EXCLUSIVE Like Kelsey Parker, I found love again after being widowed only for our baby daughter to die at 6 days old - just as we were healing the wound was ripped open again and nothing could make it better
A woman who lost her partner and baby says you 'find the strength' to keep going to 'help your kids through the grief'.
Becky Williams, 34, has experienced 'unimaginable' loss, after losing her partner, Joe Morgan, to terminal bowel cancer aged 30.
Joe died in November 2018, shortly before their wedding, leaving behind Becky with their two children, Elise, seven, and Arthur, six, and her eldest son from a previous relationship, Harley, 18.
After finding love again with her current partner, Tom Williams, 33, a heating engineer, Becky fell pregnant with their first baby, her fourth child.
However, during a difficult labour, their daughter, Mabel, suffered a traumatic brain injury and passed away at just six days old in September 2023.
Similarly, TV personality Kelsey Parker lost her partner Tom Parker, who was a singer in the band The Wanted, in March 2022, after he battled a brain tumour aged 33.
Like Becky, Kelsey also found love again with boyfriend, Will Lindsay, and recently shared the tragic news that their child, her third baby, who they had named Phoenix, had been stillborn a week before her due date.
Becky says she 'completely understands' the 'continuous grief' Kelsey is experiencing, and having to stay 'strong' in order to care for her other children who were 'also grieving' the loss of their 'daddy and their sibling'.
In 2024, Becky found out she was pregnant again. Despite her apprehension, their rainbow baby son, Hudson, arrived at 34 weeks on January 19, 2025
When Becky was seven months pregnant, she noticed Joe was losing weight and after pushing for tests, he was diagnosed stage-four bowel cancer in early 2018
The mum, who is an office manager, from Swindon, Wiltshire, said: 'It's heartbreaking to see what Kelsey is going through - to lose anybody is hard.
'I completely understand how difficult it is to go through continuous grief. She'll be physically healing from the birth, and now dealing with loss too.
'Nothing can make it better. The hardest part is having other kids involved. Like Kelsey, my kids not only grieved losing their daddy but then a sibling too.
'Just as they start to heal, the wound is ripped open again. I stayed strong for them. I understood grief but I had to help them through it.
'Knowing they needed me each day kept me going.'
Becky met Joe in 2011 when she already had her son Harley from a previous relationship.
The pair went on to have their Elise together before she fell pregnant with their Arthur in 2017.
When Becky was seven months pregnant, she noticed Joe was losing weight and after pushing for tests, he was diagnosed stage-four bowel cancer in early 2018.
Becky met Joe in 2011 when she already had her son Harley from a previous relationship. The pair went on to have their Elise together before she fell pregnant with their Arthur in 2017
Joe passed away on November 17, 2018, and Becky began navigating life as a single mum.
'My whole world came crashing down. I had children and was pregnant, and he was only 29 - you never expect this to happen,' she said.
A year later, in 2019, Becky started going out with Tom who was a close friend that she'd known for years.
In February 2025, Kelsey Parker opened up on social media about experiencing 'trolling' and 'negative' comments online for finding love again, something Becky had experienced too.
'I believe a lot of the negativity is a lack of understanding. No one else knows what you're going through and how difficult it is,' the mum said.
'Tom hugged my broken pieces back together again. I surrounded myself with positivity. You're entitled to love again and be loved.'
Like Kelsey and her new partner William, Becky found out she was expecting a baby with Tom.
She had a 'normal' pregnancy but during the birth she suffered a uterine rupture, a life-threatening condition when the uterus tears during labour.
Their daughter, Mabel, suffered a traumatic brain injury and lack of oxygen and tragically died six days later in September 2023.
'Losing a child is indescribable,' Becky said.
'Tom was an amazing support and kept each other going.'
In 2024, Becky found out she was pregnant again.
Despite her apprehension, their rainbow baby son, Hudson, arrived at 34 weeks via c-section weighing 5lb 2oz, at Great Western Hospital in Swindon on January 19, 2025.
'He's the rainbow after the storm - he's brought so much light back to our lives,' Becky said.
'There's still a huge hole without Mabel, but he's helped to heal out hearts.'
Becky started posting her journey through grief on TikTok under the handle @littlebirds_griefdiary.
She also recently self-published a book for children on Amazon to help them deal with loss called 'Our Special Stars' with characters based on her own kids.
'I found writing a great outlet for my grief,' she said.
'Joe and Mabel - and my mum who I lost aged 19 - they're talked about every day. They're always with me.
'Sometimes it's difficult to remain positive, after losing so much. But I try and keep going for them, and the people around me.'
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