Woman Labeled 'Pick-Me' for Saying Sister Should Wear 'Sexist' Dress to Rekindle Romance with Husband
A Reddit user is getting hate for supporting her sister's decision to spice up her love life with a revealing dress
The sister, Becky, had asked her husband to pick out a dress for her to wear on their next date night — but Becky's friends thought her husband's tastes were "sexist"
Becky's sister, on the other hand, figured it wasn't that deep and supported her sister buying the dressA woman is questioning her decision to weigh in on her sister's style.
In a post to Reddit's "AITA" forum, a woman recalled a recent shopping trip with her sister Becky and some of their friends. Becky told the group she and her husband were in the "roommate phase," but has been putting in effort to get out of the rut — most recently, she asked her husband to pick out a dress he thought was "sexy," with the intention of her buying it and wearing it to their next date.
Becky showed the group the photo her husband sent back, and got a slew of negative reactions. It was a clubbing sort of dress, the woman wrote — a short bodycon number with thin straps, a high slit and a deep neckline. "Like if you Googled 'generic sexy dress,' I bet it would come up," the woman added.
The group of friends called her husband's choice "gross and sexist," adding it spoke to his values. Some suggested that Becky's husband thought of her as a "trophy," or that he had a sexist view of women, based on the dress.
"I thought this was a huge overreaction. Like ... it's definitely not her style but I didn't think it was THAT bad," the woman said of her sister in the post. "So I told her to just get the dress and stop overthinking it."
Just as they condemned the dress, Becky's friends condemned the woman for supporting it. Others in the group called the woman a "pick-me" for not thinking Becky's husband should love her as she is. The woman argued she didn't believe her brother-in-law was trying to change her sister, but the group was adamant.
Now, Becky's sister is worried she said the wrong thing — she assumed it was a "support, not solutions" situation, she wrote, but is concerned she approached it incorrectly.
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Users in the comments widely agreed that the group of friends was overreacting, and the woman wasn't wrong. One argued that the dress was more or less a "fantasy," of which the point "is that it's fantastical."
"She didn't ask him, 'How do you want me to dress?' She told him, 'Send me an example of a dress that you find sexy,' " one commenter wrote. "He never asked her to dress like that. She took that challenge upon herself. If she's not up to it, then she shouldn't do it, but that's not his fault or yours."
Others noted that Becky's husband's suggestion wasn't unprompted — Becky asked for his opinion. One user said her friends should have supported Becky, who seemed to need a boost of confidence to step into the dress more than anything else.
"She said she's trying to save her marriage. It's just a dress — as her friend, I would've hyped her up," another wrote.
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