Met cop sacked after farting in female officer's FACE & laughing when she refused to ‘pull my finger'
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PC Wayne Sansom is one of two officers who have been axed following gross misconduct
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PC Sansom complained about the Romanians, referring to them as 'f***ing d***heads'"
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He asked a WPC to pull his finger at Wembley
Police
Station in northwest
London
on November 2021
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Fellow officer PC Ben Jeffries is said to have made "inappropriate and discourteous comments" to the same female officer.
Russell Ford, for the Met Police, previously told a hearing: "When she declined he passed wind in her face from around 10-15 cm away."
PC Sansom "agrees to the 'pull my finger' remark" but denied he actually broke wind.
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Mr Ford added: "He fully accepts his attempt at humour was misplaced and inappropriate in a modern policing workplace.
"PC Sansom approached her and asked her to pull his finger, she knew what was intended and told him to move along.
"At this, PC Sansom turned his back, stood on his toes and passed wind in her face."
Mr Ford said the incident was "corroborated" by another female officer at the time.
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He described how after he asked the PC to pull his finger, PC Sansom, in close proximity, turned away from her and "passed wind very loudly - then laughed out loud and walked away."
Mr Ford then referred to an occasion in mid-December 2021 when the female officer described assisting on a call-out involving "Romanian people who did not speak English" with PC Sansom.
He added: "Back in the writing room, PC Sansom complained about the Romanians, referring to them as 'f***ing d***heads'."
The female officer replied: "That's OK Wayne everyone knows you don't like Romanian people."
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PC Sansom replied: "That's not true… I would put my d**k in you."
He was also accused of asking the female officer "questions about her sexuality" and "calling her a lesbian".
PC Sansom claims that he only asked the officer "once" about her sexuality after hearing rumours circulate about his colleague's personal life.
The hearing was told that Sansom was concerned that this could lead to her being "unfairly treated or talked about".
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Meanwhile, Sutton Police Station heard how PC Jeffries made "discourteous remarks" to the same female officer about her sexuality.
PC Jeffries also took a picture of his testicles using the female officer's mobile phone at an Extinction Rebellion protest on 25 August 2021.
A nine-day hearing found that both officers had breached the standards of professional behaviour in relation to discreditable conduct, authority, respect and courtesy, and equality and diversity.
It was heard that on multiple occasions, dating back to 2020, the officers made racist, misogynistic, sexual and homophobic remarks to several colleagues while on duty.
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Detective Chief Superintendent Luke Williams, who leads policing for the North West Command, said: 'The actions and comments made by both PC Jeffries and PC Samson were disgusting, wholly inappropriate and fell far below the standards expected of Met police officers. It is right they have been dismissed.
'I would encourage our staff to continue to report any wrongdoing so that we can take action.'
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That is the hook they then hang onto.' Who is most at risk of human trafficking? HUMAN trafficking involves the use of force, fraud, or coercion to obtain some type of labour or commercial sex act. Every year, millions of men, women, and children are trafficked worldwide – including right here in the UK. It can happen in any community and victims can be any age, race, gender, or nationality. Traffickers might use the following methods to lure victims into trafficking situations: Violence Manipulation False promises of well-paying jobs Romantic relationships Language barriers, fear of their traffickers, and/or fear of law enforcement frequently keep victims from seeking help, making human trafficking a hidden crime. Traffickers look for people who are easy targets for a variety of reasons, including: Psychological or emotional vulnerability Economic hardship Lack of a social safety net Natural disasters Political instability Spotting the signs of trafficking or sexual exploitation can be difficult. But the following could indicate someone is being exploited sexually: They may appear scared or intimidated Appearing frightened, withdrawn or confused They're closely guarded "Branded" with a tattoo indicating ownership Signs of physical abuse, including bruising, scarring and cigarette burns Are unable to keep payment and have restricted or no access to their earnings Have limited English vocabulary, restricted to sexualised words Male visitors call day and night and who only stay for a short time There are signs of sexual activity, such as cards and advertisements nearby A number of female foreign nationals living at the same address Sleeping at the premises where they work could indicate a brothel is operating. Source: Blue Campaign and Unseen A common thread in those with ADHD is also rejection-sensitive dysphoria - an extreme reaction to rejection or criticism. Ilja, who lives in Oxfordshire, says she would even feel this when she had a perceived rejection from her abusers, as she was terrified of being dumped on the streets. However, she does think her neurodiversity allowed her to disassociate from the harrowing events of her teens. Ilja, who runs a cookery school, adds: 'A lot of people that have ADHD or autism have the ability to disassociate. 'I have dissociated myself from those events. It's almost like I'm not talking about myself. It's protective.' She also says that all her life she has struggled to build relationships but has now been seeing someone for seven months. She is keen to spread the word to help others with neurodiversity avoid being exploited. 'There is no therapy for neurodiverse victims of sex trafficking and that's what I'm looking into,' Ilja says. 'I want to help people that have ADHD and/or autism and trauma to understand that it isn't their fault and they can live happy, fulfilling lives.'
