Gender Agenda newsletter: Troll toll

The Hindu

11-05-2025

Troll toll
In just the course of a week, Himanshi Narwal has received an outpouring of love as well as a groundswell of hate from many Indians. Himanshi became the face of the Pahalgam tragedy after she was clicked sitting beside the body of her husband, 26-year-old Lieutenant Vinay Narwal, moments after he was shot dead by terrorists in the Baisaran meadows. The couple had been married for less than a week and were on their honeymoon. Her stunned face became a symbol of the carnage on April 22.
But days later, the sympathy quickly turned into rage. The attack in Pahalgam, which had been targeted at Hindu men, triggered Islamophobia and anti-Kashmiri sentiments — some Hindu right-wing groups attacked Muslim shawl sellers in Kashmir and some threatened Kashmiri vendors and students in other regions across India. Himanshi, resisting the weaponisation of her husband's death, asked people not to target Muslims and Kashmiris. For pleading for peace, she was viciously trolled.
Around the same time, following the alleged sexual abuse of a minor girl, communal tensions spread in Nainital and protesters began vandalising the shops of the Muslim community. As a Newslaundryreport pointed out, after a brave woman, Shaila Negi, stood in the midst of the mob pleading for peace while also protesting against the 'misogynistic slogans being raised against the victim', she began to be targeted on social media.
The patriarchy toolkit dictates that when a woman says something unpalatable, inconvenient, or contrary to an aggressive narrative, she must be personally attacked. And so on cue, abusers swarmed over social media, accusing Himanshi of 'being Hindu woke pro max' and of 'having many Kashmiri M friends'; and demanding that Shaila be raped. With the storm of hatred only growing, the National Commission of Women put out a statement in support of Himanshi saying, 'It is not right to troll a woman on the basis of her ideological expression or personal life.'
While men too get abused online, the nature of abuse of women is different and seeks to dehumanise them. As Manish Tiwari points out here, 'While men may encounter misinformation and disinformation regarding their actions or duties, women face objectification, sexually explicit content and body shaming.' This has been the case for years, yet Big Tech's continuing failure to curb the deluge of abuse against women is dismaying. As a result, even though the digital gender divide has narrowed in India, 'a surge in gender-based violence (GBV), particularly tech-facilitated GBV, threatens to overshadow gains,' points out this piece.
Writer and Karla Mantilla called this the 'gender trolling' of women. In her book Gendertrolling: How Misogyny Went Viral, she says it is becoming an increasingly common strategy of right-wing movements to keep women 'in their place'.
But Himanshi and Shaila refused to be cowed down. Supported by countless women and men, they sought to double down on what they said and prevent the fanning of flames. As Gurmehar Kaur, the author of Small Acts of Freedom, said to Himanshi in an open letter: 'In your darkest moment, you have protected what is most sacred about India: its soul.' And India's soul is feminine: emotionally responsive, nurturing, and collaborative.
Toolkit
In her latest fictional work, Dream Count, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie focuses on the interlocking lives of four middle-aged African women. The book, 10 years in the making, explores various strands of the female experience — the beauty of female friendships, the mother-daughter relationship, of financial empowerment, but also the pain of childbirth and the horror of sexual abuse experienced by some — all with Adichie's trademark humour and satire. Read a review here.
Wordsworth
Sex selection: The practice of influencing or determining the sex of an offspring. According to UNICEF, sex selection can take place before a pregnancy is established by pressurising a woman to birth a boy, during pregnancy through prenatal sex detection and selective abortion, or following birth through infanticide or child neglect. In the last week of April, the Hong Kong police arrested 10 people for allegedly providing illegal sex selection and surrogate services.
Somewhere someone said something stupid
I just think if you were a senator, it would be hard for the kids.
Boyfriend of Sophia Kianni (best friend of Phoebe Gates, Bill Gates' daughter ) when she told him she wanted to become a senator
People we met
Satchit Puranik, a theatre activist, found inspiration in the 'Why Loiter' campaign to cross-dress and walk the streets to find out what women experience. His play, 'Loitering', challenges gender roles. About cross-dressing, he says, 'I am broadly built, I have long hair and a beard. So, I am a strong presence in a public place. But when I wear a woman's clothes, everyone starts saying cross-dressers should be walking a certain way, looking a certain way, waxing their legs, etc. The whole act is strangely discomforting.'