Influencer cops backlash after tossing son off cliff for ‘fun'
The viral Instagram video on Garrett Gee's family's Instagram account, @thebucketlistfamily, which has amassed almost 4 million views, sees Gee with his son on a large rock ledge, jutting out over Lake Powell, a reservoir between Arizona and Utah.
Cali, 7, Gee's son, initially appeared apprehensive about jumping into the water, but before long, his father threw him from the rock.
'To be extra safe, because he wanted to jump but was not feeling confident, I threw him,' the influencer clarified in the lengthy caption.
He continued, 'Eventually, a baby eagle needs to leave the nest … or be tossed out of the nest.'
He also added the way he and his wife 'parent, discipline, and teach how to cliff jump is quite different, depending on the child, as all three kids are unique'.
'We took our youngest Cali to a cliff height that we knew he would be safe. Really, the biggest danger would be if he hesitated, didn't jump far out, and fell down the cliffside.'
The older two kids followed in Cali's footsteps and enthusiastically jumped off the taller section of the boulder soon after.
Gee's parenting philosophy, according to him, emphasises safety, bravery and exploration. He travels around the world with his family to give his kids these experiences.
While some viewers commend Gee and his wife for this approach, others have said this video goes too far, and criticise the couple for 'exploiting their kids on social media,' as one user put it.
'Trauma therapy up ahead for these kids,' wrote one concerned commenter.
'Absolutely unacceptable, man. Not cool at all. As you said, every child needs different treatment, and you can't possibly predict how he feels about this subconsciously about this act. I sincerely hope it will not grow esoterically as a projection of paternal betrayal,' chastised another.
Some viewers believed the outrage in the comments was overblown and said as long as the kids are safe and happy, there's no harm done.
'You guys know this already, but for others reading, please make sure you centre safety with cliff jumping and teach your kids how before they just go out and do it,' advised one user. 'This can be such a fun activity!! But safety, safety, safety first!!'
'I visit Lake Powell very often. People need to understand that what they jumped off is a small cliff. Probably not even 10 feet high. Lake Powell does not encourage 'cliff jumping' over a certain height,' a local said.
Despite the online backlash, Gee's son seemed to be fine with the stunt — unsurprisingly, a short, but action-packed lifetime of surfing, hot air balloon expeditions and hiking will do that to a kid.
Kids in influencer families sometimes struggle to balance their parents' work on social media with their own interests, hobbies and educations — one child was even pulled out of school at age 12 to kickstart her content creation career.
As their kids have gotten older, Gee and his wife decided to buy a house in Hawaii, and are open about how their kids attend public school, and the family does their serious travelling during breaks.
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So I have had people come up to my children when they were online and just start talking to them in public places. I have had people come up to me who like me a lot in public places and I've had people come up to me who do not like me a lot in public places. And so there's definitely a risk, especially as a queer person, you're putting yourself out there for the world to see and that can always result in physical harm, stalking, and that's just the reality. It's the downside of the job for sure. SB: And you said when your kids were on social media, they're not any more: what made you decide to stop including them in your content? That's right. So I have been online full-time for five years, but my children are seven. So for the first full two years of their lives I had a smaller account and I really treated it like Facebook with friends and family. I just posted pictures all the time of everything they were going through. I had rules for myself and for our family, and that was based off my professional experience. So never show their school uniforms, never show them naked, never show them in compromising situations, don't show them crying, getting angry. And the question I asked myself is, would you post this of a friend, a really good friend without asking first? And if the answer was no, then I did, then I posted it and I always was taking into consideration what would their digital footprint be. But when they turned, it was like between the ages of three and four is when people started to recognise us out in public. That was really a shift for me and coming to terms with the fact that not only was I making money off of our family, my children were also earning money for jobs they were doing that had been put away for them that they'll have access to when they're older, but are they mentally developmentally capable of understanding their involvement and the ramifications of that? 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And before they got to the point where they were really able to engage talking to camera or anything like that, I decided with my husband that not only were we going to remove them, but we were going to remove him and that I was still going to remain an active member of the parenting community online, but people weren't going to have access to where we went to dinner or what we ate, what trips we went on, and any movement of our family's life. SB: Did that impact your following at all? What was the response when you removed your kids and your husband? It's really interesting. Around that time I decided, I'm not naive, I've spent my whole career in this industry. I understand the value of having your children. As a marketer, we leverage social for the deep parasocial relationship that an influencer has with the follower, and it is the word of mouth that marketers are always searching for that trusted voice, that deep connection. And so if you're trying to sell parenting products or products for kids, it is actually valuable to have that word of mouth of like, wow, that kid looks like he's having fun or, wow, that mum and the kid look really great wearing it. And because I knew that removing that could potentially have an impact on my bottom line, this is my full-time job, this is how I pay for everything. I decided I needed to just build a strategy that was going to align with the modern times and hopefully it wouldn't have an impact. That first year, I grew my