27 Lululemon Pieces You'll Love So Much That You'll Go To The Gym Just To Show Them Off
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These call for a gym selfie.
1. A long-sleeve tee that'll give off Challengers vibes with its tennis-inspired graphic. Pair with bike shorts for a comfy go-to gym fit and you'll be ready to ~serve~ Tashi level confidence.
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Promising review:"I bought the legacy green one last year and love it so much. I just ordered the navy one. These sold out so fast last year so get your hands on one before they're sold out again. I love the look of a long sleeve under a short sleeve shirt, but without the extra material. The material is so soft and comfortable, and the quality is amazing. I highly recommend." — biggestlulufan
2. A bodysuit because Cat Woman was on to something. Sleek, chic, and made for maximum mobility.
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Promising review:"This is the best bodysuit I've ever worn! I am tall and have a long torso, so most bodysuits gap over my butt. This bodysuit fits perfectly!! Please add colors and sleeve options." — primas1
3. A reusable water bottle so you can stay hydrated in style. Mix in some electrolytes for an elite exercise experience. It holds 32 ounces, so it'll last your whole workout.
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4. A pair of mid-rise cargo pants with a relaxed fit for light movement or taking a stroll on the treadmill. It's made with two-way stretch and a plethora of pockets for your FitBit, AirPods, spare hair tie, and everything else you need on hand.
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Promising review:"Bought the black ones and loved them so much that I just had to have the khaki and olive green ones as well. True to size and color! Always get so many compliments when I wear them." — coco
5. A high-rise lined short so you can work out like a warrior while looking like a supermodel. These shorts were made to provide weightless coverage for anything from deep squats to long strides.
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6. A jacket with a relaxed fit because your gym is dedicated to blasting the air conditioning. Keep your muscles warm while stretching and easing in or out of your workout.
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7. A dress with built-in shorts for a whole outfit in one chic piece. Errands, working out, the walk you take so that you actually leave your house at least once each day — this is your look.
8. A yoga mat because what motivates you to finally sign up for that hot yoga class more than a new mat? Treat yourself to an accessory that looks as good as endorphins feel.
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Promising review:"Finally upgraded my mat after a year of practicing! No slipping, easy to clean, and super cute! Great quality and extra cushiony for my worn down joints." — k8e227
9. An ultra-soft cropped tee for a lightweight top for sweaty gym sessions. This luxe fabric is double layered for coverage, support, and a seriously soft feel on both sides. The perfect pairing for a high-rise legging.
10. A high-rise legging with pockets so you can go to gym totally hands-free with room for everything you need. AirPods? Check. Extra electrolyte packets? Check. Your card to hand to your gym crush on the machine next to you? Check.
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Promising review:"Just listen to me — these are the pair. Hold you in, can move quickly and efficiently. I use for barre, strength training, and the StairMaster. I am obsessed and want them in all colors. Just DO IT." — madelyn1010
11. A pair of athletic socks because Gen Z said crew socks with stripes are in again. Get a few colors to always have a clean pair, even if you miss laundry day.
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Promising review:"I LOVE the Lulu socks. I bought my first pair a month ago, and now I have several pairs. They are comfortable for working out and look nice! Won't go back to other gym socks." — Sara
12. An ultra-soft bodysuit so you can slay from the gym straight to the streets. This lightweight piece is made with four-way stretch for unrestricted movements and sweat-wicking properties for a comfortable fit.
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13. A 3-in-1 gym duffel bag that'll make you want to go to the gym just so you can use it. This water-repellent bag is equipped with a shoe compartment, a water bottle pocket, a removable shoulder strap to carry your yoga mat, to use as a stretching strap, and more.
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Promising review:"I've only had this bag for a day but I love it already! The shoe compartment is genius, and I love how it can be expanded or clipped down to a slimmer size. I was leaning towards a smaller bag, but the convertible size won me over. The fabric is nice and lightweight, and there are so many handy pockets." — olivia
14. An oversize funnel-neck jacket for warming up in maximum comfort. Wear your favorite sports bra or crop top under to complete your look without overheating.
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Promising review:"I LOVE THIS SO MUCH. Love the flexibility of the full zip! LOVE LOVE LOVE. Buy it!" — catlover73290
15. A mid-rise pant for an off-duty look that ~werks~. Slay all day in these feather-light pants, made with two-way stretch, hem drawcords, and everybody's favorite feature – pockets!
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Promising review:"Literally the most comfy pants I own. I have them in black and in lavender. Very comfortable and breathable." — daya
16. A claw clip so you can keep your hair up and out the way. Elevate your classic messy bun with an eye-catching clip.
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Promising review:"This is my favorite clip so far! It holds perfectly and is great for going out. I'm very happy with this purchase." — allison
17. A pair of training shoes made for compliments. Step up your gym shoe game while walking on air. It's designed with a lightweight, supportive upper to hold you securely during jumps, lifts, and dynamic movements. Pro tip: Go a half size up for wider feet.
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18. A longline sports bra with medium support for a tank and a bra all-in-one. Think of the mirror selfies you'll take!
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Ideal for B-D cup sizes.
19. A pair of mid-rise oversized logo shorts because workout shorts don't have to be tight or body conforming. Cute, comfy and equipped with pockets.
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Promising review:"Love these! I love how the waist isn't tight. Definitely will order another pair." — pickyhatlady
20. A baseball hat for when you're on day three of dry shampoo but still want to get your hot girl walk in on the treadmill.
