Here's the generation with the best parenting skills: ‘We're not helicopter parents – we're gliders'
Look, I firmly believe that every generation is doing it's best with the tools and environment we're dealing with at the time. But lately, I've noticed something strange. Something… flattering.
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Every second parenting trend on social media looks eerily familiar. The calm-but-firm approach. The 'I love you deeply, but no you cannot have a lollipop at 7 a.m.' energy. The idea that kids don't need to be entertained 24/7 and that boredom is character-building. All of it? That's classic Gen X parenting. And now it's having a moment.
7 Gen X is known to have a calm-but-firm approach to parenting.
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We were once written off as too hands-off – the generation that let ourselves in after school and ate Sunnyboys in front of Neighbours. But now? Our boundary-driven, emotionally available, no-fuss parenting style is suddenly the blueprint for modern parenting.
We're not helicopter parents – we're gliders
7 Gen X has always known when to let our kids figure things out and when to step in.
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Unlike the Boomers, who went hard on the discipline, or the Millennials, who researched parenting like it was a PhD, we Gen Xers took a more balanced approach. We weren't hovering. We were watching from a distance, ready to swoop in if someone was bleeding or about to microwave a fork.
We've always known when to let our kids figure things out and when to step in – mostly after a suspicious silence or the smell of burning.
We were raised by TV – and common sense
7 When Gen X became parents, they brought a mix of resilience, independence, and practicality with them.
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Let's be honest: our own childhoods were a little unhinged. We sat in the back of Holden Commodores without seatbelts, ate cheese slices straight off the plastic, and considered A Country Practice appointment television. We learned to fend for ourselves early – reheating leftovers and answering landlines.
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So when we became parents, we brought that mix of resilience, independence, and practicality with us. We weren't aiming for perfection. We were aiming for 'alive, clean-ish, and not yelling at the dog.'
Our vibe? 'I love you, but also no.'
7 Gen X is there for their kids when they need them – but will also tell their kids to get off the floor at Kmart if needed.
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The core of the Gen X parenting style is simple: love your kids fiercely – but don't let them walk all over you. We're not trying to be their best friend. We're trying to raise humans who are kind, capable, and who won't end up on A Current Affair for hoarding reptiles in a suburban share house.
We'll absolutely be there for our kids when they need us – but we'll also tell them to get off the floor at Kmart and stop licking the trolley. No shame, no drama. Just boundaries, baby.
The accidental influencers
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7 Gen X isn't afraid to take the iPad away mid-scream and go about the day like it's a normal Tuesday.
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We didn't set out to be trendsetters. Half of us still double-tap the wrong thing and call it 'The TikToks.' But here we are – with Millennials in the comments asking how we got our kids to pack their own lunch or brush their hair without a meltdown.
There's something about our calm detachment that feels… revolutionary now. We don't panic over every tantrum. We know our kid's emotions are valid – but also fleeting. And we're not afraid to take the iPad away mid-scream and go about our day like it's a normal Tuesday.
We're raising humans, not content
7 Gen X is trying to make sure their kids can boil an egg, apologize properly, and understand that being bored isn't a crisis.
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We're not doing this for likes. We're doing it because we know the long game matters more than viral validation. We're not trying to curate the perfect parenting aesthetic. We're trying to make sure our kids can boil an egg, apologize properly, and understand that being bored isn't a crisis.
We're also not afraid to show them what boundaries look like. We say no. We follow through. We mean it when we tell them to put their shoes on now, not after one more YouTube short.
What we've known all along
7 Gen X also isn't afraid to show them what boundaries look like.
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Here's the thing: Gen X parents have always known that parenting doesn't have to be performative. It doesn't have to be perfect. And it definitely doesn't have to be exhausting.
You can be emotionally available without being emotionally drained.
You can give your child autonomy without giving up your own peace.
You can love your kid more than life itself… and still hide in the laundry with a Freddo Frog just to avoid another game of UNO.
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So, if other generations are finally catching on to what we've known all along – welcome. Take a seat. We'll show you how to set boundaries and microwave chicken nuggets like a boss.
Just don't expect us to make a Reel about it.
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