People Are Sharing The Red Flags That We Still Seem To Romanticize For Some Reason, And Yeah, Maybe We Should Stop That
We all have a short list of characteristics we find sweet and swoonworthy, but what about the ones that give us all the ick? Sometimes, they can be mistaken for good things when they're actually the complete opposite.
Reddit user Affectionate_Sand190 recently asked, "What's a red flag that people still weirdly romanticize?" Here's what people had to say:
1."Having someone who is completely obsessed with you."
—u/Civil-Shame-2399
2."Fixing someone. You're not their therapist, babe."
—u/TinyAndPetite-
3."Fighting all the time. No, it doesn't mean that your relationship is 'passionate,' it means that you're probably incompatible and shouldn't be together."
—u/Select_Beginning_656
4."I used to love the 'asshole to everyone except you' trope until he started being an asshole to my friends. Rose-colored glasses when you realize that he's just an asshole — plain and simple. Some tropes are meant to stay fictional."
—u/Goldenwolf_
5."Hustle culture."
—u/chefboyarde30
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6."When someone constantly posts about their partner and people call it 'romantic.' It's not. It's performative. Real love doesn't need a PR campaign."
—u/South_Cupcake2315
7."Jealousy. Being jealous doesn't mean you love me so much; it means you don't trust me."
—u/SmittenKitten0303
8."Codependence and complete obsession. People need lives outside of their partners."
—u/muttgrowls
9."The idea that playing games or being hard to get will make their crush interested or want them more."
—u/CosmicMind007
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10."Not being confrontational. Needless confrontation is bad, but sometimes you do need to confront someone."
—u/Open_Today_6267
11."Pressuring someone to hurry up and put a ring on it."
—u/Dark--princess420
12."Entirely subsuming your life into your partner's. It's healthy to have a portion of your life to yourself. Couples don't need to and shouldn't spend every waking moment together."
—u/el_cid_viscoso
13."The ideology that being controlling or possessive over your partner means you love them."
—u/Possible-Produce-373
14."Love bombing."
—u/Kaapstad2018
15."When someone says that they want a relationship like Harley Quinn and the Joker. Do they actually know the nature of their relationship?"
—u/Alixxet
16."Sacrificing your professional or personal life to pursue someone."
—u/lamchopxl71
17."Having an affair. They seem so fun and passionate in movies."
—u/Ninac4116
18."Not taking no for an answer."
—u/Abject-Raspberry5875
19."Leaving a relationship for you. Any reasonable person should see that the same thing might happen to you."
—u/Kooky-Maintenance513
What's a red flag that people need to stop romanticizing? Share your thoughts in the comments!
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
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