Woman Considers Canceling International Vacation for Milestone Birthday Due to Friend's Last-Minute Request

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The woman feels she's gone from "birthday guest of honor" to "plus one on their vacation"NEED TO KNOW
A woman is considering canceling her birthday trip after her friend invited her husband
The two women were planning to have a girls' trip, filled with "sun, spas, great food, and quality girl time" — "a real getaway from everything," the woman shared on Reddit
But the friend's husband tagging along seems to change the dynamic too much, the woman saidA woman is considering canceling her birthday trip after her friend invited her husband at the last minute.
In a recent Reddit post, the woman vented about an awkward hitch in an upcoming international vacation with one of her best friends. It was originally planned as a girls' trip, just the two of them celebrating the woman's milestone birthday — until the friend decided to let her husband tag along.
The woman and her friend, both 30 years old, had a full itinerary planned for the vacation: a few days in Dubai, full of "sun, spas, great food, and quality girl time," a "real getaway from everything — just us catching up and celebrating."
Since the woman lives in the United States and her friend is in the United Kingdom, they had spent weeks sorting out flights and schedules so that they could meet up in London and then fly together to Dubai.
However, after weeks of planning, "out of nowhere," the friend told the woman that her husband wanted to come along on the trip. The friend offered to book a two-bedroom suite, even noting that she would cover all the costs.
"I get that it's generous, and I do appreciate the offer — but I kind of don't want to go anymore," the poster admits.
"It was supposed to be a girls' trip for my birthday. I didn't sign up for a couples trip. I don't want to be a third wheel," she writes.
Now, she feels like she's been "demoted from 'birthday guest of honor' to 'plus one on their vacation.' "
The woman was also a bit confused, considering the plan was for her friend's husband to stay home with their two young children — in fact, his caring for the kids was her friend's justification for going on the trip in the first place.
But now, the friend said her husband "doesn't wanna stay home with the kids."
The whole trip's dynamic has changed in the woman's eyes, she wrote, and now she's considering canceling.
She turned to Reddit to see if she was in the wrong for thinking that "it's kind of messed up that she invited her husband on a trip that was clearly meant to be a girls' trip."
Although she "feels pretty let down," she wasn't sure how to bring it up, but Redditors urged the woman to have a frank conversation with her friend before just canceling.
"If you dont do this now you'll either make her angry that she booked everything and you canceled last minute OR you'll go, be angry the whole time and resent her for it," one wrote. "Either way you'll have a damaged relationship."
Then, if the friend still insists on bringing her husband, commenters suggested the woman send a candid but polite message indicating she's canceling. "Tell her you appreciate the generous offer, but the dynamics of the trip have changed and you've decided to enjoy your birthday another way," another commenter suggested.
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