account 150%, and then last year it grew 250%. And so it's clearly not had an impact, but it has required a lot of strategic planning. SB: I mean navigating social media as a parent seems so complicated, you'd almost question why bother at all? What benefits do you see coming from this space? Social media has so many downsides and everyone listening knows them. But one of the beautiful upsides of social and the tech boom and digital competency and how it's evolved, the way that we communicate and connect with other people, is a shift in the way we talk about the brutal reality of parenthood. If you take a step back, just one singular decade, but two decades, to make the point even more clear, women were shunned for talking negatively. Primary parents were shunned for talking negatively about the parenting experience. It was a part of our cultural zeitgeist and the way that we communicated to really say, you chose this. Why are you complaining? Children are always angels. Do you need help? And one of the joys of social, and I think TikTok gets a lot of credit for this, is the shift in the way that we communicate our brutal honesty about the rude reality of the lives that we're living. This happens in so many beautiful micro-niches, whether it be different minority groups, but in the parenthood groups specifically, we've seen a massive shift in the way we talk about the challenges of day-to-day parenthood. That's an undeniable bonus and great value that social has provided. Women in particular, but primary parents at large who get to show up after a really hard day where they're struggling and see someone else, a creator saying, I woke up 15 times last night. I'm exhausted and now I have to go to work. Or my kid just yelled at me, I'm in a fight with my partner. It's that confirmation that you're not alone. And when we think about the massive issue of mental health with first time parents, but parents in general, to have that confirmation, to be able to have, if you live in Orange, New South Wales or even farther in the middle of this country and you don't have a connection to a parenting group, you don't have a connection to share your day-to-day problems with parenthood. Social media is an amazing space. It's a huge parenting group. And so I think that's been wonderful. I think a lot more primary parents feel comfortable sharing honestly their experience. And when we share and when we can see people like us, we're more likely to ask for help, we're more likely to go and get help if we need it. And I think any therapist would admit that if we get to see ourselves, it's easier to be ourselves. And so I think in the parenting space, it's almost like a huge parenting tribe. And that's why there's just so many amazing mother creators in particular on Instagram who really are leaning into, here's the honesty, here's what you're getting yourself into, or here's what you're living through every day. SB: You're describing the space there as a big tribe but there's also smaller groups within that. I know for example, the gentle parenting style has become increasingly popular online over recent years - what do you think of those kinds of movements that emerge? Yeah, I think it's... listen, the reality is there are billions of people and everyone has a different cultural background, and there are socioeconomic variables that increase the likelihood of someone being successful online. And we all know that. So people who tend to trickle to the top of the parenting space just so happen usually to be white women from affluent English speaking countries. But the reality is there's unbelievable pockets all across the internet and pockets for any type of parent with any type of background. I think one of the downsides that one of the bad things about social is a trend, a way to parent in a specific situation can pop off and go viral, and an algorithm can shove that in front of people. And when you are in a constant state of decision-making, which parenthood is just like millions of micro decisions, you have to make a day and you're searching for answers, you can be influenced by a video, and that can become how you parent based off of that one video. So I usually say to people when they're like, what do you think of this parenting trend? What do you think of this? The rise of gentle parenting? I just say, I think it's just that it's a trend. Our parenting and the way that we parent shifts literally every year. I think it used to be like every decade, but social has almost made it so that it's changing daily. And I say, trust your gut. Have conversations with your tribe. Make sure that you feel confident with your partner with the way that you're parenting. Do not use a social media video to impact and influence the way you parent solely. SB: I think that's good advice. Just quickly, I wanted to go back to how you deal with some of the more negative aspects of working in social media. You mentioned earlier that you've had people come up to you in person as well as comment negative things online - how do you deal with those encounters? Yeah, it's a really complicated question because I have more than a decade worth of experience on the other side, responding on behalf of brands, and because of that, when I transitioned into this being my job, I don't think of myself as Sean Szeps personal person on his personal account. I think of myself as an actor who's rising to the occasion at work each day, and so when I'm responding and moderating, I'm in a business state of mind, and so if someone is there as a detractor, if the sentiment is negative, it's easy for me to think about it that way. That's just one person in a sea of positivity. If that was a data point, it would be 0.0005% negativity for the day, but I have to just, the reason it's complicated is I have to admit and acknowledge it. That is so obviously not a skill that everyone else who's an influencer has, and if you're in a bad headspace, if you're struggling mentally and you have to show up online and see homophobia every single day, I totally understand the downside of that. I think brands need to do a better job of supporting the influencers they're working with. I think platforms need to do a better job of supporting the influencers who make their platform run, but really, if this is a job that you'd want to have and add on top of it, you're including your family, you really have to take into consideration what are your techniques and tips and tricks that are going to help you with mental health. In person, I tend to treat it the way that I've unfortunately had to