Where Did All My Male Friendships Go?

New York Times

8 hours ago

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'How did I let myself go for so many years without connecting to all these people who I love? How did I convince myself that that was the right path?'
Sam Graham-Felsen never imagined being lonely. Throughout his childhood and as a young man his life revolved around his friends. But when Sam got married and then had kids, going out with his friends almost felt like a luxury. After years of focusing on everything in his life except friendship, Sam began to realize he was missing something essential, and he decided to get his friends back.
On this episode of 'Modern Love,' Mr. Graham-Felsen describes how he went from being a boy with a wealth of deep friendships to finding himself feeling lonely as an adult, and what he did to bring friendship back into his life.
Read his essay 'Where Have All My Deep Male Friendships Gone?' in The New York Times Magazine.
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