Men Are Getting Honest About The Small Truths They Keep From The Women In Their Lives, And It's Surprisingly Eye-Opening
Recently, redditor BDenergy966 wanted to know what specifically some of those things are that men hide from the women in their lives when they asked: "What are some secrets men don't tell women?"
The thread got over 4.9K responses from men who shared the harmless secrets they keep from women (in particular S.O.). Below are the top and most often repeated "secrets":
1."Zero chance we want to go see what that sound was you heard in the middle of the night because we are just as scared as you, but we do it anyway."
—jfunks69
2."I won't love you if you were a cockroach."
—Simecrafter
3."We also re-read old messages when we miss you."
—Chocomuffinbite
4."We notice a lot more about you than you realise."
—Spare-Investigator-2
5."We care more than we show. We just got used to hiding it."
—Chocomuffinbite
6."Compliments, or acknowledgements of good doing, are things we will remember forever. We don't often get these things, for years at a time sometimes, so when we do get a genuine compliment, it feels insanely good."
—Fooblee
7."You are worried about your imperfections when naked, we are normally just overjoyed to see boobs."
—Glad_Mistake6408
8."You initiating physical intimacy, even PG rated, is your cheat code for us. We don't get that much, so it's magical when it does happen. We wish it were the norm."
—rooftopworld
9."When we say we aren't thinking about anything, it's true. We aren't thinking about anything."
—randomjajaja
10."We like being the little spoon, too. Feels like a warm jetpack."
—Luddite_Literature
11."If I'm quiet, it doesn't mean I'm upset or that something is wrong. 90% of the time I'm either tired, thinking about something else, or just don't have anything to say."
—PLANETxNAMEK
12."The amount of overthinking I do. The whole 'I'm fine' even when I'm not. My goal is to make my girl happy. The last thing I want to do is burden her with my issues and overthinking. Plus, I always think, Do I say what's wrong and risk ruining things, or do I keep my mouth shut and just let it eat at me?"
—ProgrammingFlaw_3489
13."If we like you, we don't care about makeup or pretty clothes."
—WN11
14."I don't know if you look good in that dress because I have no sense of fashion. It's probably fine though."
—MyCatIsAnActualNinja
15."We love it when you initiate sex. Doesn't have to be all the time. We'll do our part, lol. But it gets old if we're the only ones doing it. We want to feel attractive and like you turn us on, too."
—Woodstock0311
16."We do cry when we're feeling down."
—Zwienka
17."Yes, your friend is hot, and yes, sometimes hotter than you, but we really don't care that much, and it doesn't eat at us like TV shows play up for their plot lines. We recognize they're hot and move on. We picked you because we love you. Get out of your own head."
—RoarOfTheWorlds
18."When we don't want to tell you something, sometimes just go with it. Sometimes it's just inane nonsense in our heads, and you would wonder what choices you made in life to be exposed to this nonsense... like how long does Darth Vader take in the can? Or is the janitor in Scrubs and the policeman in The Fugitive the same person?"
—RemoteLocal
19.And lastly, "We didn't really get that spider, and it fell somewhere onto the bed."
—Fantastic-Trash-8237
You can read the original thread on Reddit.
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
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