I gave 7 years of emotional and financial support to him, only to lose him to his female best friend
SINGAPORE: A woman shared her heartbreak on social media, saying that even after seven years of emotionally and financially supporting her boyfriend, he ultimately became closer to his female best friend instead.
Posting on the NUSWhispers Facebook page on Tuesday (May 13), she revealed that she had gone to great lengths to stand by her boyfriend during their time together. She worked multiple jobs, took on debt, and even sacrificed her own well-being just to support him.
She also admitted she endured much of the pain in silence, often lying to her friends to hide how badly she was hurting.
'I didn't want to let my friends know and worry about how much I was hurting, so I made up 'perfect' stories for them. I equated love with sacrifice, so I just kept giving even when it hurt,' she wrote.
However, while she was giving him her full emotional and financial support, he was growing increasingly attached to another woman he described as his 'best friend like a sister.' According to her, this friend received all his time, attention, and emotional support—things she had longed for but rarely experienced.
'She [the girl best friend] was allowed to get all the best parts of him and took all his free time. He would defend her whenever I spoke about it,' the woman wrote. 'When it was really supposed to be me who was holding his hand, it was he who brought her to meet his family and stood by his side, while I never once met his family.'
The woman further shared that she constantly felt neglected, as her boyfriend often told her he was too tired or busy to spend time together. Yet somehow, he always had time and energy for this other girl.
When she confronted him about this, he dismissed her concerns as misunderstandings and insisted they were 'just like siblings.'
'I wasn't blind, I was in denial,' the woman wrote. 'After all this time, I have come to terms with the reality: I was never 'the one.' I was just defined by how much I gave and by how profoundly I lost. I was stupidly blinded, and I tried to convince myself to believe in their words that they were 'nothing'.'
At the end of her post, the woman said that she shared her story 'not as a call for her boyfriend to return' but as a form of closure. 'I'm done, and I finally walked away.' 'Do not trust a guy with an opposite-gender best friend…'
After reading the woman's post, many commenters commended her strength and applauded her choice to finally leave the relationship.
One said, 'It takes tremendous courage to walk away from someone you deeply loved and invested in, especially after so many years. Don't let anyone make you feel small for choosing yourself. You did the right thing, and you deserve someone who values you the way you love others.'
Another wrote, 'Proud of you for walking away. Keep your head held high.'
Others also jumped in to remind women not to stay in relationships where they're being taken advantage of. Many pointed out that love should be mutual, and if one person is doing all the giving while the other barely puts in any effort, it's not worth staying.
One explained, 'If a man loves you, he will never ask you to split the bills 50:50 or ask you for money or borrow money from you. He will take good care of you financially, even if he does not have enough money for himself. He will put much effort into you and action.
'Never ever help a man financially. Because he just manipulates you, never date a broke, lazy man; he just uses you for ladders, and he will choose another woman he likes.'
Another added, 'Do not trust a guy with an opposite-gender best friend. Period.'
In other news, a young Singaporean who recently secured offers to study medicine at both National University of Singapore and Nanyang Technological University has taken to social media to express her growing frustration with her parents, who not only refused to fund her university education but still expect her to 'support them financially in the future.'
In a post on the r/SGExams subreddit, the student shared that she had chosen to pursue her studies locally to save on accommodation costs, thinking it would lighten the load for her parents. However, despite her parents being financially capable, they informed her last year that they would not be paying for her university fees.
Read more: 'They won't pay my uni fees, but want financial support later' — Singaporean says of her parents
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