Most people use these 3 sneaky tactics to break up with someone — here's how to recognize if it's happening to you
A recent study published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences shared strategies people often use when breaking up with someone.
Reportedly, breakups are harder for men than women. But regardless of who's ending things, there are three common ways people go about it, according to the study.
'Most people will experience the end of an intimate relationship (usually several times), with either themselves or their partners initiating it. Because this phenomenon is relatively common and painful, I was motivated to ask how people actually do so, which the current research aimed to address,' said study author Menelaos Apostolou, a professor of evolutionary psychology at the University of Nicosia, according to Psy Post.
228 participants in the study — both men and women in their early 30s — were asked to envision themselves in a relationship they weren't happy in and then write down how they would go about ending it.
228 others were instructed to look at 45 different ways of breaking up with someone and figure out how likely they would use any of the methods.
Based on the responses researchers received from the hundreds of participants, the most popular method to break things off with someone (86%) is the 'softening the blow' tactic.
Common examples of this method are trying not to blame the other person and taking responsibility for some of the wrongdoing in the relationship.
Another common way people say 'thank you, next' to their partners is by suggesting a break.
24% of the young adults said that taking a break is the best option. Although many couples don't come back from a period of being apart, people argued it's an opportunity for both individuals to evaluate the relationship separately to decide if they want to continue dating or not.
And the third commonly used breakup method is avoiding confrontation — aka ghosting. 16% of people would rather not say anything at all and instead slowly drift away from their partner — leaving the other person confused and heartbroken, wondering what went wrong.
The group who prefer to ghost their significant others are probably the same people who would consider using AI to end a relationship.
According to a survey by dating assistant Wingmate, 41% of people use bots to break things off with someone. And reportedly, women are more guilty of this than men.
Nearly half of 18- to 29-year-olds find that it's easier to ask someone else — Chapt GPT, that is — to do the dirty work for them.
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