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Rimless Glasses Used to Give ‘Grandpa' Vibes. Are They Now Cool?

Rimless Glasses Used to Give ‘Grandpa' Vibes. Are They Now Cool?

Josh Calihan, 37, wanted to give his face a break. The Chicago-based personal shopper owned plenty of chunky, heavy glasses but craved something lighter. Then, last fall, he spotted the newish M3104-B glasses by Tokyo brand Matsuda. The specs feature striking hexagonal lenses, brushed-gold titanium arms with delicate filigree—and no rims.
In the past, rimless glasses 'kind of gave me 'grandpa,'' said Calihan. But Matsuda, he argued, has 'taken something that would normally be considered very conservative and put their touch on it. The little details make it special.' At once fresh and relatively classic—not to mention light—they have become his go-tos.
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