treat homophobia my whole life, which is I have a lot of experience with it. Most queer people do, and usually the best situation is to walk away, ignore it, not to engage in a confrontational way while also acknowledging that there are people with different beliefs and you're top priority is your own safety. SB: We discussed before how you no longer show your kids online but obviously they'll eventually want their own social media accounts. How do you plan to discuss social media with them when that time comes? Yeah. I'm incredibly lucky and relieved that I grew up in a time without social media. I'm just so happy, I'm blessed that I'm not just a professional in this field, but that I'm also currently at university studying this industry because I feel better prepared to talk to them about it than most, and I'm also just so thrilled that Australia has taken the action that it's taken to limit social media use for people under the age of 16. The three of those things paired together, I'm like, I feel really good about this. The reality is the experts in this industry don't allow their children to use the technology because they understand the damage that can be done at such a young age when our brain is still developing, and so we're just going to have honest conversations about what I do, honest conversations about how I do it, constant dialogue around the upsides and downsides of technology and limited opportunities to engage with it at ways that we feel are appropriate, taking into consideration modern information that's coming out in real time. So right now my children will not have access to social media until they legally can, which is a long time away. It's a decade away, and then with every year, especially as someone working in the industry, we can evolve and update those rules as a family, but for me, it's all about that context. So I can imagine them saying, but you make a living on these platforms, but I'm actually really, really proud of how I make a living on this platform and what information I give out, and I know that not a lot of people feel that they can do that. So for me, I think I'm practising what I'm going to be preaching for them. SB: Yeah. It's interesting, even when I had the conversation about AI as well, it seems like the people working in social media and tech seem to be the most anti. Exactly. I mean, the people who create the social platforms don't allow their kids to have them. The actual makers of the platforms are like, you can't have this. Absolutely not. And so as someone listening, you should literally be thinking, so the founder of TikTok, the founders of Instagram, the founders of Meta, they don't want their children to have the platforms and you are comfortable giving them to your kids? That's something you should really ask yourself. SB: Do you expect that this is industry will continue for a long time to come? Yeah, I do. I think it will shift dramatically. When I think back to the earliest years, my infancy as a social media expert, Pinterest didn't exist. Snapchat didn't exist, TikTok didn't exist, Instagram did not exist. I make a full-time job on Instagram, and that platform didn't even exist when I got started in the industry, so I just have no choice to think if I'm just looking in the past and trying to do some predictive rational thinking that the platforms will evolve, that our trends will evolve, that the way that we engage online will evolve, and hopefully what I'd like to see in the future is massive political involvement and restrictions with these platforms. But I am really hopeful. It goes back to the beginning of the chat that we were having about this new generation. I've looked at the data. This is a generation that is engaged in activities who are more passionate about their planet, who seem to care a lot more about one-on-one experiences, and I'm hopeful that what'll see is a generation rejecting an obsession with social and an obsession with technology, and then I'd like to see that have an impact in where we put our time and investments, especially in the tech space. SB: You could be right - I think there is a possibility that there's almost a rebellion against social media as people grow up and see the consequences of spending too much time online. I mean, when you look at trends online and the rise in popularity of people going and living in the middle of nowhere and living off the land. I'm like, hopefully that just keeps picking up and picking up and picking up - and that's coming from someone who would negatively benefit from that. You know what I mean? I would not benefit from people running away from social, and yet I'm really, really hopeful that it happens. SB: That was Sean Szeps, I'm Sophie Bennett and you've been listening to the Beta Blueprint. In the next episode, I'll be speaking with Nic Seton from Parents for Climate all about his activism and how to talk to kids about a warming planet.
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7 days ago
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Morgan Wallen's cheeky on-stage dig after Coldplay kiss cam scandal: ‘Side chick'
Country star Morgan Wallen has made a cheeky reference to the recent Coldplay kiss cam scandal during his most recent show. The Last Night singer took the stage in Arizona over the weekend, where he referenced the viral footage of married Astronomer CEO Andy Byron being caught in an intimate embrace with his HR chief, Kristin Cabot. 'Anybody in here with their side chick or whatever, I think you're safe here,' Wallen, 32, told the audience, per video shared online. 'I don't condone cheating … anymore.' The 'affair' scandal erupted following Coldplay's concert in Boston last Wednesday, during which a kisscam scanned different couples in the audience, projecting them on the big screen. When the camera focused on the corporate suite, Byron was seen with his arms wrapped tightly around Cabot – but it was what happened next that saw the moment become global news (and spark endless memes). The loved-up pair, noticing the camera, appeared horrified and tried to hide from view, prompting frontman Chris Martin to joke: 'Whoa, look at these two. Either they're having an affair or they're just very shy.' Footage captured by fans in the crowd then surfaced online, with internet sleuths quickly discovering the identities of the pair – and the fact they both appear to be married to other people. Byron's wife, Megan Kerrigan Byron, reportedly removed his last name from her Facebook page shortly after the scandal went public, and later deleted her account entirely.
