DEAR CAROLINE: I thought motherhood would give me a sense of purpose. Instead, I've lost who I am and I feel like a failure
Q I have three children, aged eight, six and two. My husband and I always knew from the start of our relationship that we wanted a big family. After having our eldest, we both agreed I'd stop work to look after them. I had a high-powered job, but couldn't wait to swap my suit and tube ride for maternity clothes and car seats.
However, while I love my children very much, being a stay-at-home mother is so much harder than I imagined. I thought motherhood would finally give me a real sense of purpose. Instead, a lot of the time I'm overwhelmed and lost.
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