'I treated my son and his friend to a pricey day out but his dad never even thanked me'

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4 days ago

The mother is peeved that her son's friend's dad never shot her a quick text to even acknowledge the gesture
Parenting can be such a joy - watching your child grow up in front of your eyes and reach key milestones, all the while knowing that they are becoming a stand-up person because of your love, advice, support, and guidance.
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However, parenting can also be challenging, especially when they expand their social circle, and you sometimes find yourself being responsible not just for your own child, but other people's children, too.
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This is the situation one mother had found herself in, recently taking her son and his friend, aged 13, on a day trip. She paid for everything, which was "fine," and the friend was polite, thanking her before he headed back home.
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The boy's pal doesn't have a mobile phone, so everything was organised through the mother and the friend's father.
However, while organising the day out and after, the friend's father never thanked the mother for the outing - at all.
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Taking to Mumsnet, the woman explained: "I thought he'd send a, 'friend had a great time. Thank you' text when friend got home. But nope.
"I wouldn't expect that if my son and friend had organised it themselves obviously but am I unreasonable to think that because it was his dad and me [that organised it], his dad should have sent a quick thank you text?"
Two options the mum posed to the parenting forum was that the dad should have sent a quick 'thank you' text, because she'd had to organise it all directly with him. Or, the friend said 'thank you,' and that was simply enough.
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The woman also said that the meal she treated them to was a rather pricey portion of fish and chips, adding: "How much is fish and chips these days?! I don't think I hid my surprise well when I was handed the card machine!"
Getting back to the issue hand, referencing the lack of communication from the dad, she asked fellow parents: "This was rude, right?"
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The comments flooded in thick and fast.
One user wrote: "Very rude not to thank you... I'd have definitely sent a text".
Another reasoned: "I would have been more upset if the child hadn't said thank you actually.
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"It would have been nice if the Dad had but he probably knew his son was good mannered enough to do the thanks for himself."
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A third asked: "How do you know he didn't ask his son, if he thanked you? The fact that his son did, suggests he has been brought up with manners.
"Also, you say it was your treat but now you're questioning the price of fish and chips - two separate issues and you feel peeved for paying. Maybe that's making you feel like you a double thank you."
A fourth concluded: "His son said thank you, that should be enough. How many thank yous do you need? Bizarre to me how much people get wound up about such small things."