Mom Is Accused of Never Putting ‘Limits' on Her Daughter's 'Fun' in a Fight With Her Husband Over a Playdate
A woman said that her husband 'was not happy' when she allowed their 5-year-old daughter to have an unplanned playdate with a friend
She added that he claimed it would throw off their afternoon and argued that their daughter already had 'more than enough fun' that day
The woman detailed her story on a popular community site, and opinions were mixed over which parent was in the rightA woman says she and her husband had differing opinions on the best way to handle a situation with their 5-year-old daughter — and she's asking others for an outside perspective.
The woman detailed her experience in the 'Am I Being Unreasonable?' forum on the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet.com, a place where parents can seek advice about interpersonal dilemmas. In her post, the woman said that her husband is generally slow to get ready when leaving the house, and that she is 'always' waiting for him.
The woman explained that their daughter recently had a birthday party to attend.
She continued, 'My [daughter's] friend's mom asked if I could watch her [daughter] for a couple of hours after the party. It was a morning party, so she'd be ready to be picked up at 2:30 from my house.'
The original poster said that while she and her husband had plans to drop by his parents' house that day, the timing was flexible so she didn't think a playdate after the birthday party would be an issue. She added that she figured she could watch the children while her husband took the extra time he needed to get ready for the next part of their day. Because of this, she agreed to the playdate.
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'My [daughter] was so excited,' the woman recalled, adding that her daughter is 'constantly asking for playdates with her friends and we don't do it that often.
However, the mom said that her husband 'was not happy about this,' claiming that the playdate would 'hold them up' for the rest of their day. He also told her that she never puts 'limits' on their daughter's fun and that 'going to a party was more than enough fun for her in one day.'
The woman said that by the time they got back from the party, the other child was only with them for 'an hour or so," at which point they went about their day as planned.
'Who's unreasonable?' the woman asked her fellow community members at the end of her post.
Many commenters said that they think the woman's husband was being unreasonable in this situation.
'He wants you to put limits on your daughter's fun…..? Wha…? YANBU [you are not being unreasonable],' one person said.
Another person added, 'He's the unreasonable one. I wouldn't have even considered this as being a 'play date.' It's doing a favor for another parent, and you never know when you might need a favour in return.'
'He sounds quite irritating,' yet another commenter replied.
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One person, however, admitted that they would have been irritated as well if a spouse changed the day's plan without consulting them first.
'I don't like the 'limits on fun' part, but it seems you did unilaterally make plans on what's actually a shared family day, without consulting or discussing with him. So I think overall, YABU [you are bring unreasonable],' they said.
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