Safiyya Vorajee opens up on struggle to find someone worthy of her love following heartbreaking split from Ashley Cain who she dated after having an abusive relationship

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Ashley Cain's ex Safiyya Vorajee has opened up about struggling to find someone worthy of love as she shared a new Instagram post on Thursday.
The influencer, 36, re-shared the heartfelt words from New York Times best selling author R. H. Sin which told people not to allow your 'exes the power to make you stop believing in love'.
Safiyya has previously been open about having an abusive ex boyfriend who 'hit and beat her, smashed her car up and removed her closest friends and family from her life'.
She has also claimed last month that she split from Ashley because he turned to alcohol following the death of their baby daughter Azaylia.
The post read: 'I know you're struggling with finding a partner who is genuinely worthy of your devotion and energy.
'I know that it's been some time since you've known what an abundance of love and peace feels like during a relationship and there are times where you just want to give but you have to remember that you are proof that real love exists because real love exists within you.
The influencer, 36, re-shared the heartfelt words from New York Times best selling author R. H. Sin which told people not to allow your 'exes the power to make you stop believing in love'
'Understand that you are fully capable of being the love of your life while you preserve your heart for the love of your life.
'Something good is coming and I don't want you to allow your exes the power to make you stop believing in a love that will match your efforts and desire.
'I'm telling you this because I care about you and your heart!'
Safiyya and television personality Ashley, 33, tragically lost their little girl when she was eight months old after she battled a rare form of cancer.
Azaylia was diagnosed with with acute myeloid leukemia and had tumours on her lungs, stomach and kidneys.
She was given several rounds of chemotherapy and a bone marrow transplant at Birmingham Children's Hospital but sadly died on April 24, 2021.
Safiyya said both she and former Ex On The Beach star Ashley struggled with their grief, however he started to 'drink quite a lot' causing them to separate.
Speaking to Paul C Brunson on his We Need To Talk podcast, she said that she 'waited for him' to navigate his grief but it became to much for her.
She has also claimed last month that she split from Ashley because he turned to alcohol following the death of their baby daughter Azaylia
Safiyya said: 'I was like lets ride through this together and he had his own protective armour around him and the feelings and pain he was in, he couldn't navigate it.
'I kind of waited for him but he ended up drinking quite a lot and going down that road.
'I'm not someone who really drinks and I needed him but he needed to be by himself.
'There is no right and wrong with grief.'
Elsewhere in the chat, Safiyya revealed she gave Ashley a 90 day trial to step away from boozing when they first got together romantically.
At the time, Ashley was doing club appearances and DJing but Safiyya said the only way their relationship would work was if he came home afterwards instead of partying into the early hours.
She explained: 'I said show me the man I want, I gave him the 90 day test. It was just slowing down the pace of going out and partying, so like go to work, get paid and come home because he used to party after.
'I was like show me but if you don't want to, that is fine, but he passed the test with flying colours'.
MailOnline has contacted Ashley's representatives for comment.
Elsewhere, Safiyya broke down as she opened up about an abusive ex boyfriend who 'hit and beat her, smashed her car up and removed her closest friends and family from her life'.
Speaking about the unnamed ex, who she said she dated prior to Ashley but did not name, she said: 'Relationships I've had an absolute mess with I ended up in a domestic relationship in my early 20s and I didn't see that coming from how strong I didn't see that coming.
'It was the love bombing, I was feeling lonely and I felt like I needed a partner and even though my career and work were going well I felt empty and like I needed someone.
'It was like he wants to take me to a fancy hotel and dinners and shopping and holidays and I was like yes I found this guy but these things were coming in gradually where I was like, "oh I thought you'd think like me wearing this" and slowly he was chipping away from me mentally and I thought everything I was doing was wrong and I was shrinking to suit him.'
Recalling one of her horrific incidents, Safiyya said: 'I was driving in the car and I can't remember what the disagreement was about but he whacked me straight in the face.
'I stopped the car and pushed me out of the car and jumped into the drivers seat and I was just left and he drove off with my car and I had to borrow a phone to ring my mum to come collect me to take me home.
'My mum told me not to go back again but I went back and I felt like it was my fault and it was insane. My mum tried everything to stop me. He was so sorry and he hadn't done that before and he loved me so much and he'd prove it to me. I stayed for four years.'
Paul asked if the abuse happened again and without hesitation she replied 'repeatedly'.
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A timeline of Azaylia's six-month leukaemia battle
October 2020: Ashley emotionally revealed his daughter had been diagnosed with a 'rare and aggressive' form of leukaemia, which he described as an 'uphill battle'.
Azaylia was turned away by doctors three times and prescribed laxatives and a nasal spray when her breathing was impeded, shortly before her diagnosis.
By the end of the month, the brave child faced her second surgery and 16th chemotherapy-related treatment in less than two weeks.
November 2020: Azaylia's hair started to fall out just weeks after she was diagnosed.
Doctors informed Ashley and his family that the tot needed a bone marrow transplant and blood donation.
Due to her Caribbean, Burmese, Indian and English background, the footballer said it was very difficult to find a match for a transplant.
Azaylia was brought home for a few days before her second round of chemotherapy.
December 2020: 80,000 people became stem cell donors 48 hours after Ashley appealed for the public's help.
So sad: Azaylia's hair started to fall out just weeks after she was diagnosed in November
January 2021: The TV star confirmed a stem cell donor had been found for his baby daughter Azaylia.
She received her stem cell transplant but her cancer sadly returned following a third round of chemotherapy.
February 2021: Azaylia responded well to her stem cell treatment and doctors were impressed with 'how strong she was'.
She underwent further surgery to discover whether her leukaemia had gone. Later in the month, doctors revealed her cancer had returned.
March 2021: They were told there were 'very few options' to help the baby's condition before she had another bone marrow test. She relapsed by the end of the month and underwent her fourth round of chemotherapy.
Ashley surpassed his target goal of £1million after he set up a GoFundMe to pay for life-saving treatment for his daughter Azaylia.
The former Ex On The Beach star took to social media to ask fans for help in donating, explaining the treatment his daughter needed is available in Singapore.
Ashley described the treatment, CAR-T therapy, as 'the only option to save Azaylia's life' and said he and partner Safiyya may have to fly out in a matter of weeks, adding it will take a minimum of one year.
Celebrities such as former TOWIE star Kate Ferdinand, Love Island's Molly-Mae Hague and PrettyLittleThing founder Umar Kamani all donated.
Despite efforts from around the world, pharmaceutical companies could not release the life-saving drugs needed to beat his daughter Azaylia's battle.
April 2021: Healthcare professionals revealed Azaylia only had a few days to live as they discovered tumours in her stomach, her spleen, her liver and her kidneys, in addition to tumours in her brain.
Her parents bathed her in the hospital for a final time before they returned home.
They marked her turning eight months old by having moulds made of her feet, and Azaylia was met with support from the London Underground and Dwayne 'The Rock' Johnson.
She received life-prolonging transfusion after her condition caused profuse bleeding and public figures joined the nationwide clap held in her honour.
Azaylia was nominated for a Pride of Britain award and had a plane draw a heart in the sky for her.
The tot was put on oxygen to aid her sleep, and struggled to open her eyes due to swelling.
Scam artists set up fake Facebook pages in her name, with Ashley admitting: 'We feel really sad it has come to this'.
Azaylia returned to hospital for another platelet transfusion a few days before she died.
The influencer's 'fragile' daughter stopped breathing and suffered seizures before Ashley confirmed her death.