Benny Blanco reveals how a love checklist led to his fairytale romance with Selena Gomez

Time of India

14-07-2025

There's something charmingly relatable about jotting down qualities you'd want in a partner—until it actually lands you one of the most famous women in the world. That's exactly what happened with Grammy-nominated producer
Benny Blanco
, who recently revealed on the
Therapuss
podcast with Jake Shane that his very real and very personal checklist helped him manifest none other than pop icon
Selena Gomez
.
The 37-year-old music producer admitted that he reached a turning point in his early thirties when he felt tired of the endless cycle of parties and solitude. 'I literally was sitting in my house, and I was like, 'I can't be like one of these celebrities that's 40 or 50 and at the club. Like, that's crazy!',' he said. With that wake-up call came a simple decision—write down what he truly wanted in a partner.
The Power of a Personal Blueprint
Benny's list wasn't made of glittery fantasies or starry expectations. Instead, it was surprisingly grounded. 'I needed someone, for me, age appropriate. And I was like, '30 and above, no one lower'...even if they're a mature 28-year-old, no — has to be 30,' he recalled.
Then came values that strike at the heart of connection: kindness, passion, and a sense of purpose. 'I wanted someone who was kind. I know it's so crazy, because it's so hard to find,' he said. More than status or profession, Benny was drawn to people who were immersed in something they cared about deeply. 'I don't care if they made carpets...I just wanted them to be interested and passionate.'
One of the more tender items on his list? 'I wanted someone who woke up...like I wake up and I'm happy.' A hopeful, everyday joy—one that he was ready to share with someone who felt the same.
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It turns out Benny's quiet intention-setting may have worked its magic. In what fans now call a slow-burn romance, Benny and Selena Gomez went public with their relationship in late 2023. Though they had collaborated musically for years—with tracks like 'Kill 'Em with Kindness,' 'Trust Nobody,' and 'I Can't Get Enough'—their connection reportedly blossomed into romance in June 2023.
By December 2024, the couple officially announced their engagement, though they've taken a laid-back approach to wedding planning. 'It's going to be chill,' Benny has said about the upcoming ceremony, a sentiment that echoes the down-to-earth warmth that defines their relationship.
From red carpets to recording studios, Benny's story is a refreshing reminder that amidst the glitter of fame, vulnerability and clarity still matter. What started as a quiet moment of reflection and a handwritten list in solitude has turned into a love story in the spotlight.
In a world full of dating apps, ghosting, and swipes, Benny Blanco proved that sometimes all you need is a pen, paper, and a little honesty about what you truly want. Because who knows? That list might just lead you to your forever person—even if her name is Selena Gomez.
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