Woman Threatens to Move Out If Husband Allows Sister to Move Into Their 2-Bedroom Apartment
A man told his wife that his sister needed a place to stay, and he suggested she crash in their two-bedroom apartment
However, with their toddler sleeping in their second bedroom, the wife said no
She told her husband that if his sister moved in, she would move outA woman found herself at odds with her husband after telling him that his sister couldn't stay at their apartment.
In a Reddit post, the woman shares that she lives with her husband and their toddler in a small two-bedroom apartment. The second bedroom is reserved for the toddler, and they don't have a guest room or spare mattress.
However, her husband's sister recently called and said she needed a place to 'stay for a while.'
"No details. Just boom, she's on her way. She's not asking. She's telling us," the woman writes. "Apparently she got into it with her roommate and 'can't deal with the drama.' Her words."
The woman told her husband "straight up no," not because she doesn't care about his sibling, but because they simply "don't have the space."
'Our kid wakes up if someone breathes too loudly near his room. I'm already running on fumes from the night feedings and the 4 AM cries. The last thing I need is another adult here adding to the chaos,' the woman shares.
Her husband then told her that she was 'being cold," noting that family is family and "it's just temporary" — despite not knowing his sister's long-term plans.
"I asked how long is temporary. He shrugs. Says a few weeks, maybe a couple months. No plan. No end date. Just vibes and guilt," she writes.
"I tried to be clear. I said, If she moves in, I move out. I didn't mean it as a threat. I just meant I literally won't be able to function in this house if she's here full time," she continues. "I'm already stretched thin. This would break me. He looked at me like I'd just kicked his puppy. Said I was forcing him to choose."
She noted that it's actually the other way around, as his sister is the one who put them in such a tough place.
Still, "now things are tense" and her husband is "barely talking" to her, all while his sister keeps trying to "guilt-bait" him.
'I feel like the bad guy. Like I'm this evil wife keeping his poor sister out on the streets or something. But also I'm tired of always being the one who bends,' the woman confesses.
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Most Redditors came to her defense, applauding her for putting her foot down.
'She hasn't been evicted. Unless she is in actual danger then she doesn't need the help she is asking for. That kind of help is for emergencies not for not being able to handle the drama,' one person wrote, to which the poster replied, 'Thanks. I agree help should go to those truly in crisis. She's stressed, but this isn't an emergency.'
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