Trouble in paradise? The Obamas laugh off divorce rumours in candid podcast chat

IOL News

18-07-2025

Former First Lady of the United States of America, with her husband, the first Black president of the United States of America, Barack Obama.
Image: Pablo Martinez Monsivais/AP
If you've scrolled through social media lately, you might have stumbled upon whispers or rather, headlines asking, Are Barack and Michelle Obama getting divorced?
For some, this rumour came as a shock. How could one of the world's most admired couples possibly be on the rocks?
But the truth, as Michelle Obama herself reminded us recently, is far more empowering, and it says a lot about the everyday pressures modern couples face.
In a refreshingly candid moment, former First Lady Michelle Obama addressed the swirling divorce rumours on her podcast Work in Progress with actress Sophia Bush. She revealed that her choice to skip certain high-profile events like Donald Trump's inauguration or former President Jimmy Carter's funeral was never about marital discord.
It was simply about something we often forget women, even former First Ladies, are allowed to do: say no.
'I chose to do what was best for me. Not what I had to do. Not what I thought other people wanted me to do,' Michelle told Bush, highlighting a struggle many women know too well, the guilt that comes with disappointing others.
If you think the Obamas took these rumours to heart, think again. They tackled them head-on, with humour and warmth, the same qualities that made the world fall in love with them in the first place.
On her new podcast, "IMO", which she co-hosts with her brother Craig Robinson, Michelle invited her husband Barack to chat about parenting young men.
But before the serious talk began, they decided to laugh at the headlines. 'Wait, you guys like each other?' Robinson teased when Barack joined the episode.
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'Don't make me cry now.' Barack and Michelle Obama address divorce rumors for the first time. pic.twitter.com/FpaooIqGyp — Mike Sington (@MikeSington) July 16, 2025
'Oh yeah, the rumour mill,' Michelle shot back. Barack played along, adding, 'She took me back. It was touch and go for a while.'
Humour aside, there's a deeper relationship lesson here. The Obamas' playful honesty reveals that a strong marriage doesn't always look the way society wants it to look, glued at the hip, attending every event side by side.
Sometimes, it looks like two people who trust each other enough to stand apart.
Michelle didn't just clear the air with jokes, though. She reminded listeners of her commitment in the most heartfelt way possible: 'There hasn't been one moment in our marriage where I have thought about quitting on my man… We've had some really hard times… I've become a better person because of the man I'm married to.'
These words hold power for any of us who've ever felt the pressure to prove our relationship's worth to the world.
As couples therapist Dr Laura Berman told Psychology Today, 'Healthy couples respect each other's individuality and boundaries. Time apart can actually strengthen trust and deepen connection.'
Research backs this up, a 2018 study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships found that partners who maintain personal space and independent interests often report greater satisfaction and lower conflict in the long run.
Michelle Obama discusses the challenges of raising daughters Malia and Sasha in the public eye.
Image: Instagram
Exactly why do we, the public, struggle so much when high-profile couples dare to break the fairytale script?
The short answer: we're obsessed with perfect appearances. When we see a gap like Michelle choosing a solo day instead of a public event, we fill it with drama.
Dr Jennifer Freed, a relationship expert and author of Use Your Planets Wisely, says society still expects women, especially wives, to show up for everyone except themselves. 'When women set boundaries, people panic.
But boundaries are healthy,' Freed told The Guardian in 2023.
Michelle knows this too well. 'The interesting thing is, when I say 'no,' people are usually okay with it. But this year, they couldn't fathom it; they had to assume we were divorcing,' she told Bush.
Perhaps the real story here isn't about whether Michelle skipped an event.
It's about whether the rest of us can learn to respect when a partner says no and not take it as a sign of trouble.
The Obamas, who've been married since 1992 and raised two daughters, Malia, now 27, and Sasha, 24, show that healthy relationships are less about showing up for the cameras and more about showing up for each other, privately, consistently, and honestly.