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Promising review:"I was so excited to see these came in sizes — I can never find a hat that actually fits my head, so I end up having to buy men's hats. When this arrived, it actually fit!! There was even room to spare. I was so excited I bought more colors!! Thank you for making a pretty hat in a big enough size to fit my pumpkin-sized head!! 18/10 YAY!!!!" – littlemissloveslulu
21. A racerback tank top because you're going to want to own one in every color. Arm day, leg day, rest day — this shirt is your every day!
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Promising review:"This is my favorite tank — I own all the colors. I like where it hits on my hip and that it's high neck — nice material, great for all my activities and to wear casually." — Diana
22. A long-sleeve crop top so your workout fit can be functional and fashionable. It's designed with flat seams to reduce chafing, mesh for breathability, and thumbholes to keep sleeves secure.
24. A sports bra with light support for days when just getting to the gym is the goal. Go for a gentle walk in this lightweight bra that lets you stay hyper-mindful while getting movement.
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Ideal for A/B cup sizes.
Promising review:"This sports bra has never let me down. The material is soft and breathable. I will continue to order this style every time I need a new sports bra!" — eros
Price: $58 (available in sizes 2–14 and nine colors)
25. A pair of slides so you can take a sit in the steam room or sauna without exposing your feet to the public floor. This cushioned slide has solid grip, making it perfect for in- between workouts.
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Promising review:"I have three pairs in different colors, very comfy for everyday use and for after workouts, love them." — ga54
Price: $58 (available in sizes 5–12 and four colors)
26. A high-rise tennis skirt with built-in shorts that'll have you serving serious style while you work out. Plus, there are pockets in the shorts — need I say more?!
Lululemon
Promising review:"One of the best fitting tennis skirts I've ever owned. And very lightweight and comfortable fabric. Purchased in two colors so far. Perfect!" — NaplesGirl
Price: $78 (available in sizes 0–14 and eight colors)
27. A headband with a twist-front because the bangs were a bold choice and now they're hanging in your face every time you exercise. Push them back with a headband that's as fashionable as it is functional.
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Promising review:"I absolutely love the fit, style how it dosent leave a dent and on bad hair days you throw a bun up put this baby on and boom! Please please make more colors; I honestly have them all." —ivona
Price: $14 (originaally $22; available in four colors)
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Passenger's life changed forever after chance encounter on flight: ‘Meet-cute fantasy'
It wasn't exactly love at first flight — but somewhere between the airplane aisle and window seat, a little turbulence turned into a whole lot of sparks. When Los Angeles native Megan Meza noticed a 'cute' guy approach her row on an April 2022 flight to London, she immediately began fantasizing about an airplane romance between her and the handsome stranger. Little did she know, the man would be Brit Freddie Gershinson, who would eventually become her husband-to-be. 'I immediately thought he was cute. I saw him pause near our row, and I thought, 'There is no way he is going to sit next to me',' she told the Daily Mail. 'So when he put his backpack on the seat, I couldn't believe it. It's like every single girl's dream to have the cute guy sit next to you in some meet-cute fantasy. 'And here it was suddenly happening. I actually texted my mom (who was sitting in a different row) along with my sister and friends, being like, 'CUTE GUY IN MY ROW. SOS.'' Initially, Meza was too nervous to chat up the six-foot-two stranger, but when he dropped his AirPods and couldn't find them, she piped in with advice to look at the row behind. While she 'had no other expectations,' the pair spoke for six hours during the flight, speaking over the woman sitting between them in the middle seat. 'At this point, I was like, okay, this is fun and flirty. Like he had every opportunity to go back to his music, but we kept chatting,' she dished. 'I [couldn't believe I was] having a connection with a total stranger,' she said, adding they stopped chatting when the cabin lights dimmed at night. But Gershinson was determined to keep the conversation going. He passed over his phone, asking, 'Have you got a boyfriend?' in the Notes app. Meza quickly responded 'No' with a smiley face. After the flight landed, the pair exchanged phone numbers and the Brit said he returned to London 'with a smile on his face' because of her.' 'At that point I was like — I have never met a man who is so confident and upfront with his emotions and it sucks that I will probably never see him again,' Meza said. 'We continued to text immediately after the flight. About three days after we met, he called me and said he hadn't felt a connection like this before, and wanted to see if I would come stay with him in London [after my family vacation].' Unable to adjust her return date, Meza returned to the U.S. but told Gershinson that if they were still texting in the summer, she'd visit him. Three months later, after they called each other 'every day' on the phone, she returned to London. 'On the third day [of the trip], he took me to meet his parents for tea, then surprised me with an early birthday dinner, and then we met his friends for drinks,' Meza revealed. 'It was that night I thought, I can't go back home and that be the end of it. Everything was too natural – his family, his friends, our connection. 'He was so intentional, kind, and so confident in who he was. So that night, we had a long talk about all of it, and we made it official. His words were, 'I like you too much to not try to make this work.' So we did.' Three years after their meet-cute, the happy couple is getting married. Meza urged singles to keep an open mind because you'll never know when you'll meet your happily ever after. 'I saw a man who I thought was very cute, and I used that as an opportunity to have this 'yes' moment on a plane where it's like, I'm never going to see him again. What do I have to lose?' she told PEOPLE. 'Dating is a drag and with Freddie, I never felt like we were playing games. If I had known this was waiting for me, I wouldn't have wasted another day crying over boys who didn't deserve the tears,' Meza added. 'So don't lose hope. The right person is out there and it would have sucked to settle and never have found this.'
