People Are Sharing The Biggest Red Flags They Ignored Because Their Partner Was Hot, And I Guess Rose-Colored Glasses Really Are A Thing

Yahoo

05-07-2025

Recently, Reddit user u/Tuckeygaming asked, "What is the biggest red flag you ignored because they were hot?"
Here's a look at some of the top-voted responses:
1."He literally said, 'Fuck, I'm probably going to wind up seriously hurting you' the first time we got drunk together. A year and some change later, he started an affair with his best friend's fiancée! He called it!"
—drunky_crowette
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2."She was married, but told me that her marriage had been purely platonic for years and that she was allowed to have lovers. I didn't question it. I should have."
—Bravemount
3."He got into a car wreck because he installed a PlayStation in his car and he and his friend were playing it while he was driving."
—Rustmutt
4."What I thought was confidence in him slowly became toxic narcissism."
—AlbinoGiraffes
"In my opinion, learning the difference between confidence, arrogance, and narcissism is one of the most helpful lessons you could learn."
—smygartofflor
5."He was dumber than a rock. I swear to Christ, he was the walking inspiration for Derek Zoolander. Walking and screwing were about the only things he could do without breaking something or causing something to go wrong. He attempted to wash (my) dishes with laundry soap, he could not remember where I lived or what apartment I was in (even after coming over five times), and he confused the 4th of July with Presidents Day. He assumed his work schedule was incorrect for scheduling him on Presidents Day, as they must be closed, and he simply did not go in."
"I made it through three weeks. If I'd have stayed with him, I'd have had to develop a heroic drinking problem just to cope. Good lord, was he hot though, I seriously didn't want to admit he was also profoundly dumb."
—silversatire
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6."Said she thought cheating could be used as a power move."
—mightybjorn
7."She was always on her phone, but never replied to my texts."
—teslatank0
8."He was really attractive and charismatic. He was also a pathological liar, but my friends and I never suspected a thing for months."
—Any_Field_8184
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9."Whenever I did something pleasant, romantic, sweet, or loving, he would would treat me like shit. When I would show zero interest in him for being such a dickhead, he would treat me like royalty. Pull out every stop, every trick in the book to romance me and make me forget about it. When I would be sweet back, it turned him off. The more I ignored him and rejected him for being a total asshole, the more he wanted me. It was this weird game. After a while, I grew tired. I didn't want to play anymore."
—JizuzCrust
10."I ignored the biggest flashing neon sign warning about my ex that came from a friend of his. She told me, quote, 'He is going to be very hard to love because he is always looking for a fight and thinks he has something to prove.' She said I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but I'm just warning you about it. If you think you're up to the task, then go for it, but I just wanted to let you know. I wish I had heeded her warning."
—Babyhandgrenade
11."She had cheated on all her exes, but she told me I was special lol."
—AdorableProcedure268
12."The complete lack of emotional regulation skills."
—None
13."He believed the Necronomicon was real and claimed to have done several incantations from it."
—Cthulia
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14."Interestingly enough, his ex cornered me at my place of work right as I started hanging out with him, and she WARNED me about him. I brushed it off and wrote her off as crazy. Sure enough, literally everything she said came true. Her warning always lived in the back of my mind and eventually helped me get the nerve to kick him out. I've always wanted to run into her again and thank her and apologize for calling her crazy."
—Sassquapadelia
15."Manipulating me into buying things for him, and the way he generally used me for my kindness and generosity."
—JasonDomber
16."She was perfectly fine manipulating other guys and bragging about it in front of me. But I was different. I'm an idiot."
—lulpwned
17.And finally, "I might win this one. He had just been released from prison for the attempted murder of his own mother. Yes, he was that cute."
—themonicastone
Have you ever dated someone who was SO HOT that you ignored every red flag? Tell us about them in the comments!
Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
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