My man flew me to an island for our 2-year anniversary – he got a boat & a suite but I dumped him as he wouldn't propose
Bela Marie explained that when she began dating her boyfriend, on their first date she told him that he had just two years to propose.
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And two years later, despite splashing the cash on a posh trip to celebrate their love, when he didn't pop the question, Bela stuck to her word and called it quits.
Posting on social media, the brunette beauty got candid on the situation, in a clip that has since gone viral.
At the start of the short video, Bela shared a sweet snapshot from her first date with her now ex-partner, as the pair dined in a luxury restaurant and posed with a flaming dessert.
Moments later, the content creator uploaded a clip from her recent anniversary trip to Santa Catalina, one of California's Channel Islands, which lies southwest of Los Angeles.
She explained: 'On our two-year anniversary - after he flew me out to Catalina, surprised me with a suite and a beautiful boat around the island to celebrate 'our love,' and planned a beautiful long weekend trip - he did not propose.'
As a result, she admitted: 'So I broke up with him and ended our relationship. THANK GOD I did not marry that man.'
Bela confirmed that she has no regrets about her decision, as she continued: 'I'm proud of myself for sticking by my gut and what I told him on our first date.'
She then told her followers that 'time is not a love language' as she advised: 'If you have big dreams and goals that require a male counterpart - like marriage and a family - I wholeheartedly believe you should not waste more time than necessary on the WRONG PERSON.'
Despite their 24-month relationship, Bela wasn't impressed that her man at the time was 'still uncertain' about marrying her.
As a result, she admitted: 'I wasn't going to wait around to change his mind, beg for him to help me achieve my goals, or work harder out of this idea that I needed to 'prove my worth.''
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So instead of him making a move, Bela confirmed that she did, by leaving the relationship.
Bela snapped and claimed that 'consistency without commitment is just convenience' and expressed that she is now searching for 'a man that commits,' rather than 'a boy that wants to waste my time.'
Social media users react
The TikTok clip, which was posted under the username @ iambelamarie, has clearly left many open-mouthed, as it has quickly gone viral and racked up 10.1million views.
Not only this, but it's also amassed 918,300 likes, 15,500 comments and 47,700 shares.
But social media users were totally divided by Bela's actions and eagerly flocked to the comments to share their thoughts on the situation.
One user beamed: 'I love this generation of women leaving at the drop of a hat and not falling for sunken cost fallacy. It's amazing!!'
A second agreed: 'I honestly think two years is very reasonable. Also, the trip he planned at two years sounds a little cruel knowing the deadline.'
How to ace a proposal
Thinking of proposing? Follow this checklist by Fabulous' Deputy Editor Josie Griffiths to ensure a yes…
Time it right - the average Brit waits between 18 months and two years to get engaged. But you might feel ready after six months, or decide to wait five plus years to pop the question. Only you truly know when the time's right, and this isn't a decision you want to rush. Falling in love might feel amazing but of course most relationships DON'T end in marriage - and this is for good reason…
Pay attention - hopefully you haven't reached the point yet of your frustrated partner leaving their laptop open with 'hints' for rings they like. Ideally you'll want the ring to be a secret, but also something they'd happily wear - and for the rest of their life, so just a TEENY bit of pressure here. You need to be paying attention to any comments your partner makes about other people's rings, what they do and don't like, and what's most important to them - size, clarity, specific details. If you're really unsure, or if your partner hates surprises, it's best to propose with a dummy and then buy the real thing together.
Family matters - tradition dictates that you ask the dad's permission for his daughter's hand in marriage, but it's not so straightforward nowadays. Maybe your partner's closer to their step-dad, or wants her mum to walk her down the aisle, in which case you'd be better off chatting to them. Maybe they'd find it weird if you went to their parents first, in which case you could ditch the whole thing. Or perhaps they're closer to their friends and the best idea would be letting your partner's best mate pick the ring. These things do matter and could come back to bite you if handled in the wrong way.
Plan the setting - does your partner dread being centre of attention, or are they someone who'd be gutted if you proposed at home, berating you forever for a lack of 'effort'? Plan the place for your perfect proposal - how busy it'll be, whether you'll be able to get a good pic there, and other logistics around it. A proposal at the top of a mountain might sound good in theory but your girlfriend might not actually appreciate it when there's sweat dripping down her forehead and she's not wearing the cute dress she'd imagined for the pictures. Personally, I can't think of anything worse than a public proposal where everyone's waiting to hear your answer - in a group of friends, the middle of a restaurant or with an announcement at an event. So bear all of this in mind and remember, it's meant to be about what THEY want, not you.
Someone else gushed: 'I'm glad you left, he clearly wasn't for you. Your husband is coming soon.'
Whilst another simply penned: 'We love a girl who stands on business.'
But at the same time, not everyone was as kind, as one person said: 'Good. He's so much better off now.'
Another added: 'Guy dodged a bullet for sure.'
proposal is wild! Would've been the first and last date.'
relationship was on your terms and it's either your way or the highway.'
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