Man Says He Was Disinvited from Group Trip He Planned After He Refused to Split This One Cost
A man says he was disinvited from a trip he planned after he refused to split one of the costs
The man initially arranged a trip with his brother that soon turned into a group outing, he wrote on Reddit.
When the group expanded beyond who would fit in his car, he says, he was unwilling to pay an extra $1000 to rent a car
He then discovered he'd been removed from the group chatA man says he carefully crafted a travel itinerary for his brother and friends, then one big expense got him disinvited from his own trip.
The traveler shared his frustration in a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, claiming the unexpected drama left him questioning whether or not he did the right thing.
He opens the post by noting that the trip to an unnamed big city for the weekend was originally going to be for just him and his brother, but quickly expanded to include several of his brother's friends.
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They chose dates and hotels, the original poster (OP) explains. For transportation, he planned to drive everyone in his car.
After the details were hashed out, a friend of a friend, Adam, who "wasn't part of the plan at all" said he wanted to join, not for vacation, but because he had a business trip in the same city and wanted a lift, the OP claims. Including Adam would push the number of people over the limit that could fit in his car.
Instead of finding another driver and splitting up the group into two cars, the OP says they decided to rent a larger vehicle. The added cost would be $1000 for five days, he claims, 'Just to make room for Adam, who wasn't even vacationing with us.'
The OP put his foot down, telling the group he wouldn't spend the extra money. 'I didn't think it was fair to take on that extra cost just to accommodate someone who wasn't part of our group,' he wrote.
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The next day, the OP says, he found out that the other guys had started a new group chat — and he wasn't part of it.
Soon he received a text from his brother asking if he would be 'okay with not going' on the trip.
"I didn't back out — I got pushed out of the trip I planned,' the OP wrote. 'I'm pretty upset, especially since my own brother was part of it,' he confessed. 'I didn't make it about money or control — I just didn't want to foot the bill for someone else's business trip.'
In the comments, fellow Reddit users offered up their opinions on the man's story.
'Your brother and his friends then acted like entitled children, created drama, and excluded you,' wrote one person. 'Good riddance to that trip with them, honestly. Let them deal with Adam and the rental. You did nothing wrong by standing your ground.'
While another user offered some advice: 'Take a nice trip somewhere by yourself if you can afford it."
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