Dear Mary: How do I calculate how much caviar to take?
– A.H., Penrith
A. Your host would not have been hoping for anyone to 'go easy' or he would not have had the whole tin presented. You should have calculated roughly what a sixth of the tin would constitute and taken slightly less. This would not have been considered greedy but the correct amount to take.
Q. My sons, who are in their late twenties, walk around the house wearing their AirPods, which makes interaction almost impossible. My wife and I are always longing to hear their news and tell them ours. What can we do, Mary?
– T.L., Hedgerley, Bucks
A. Don't take this personally. Blocking out others is a side effect of the housing crisis. The young are craving the mental privacy which, in previous generations, they could have been enjoying in their own homes. Pleasantly suggest you listen to the same thing so you can have some shared references to bond over. Can they set it up on your own iPhone? This will unnerve them to the extent that they will prefer to take out the AirPods and talk to you.
Q. My retired husband has begun a collection of bonsai trees. For him it is an absorbing and aesthetically pleasing activity which I have encouraged, but the downside is that our social life is now being impacted. We have been invited to a week on the Spey, which is always great fun, but this year he doesn't feel he can leave the bonsais for that amount of time.
What should I do? – Name withheld, London
A. An agency called Plant Sit (www.plantsit.com) could provide holiday cover in the form of sympathetic horticulturalists. They come highly recommended and are roughly £35 a visit.
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