I tried my husband's ‘carefree approach' to parenting — here's what surprised me the most

New York Post

17-07-2025

When Emma's husband told her she needed to take a 'carefree approach' to parenting 'just like him,' she figured she had two options:
Ignore him or take him up on his advice.
'I'm spending the day doing just that,' she said in a recent TikTok.
3 'I'm spending the day doing just that,' a mom named Emma said in a recent TikTok about channeling her husband's 'carefree approach' to parenting.
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'So much has changed with parenting'
Taking to the app, Emma shared how she ran her day caring for her two daughters in total dad mode.
'Most moms change their lives a lot to become the main caretaker and dads still get to maintain a lot of their original lifestyle and have a lot more of a laidback and easy going approach to parenting,' Emma told Kidspot.
'I think so much has changed with parenting since 'back in the day' where the responsibility to parent was solely on the mother and now dads are becoming more and more hands on.'
3 Emma shared how she ran her day while caring for her daughters.
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Emma wanted to flip the script and show just how important balance is when parenting alongside a partner.
In a creative use of sarcasm, she said yes to things she'd usually say no to:
Extra screen time. Chips in bed before 10am. A nutritious bowl of noodles for lunch.
She took a load off too.
A quick nap, no vacuuming, watching sports and Instagram videos (specifically on high volume). She even got to 'put on some multis because budgets don't apply to me.'
3 The mom took a quick nap, did no vacuuming, and watched sports and Instagram videos.
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It clearly struck a chord.
'I think I just said things that most moms want to say but don't say it,' Emma said.
'Judging by the number of direct shares and comments on the video, most moms used my video to say it to their partners anyway.'
'I definitely ruined their day'
What surprised Emma most was the reaction.
'I was surprised as to how many people thought I was being serious, but I was even more surprised as to how many people jumped on board and backed me up,' she revealed.
But she's more curious about the dads who watched it.
'I can imagine I definitely ruined their day,' she joked.
As for her husband, his response was pretty on-brand.
'After a quick eye roll and a mumble under his breath, he laughed and said I was funny,' she explained.
'He kept checking on the feedback on the video, mostly laughing at himself though, because he is the star of the video after all.'
And it seems the internet agrees. Several commenters are already calling for a part two.
It looks like Emma's only just scratched the surface of the carefree dad iceberg.