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