"It's Such A Turn-Off": Frustrated Women Are Revealing Everyday Things Guys Aren't Ready To Hear About Women, And This Is So Spot On
Note: The story below discusses harassment.
Let's be honest: there are a lot of things men don't know about women. So when I saw Reddit user Early-Manner-473 ask: "Women of Reddit, what are some things the guys aren't ready to hear about women?" I thought it would be helpful to share their answers. Here's what they said below.
1."If you don't do your share of the chores, then in our minds you become a child to care for, and we lose attraction and desire."
—Rounders_in_knickers
"Facts. I don't want to pick up after a grown man. It's such a turn-off."
—woolyjumper2
2."We observe how you treat women you're not attracted to."
—M_Ad
"My mom taught me to pay attention to how a man treats the elderly, babies, and animals — or just how he treats others in general."
—Sea_Breath28
3."We have a lot more body hair than some men seem to think we do. A lot of us, in addition to shaving our legs, are also shaving our toes."
—NoIntroduction2673
"When I got laser hair removal on my legs, I asked if I could get it on my toes. Apparently, the whole top of the foot is included with the leg, so I was pretty psyched."
—stampedingnuns
4."That the first however many minutes it takes a guy to decide if they want to sleep with us, we are deciding if you are a safe person to be around."
—raerae1991
"Exactly! Sometimes, it seems to only take mere seconds. About two weeks ago, two men stopped me while I was walking and asked me a bunch of invasive questions. They were trying to get me to go somewhere after work with them. It was so strange."
—Hello-Avrammm
5."Just because we're nice doesn't mean we're interested. Kindness ≠ flirting. A woman being polite isn't a green light, and rejecting someone doesn't make her cold or rude."
—Ok-Raspberry-5374
"Sometimes we're polite and nice because we're uncomfortable and scared of you and trying to safely end the interaction without upsetting you.
I can only speak for myself, but if I'm interested, there will be some teasing, joking, etc. I won't be using the same politeness I use with people I meet when I go to church with my parents."
—EducationWestern5204
6."Period shits. Periods give a lot of women wild indigestion, and there's no experience quite like having three liquids coming from your body at the same time. Sorry."
—lady-luthien
"By my count, six liquids: Evacuating your guts from both ends, peeing, bleeding, sweating, and crying.
Multitasking."
—UhLeXSauce
7."Bras fucking suck most of the time. More specifically, our underwear isn't as comfortable as guys."
—Grey_0724
8."I was hit on more by grown men when I was between the ages of 12-17 than I am now at 24. This isn't uncommon, and many of my friends have also experienced this. Call out your pedo friends."
—voidharmony
"Yep. I didn't realize it until I was out of college because in college I was surrounded by college-aged guys, but holy shit, that spikes in your early teens then falls off so fast. It's horrifying.
I'm 32 now and haven't dealt with this for years. I love that for myself, but am also realistic about what I look like and what I looked like as a literal child when I was getting that attention. It's foul and more men need to call that shit out."
—willikersmister
9."Guys with big dicks, be proud of it if you want, but keep in mind that it can hurt some women! The bigger it is, the more foreplay, communication, and gentleness are needed the first time. Don't assume it's going to be amazing for everyone. You have to check to make sure your partner is okay, and stop if they're not. Vaginas can't handle every size dick instantly because it's capable of childbirth, those are very different actions. Seriously, stop if your partner is not okay, please."
"In fact, no matter your size, always check that your partner is okay. Real sex isn't like porn, you have to talk or have your partner signal that things are still good. You don't know what's going on in their head unless you ask or they tell you. No orgasm is worth traumatizing someone."
—Saphira9
"Also, just because you have a big dick doesn't mean you don't also need all the other skills, too.
I don't wanna speak for everyone, but I'd personally rather a small penis and great hands and mouth vs. a big penis and average hands and mouth."
—kucky94
10."If you only see women as romantic or sexual partners, you are very likely (whether you realize it or not) treating most women like they don't matter. Besides, treating the remaining ones as though they only matter for one reason. It is making you unlikable. Think of them as people, regardless of your personal level of attraction to them, and you might find yourself a more likable person."
—InimitableMe
11."We want you to amp up the foreplay and go down on us more and act like we are the most beautiful thing on the planet and every other girl could never compare."
—aimeeytk
12."Not taking no for an answer and lingering around women who have made it very clear your presence is not wanted is a complete and total ick. It's genuinely so gross, and I don't know why some men still do this. It makes me want to bust out my beard mace on y'all."
—AnywhereParty573
13."We can say the exact same thing as a man, and be taken automatically less seriously or talked down to more than a man would. A lot of us have to work harder to even be seen as competent, especially by certain groups of men. It's especially apparent when it's less obvious I am a woman online, and not talked down to nearly as often."
—Cthulhuhaspeduncles
"Yep. My experience as a woman in construction: men are perceived as competent until they prove the opposite, and women are perceived as incompetent until we prove the opposite.
Also, we are often seen as one homogeneous entity. I've heard so many variations of 'I once worked with a woman who was bad at this job, so I thought maybe this just isn't for women.' I then always say the same thing: 'Ok, but how many incompetent men do you know?' It's almost comical seeing the realization in their faces."
—ellenitha
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