Women Are Sharing The Compliments They Still Think About To This Day, And It's Actually Really Wholesome
1."I struggle with self-esteem and confidence extremely. I was at a clothing store with my family, and I came across a beautiful dress. I've lost about 110 pounds and have some loose, sagging skin. I knew I could get into the dress because I'm smaller, but it's open-backed and form-fitting. Now I have seen this dress on the store app and would have bought it earlier to try on at home, but I couldn't afford it. My mom grabbed the dress and told me to try it on."
"I resisted because we were in public and the dressing rooms were fairly crowded. I couldn't afford it, and I just felt ugly. I was still coerced. I went into the dressing room, put the dress on away from the mirror, then came out to show my family. My five-year-old said, 'Wow, mommy, you look so beautiful!' My five-year-old is nonverbal. That was one of my richest days. I heard my baby's first sentence, I bought a $100 dress, and I saw another rare beauty — myself."
—u/cityofnaked123
2."Compliments from kids are always the best because you know they're being completely honest. Once a girl looked at me, gasped, and said, 'You look like a princess.' Ugh, my heart! That made me feel so good."
—u/PinEnvironmental7196
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3."From a professor: 'I save your papers to read last. They're like a big slice of chocolate cake after a meal of just plain broccoli.' Met with that professor mid-semester to check in on how things were going. I think we all had to do that, or we had to do it if we wanted our midterm grade or something. I sat there with hearts in my eyes for the rest of that meeting, man."
—u/kaeorin
4."Someone once told me that they like my mind. That compliment has stayed with me."
—u/Garden_Jolly
5."I was volunteering with unsheltered people, and one of the guys I worked with said that he and others felt loved when I was around. He died a week after he said it, but I felt like that was the highest compliment someone could give me. I always want people to know they are loved."
—u/bluefancypants
6."My uncle just off the cuff introduced me to his friend as, 'She's the woman I told you about, the one that I'd like my daughter to grow up to be like.'"
—u/destria
7."I boxed in university, and one day I was paired with a man to spar. We were evenly matched. I had been boxing longer, but you know, a man vs. a woman will always have an advantage. We became sparring partners. I ran into him at uni and stopped to say hi. He turned to his mates and said, 'This is the girl I spar with, she's a beast.' All his friends seemed to have heard about his sparring partner. It made me feel pretty good, and I also loved that he was confident enough to say his sparring partner was a chick!"
—u/Judithwastaken
8."'You are the most tenacious person I have ever met.'"
—u/whatwhat612
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9."When I was 18 or so, I was working as a barista, and this woman was looking at the cupcakes in our pastry bar. When I asked if I could get her anything, she said, 'No, I'm just looking, they're so beautiful!' When she was leaving, she gave me her cup, and she had put a note that said, 'You're more beautiful than any cupcake could ever be.' I still have the note."
—u/apocalypsmeow
10."'You're a force of nature.'"
—u/sgtcupcake
11."From my sister: 'You are the mom I wish we had as kids.'"
—u/ImpressiveStrike9525
12."'Your face lights up when you smile.' I've always remembered that one!"
—u/kettle106
13."My art teacher in eighth grade told me I had the most unique way of seeing the world after I turned in a pretty weird project. At the time, I thought she was just being nice, but now, as an adult, I realize she was actually encouraging my creativity instead of trying to make me conform."
—u/WildNprecious
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14."'You're an inspiration, and make me proud to be a woman,' from a young colleague I mentored many years ago."
—u/miss_rabbit143
15."From an older man at a mountain bike race I competed in: 'You're so fast! I had so much fun riding behind you!' Mountain biking is VERY male-dominated, and I've only been riding for a couple of years, so this was a huge confidence boost."
—u/mermur
16."They said they wished they still had me as their boss."
—u/bleakraven
17."'Your eyes smile whenever you do, it kinda makes me want to smile too,' from a friend."
—u/thehopefulsufferer
18."'You expect competence from the people around you.' It felt like a compliment from a woman I liked and respected. It was like saying you raise the bar for everyone when you're part of a group."
—u/CGS_info
19."'You have great form,' from the 80+ year old guy easily Nordic skiing past me at a good speed (in jeans and a wool sweater!) while I was a beginner. That dude is amazing. He's always out there, and if he compliments you on form, it means something. Knowing he thought I was on the right track, technique-wise, was a huge boost."
—u/ReadAnEffingBook
20."'We like it when you watch us because you play with us,' said my cousins when I came over to babysit. The other babysitter was just on their phone, but I played Xbox with them."
—u/AgentJ691
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21."'I wish my muscles were as defined as yours.'"
—u/SourceTypical6417
22."Someone told me, 'You are a light.'"
—u/ProblematicByProxy
23."'I love the way you talk about yourself.' I genuinely love me some me. I'm honest and self-aware, but I also constantly pour love into myself."
—u/eternititi
24."I was told I have a presence that can't be taught."
—u/technofever89
25."'You ask the best questions,' said a woman whom I really admire. It is the best compliment I've ever received."
—u/not_triage
26."Someone once told me, 'You make people feel like they matter just by how you listen.' It wasn't about looks or achievements; it was about who I am at my core. That one stuck with me."
—u/scientist_hotwife
27.And finally, "I'm a teacher, and when I moved away, a student's family gave me a card. It said, 'Leaving other people with your kids isn't always easy, but it was with you.' I cried."
—u/Pixiestixwhore
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