What is the ‘Cinderella rule'? Here's how the life hack could give your sex life a boost — and leave you feeling less exhausted
When you've been running around like a chicken without its head all day, getting things done at work or tending to needy children — sex might sound like the last thing you want to exert your last bit of energy towards.
That's why some couples are opting to follow the 'Cinderella rule' to keep things steamy in the bedroom — without burning out.
It's basically a strategic combo of setting boundaries and scheduling sex.
Alice Giddings, the Metro's sex and relationships reporter, said in a recent story that she swears by this rule.
'Simply set a cut-off point in your head for when intimacy will no longer be on the cards – this way you don't have to worry about being exhausted the next morning,' Giddings explained.
'My 'turn into a pumpkin' cut off is 10:30 p.m., and ideally this is when it'll be lights out and off to snoozeville. This means my cut-off for intimacy starting is 10:10 p.m. latest…'
'However, many hours prior to this, you can give your partner indications that sex is on the cards in the evening, but mention in passing the cut-off point,' she added.
She claimed that this rule gives couples something to look forward to, and knowing that the sexy time clock is ticking helps build anticipation.
Giddings isn't the only one who enjoys her scheduled sex sessions.
Jay and Sofia Lyons are a couple who say that putting frisky time on the calendar has improved their marriage and is what's kept the duo, who have been together for over 31 years, happy.
'It's made our relationship one million times better,' Jay told The Post. 'It's the glue that keeps your marriage close — it's very difficult to have a bad marriage when you're regularly having sex.'
The couple has been scheduling hanky panky since the early 1990s — after they got married and had two kids.
Even celebs — like Jenna Bush Hager and Amy Schumer — have admitted to penciling time in to do the deed.
Nick and Vanessa Lachey have a designated romp day: 'Wednesday — hump day.'
'Spontaneity is not the only way to have good sex,' Virginia Sadock, director of the human sexuality program at NYU Langone Health, told The Post.
The expert made note that the steamy, in-the-moment sex sessions that happen in the movies are not realistic, especially for two people with busy, demanding lives.
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