Woman Drove 8 Hours To Attend Wedding, Only To Be Told: 'You're Not On The Guest List'
In tiny print, the invite said they weren't invited to the banquet. Humiliated, they left, only to learn later they were invited just because the bride's boss insisted
In recent times, the tradition of inviting everyone from the neighbourhood and distant acquaintances to weddings has significantly changed. To cut costs, people often avoid inviting even their acquaintances. Alternatively, they employ tactics that guests only realise later. Such an incident befell a woman who received a wedding invitation from a colleague. Upon arriving at the wedding, she discovered her name was not on the guest list. She scrutinised the card and was shocked by what she found.
Receiving a wedding invitation is usually a joyous occasion, especially for someone attending a wedding for the first time. However, for this anonymous woman, her happiness quickly turned to embarrassment when she was barred from attending the wedding reception.
Sharing her experience on Reddit, she explained that she had attended the wedding with another colleague and was enjoying the ceremony. They had planned to take photos with the bride and enjoy the banquet. Yet, as they examined the table plan at the venue, they realised their names were missing.
The woman recounted, 'We kept looking for our names on the table plan but could not find them. Then the 'Master of Ceremony' approached us and asked to see our invitation card. He then clearly stated that we were invited only for the church ceremony and evening drinks, not for dinner."
In very small letters on the invitation card, it was specified that they were not invited to the banquet. Humiliated, both colleagues quietly left the venue. Later, they learned that the bride had invited office employees merely because her boss had insisted.
'We thought we were her friends, but in reality, we were invited only as a formality," the woman lamented.
Still in their party attire, the pair found a local café in the Scottish Highlands where they had bacon rolls and tea before returning to their bed and breakfast to refresh. The sympathetic hostess drove them back to the venue for the evening party. Upon their return at 7 pm, they found all the other guests were drunk, and they were the only 'evening guests'.
The uncomfortable atmosphere, exacerbated by 'hands-on" men, prompted them to leave. They later visited a local bar where the welcoming locals entertained them.
'The locals saved our day and assured us that such behaviour with guests is not typical in Scotland," the woman said.
'Now, I read every wedding invitation very carefully. If I'm invited only for the evening function, I don't mind, but I want it clearly stated upfront," she added.
However, the woman ended up teaching the bride a lesson. 'We had put £50 each on the card and also bought an expensive bedding set from her registry. But after being insulted, we withdrew the money from the card and gave only the gift."
The incident sparked hundreds of comments on Reddit. One user wrote, 'It's very rude to invite someone for celebrations and drinks but not for dinner. Either include them for the whole day or just the evening, not both."
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