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Where Did All My Male Friendships Go?
Hosted by Anna Martin
Produced by Reva GoldbergEmily LangDavis LandChristina DjossaAmy Pearl and Sara Curtis
Edited by Jen Poyant and Davis Land
Engineered by Daniel Ramirez
Original music by Dan PowellElisheba IttoopDiane WongMarion Lozano and Rowan Niemisto
'How did I let myself go for so many years without connecting to all these people who I love? How did I convince myself that that was the right path?'
Sam Graham-Felsen never imagined being lonely. Throughout his childhood and as a young man his life revolved around his friends. But when Sam got married and then had kids, going out with his friends almost felt like a luxury. After years of focusing on everything in his life except friendship, Sam began to realize he was missing something essential, and he decided to get his friends back.
On this episode of 'Modern Love,' Mr. Graham-Felsen describes how he went from being a boy with a wealth of deep friendships to finding himself feeling lonely as an adult, and what he did to bring friendship back into his life.
Read his essay 'Where Have All My Deep Male Friendships Gone?' in The New York Times Magazine.
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'Modern Love' is hosted by Anna Martin and produced by Reva Goldberg, Emily Lang, Davis Land, Amy Pearl and Sara Curtis. The show is edited by Davis Land and Jen Poyant, our executive producer. Production management is by Christina Djossa. The show is mixed by Daniel Ramirez and recorded by Maddy Masiello and Nick Pitman. It features original music by Elisheba Ittoop, Dan Powell, Marion Lozano, Rowan Niemisto and Diane Wong. Our theme music is by Dan Powell.
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