6 Ways Kids Benefit From Spending Time With Grandparents, a Child Psychologist Reveals
"Toxic grandparent" and "toxic in-laws" can be a constant conversation in parenting circles and Facebook groups. Yet, don't let the Internet fool you: There are excellent grandparents out there, and we're all better for it—especially grandkids."Grandparents offer more than just love—they offer emotional security, a sense of continuity and a nonjudgmental presence," says , a licensed psychologist with Thriveworks. "They connect children to their family and cultural roots, and when children feel connected to something bigger than themselves, they can develop stronger emotional foundations."Below, Dr. Saidi dives deeper into the benefits of spending time with grandparents. She also shares tips for grandparents hoping to ensure the time they spend with their grandkids makes an impact both now and for generations to come.Related:
We often talk about the unconditional love between a parent and child. However, grandparents also typically provide no-strings-attached love for a child, which can significantly benefit their mental health."Children often feel a special type of comfort around grandparents," Dr. Saidi says. "This can lower their stress and increase their sense of truly feeling seen."Related:
Grandparents can teach children new things long before they set foot in a school, and the lessons can last a lifetime."From baking cookies to planting vegetables in the garden, grandparents often have the time and wisdom to teach with love," Dr. Saidi says. "These lessons build confidence and independence."Dr. Saidi also applauds grandparents for the patience required to teach kids new skills. Anyone who has ever tried baking with a toddler bent on putting ingredients anywhere except the bowl (and especially in their mouths) will understand why.
"Grandparents are living history," Dr. Saidi raves.While it may sound like an insult, she's giving a well-deserved compliment to grandparents."They share stories, traditions and values that give children a sense of where they come from," she says. "This can help support a strong identity and sense of self in grandkids.In other words, forget genealogy services—just have kids talk to their grandparents, and they'll take a meaningful walk down memory lane.Related:
Children learn more than practical skills from their grandparents. "Grandparents who have survived life's storms can model grace, patience, forgiveness and problem-solving in a way that younger adults may not be able to," Dr. Saidi says. "Watching grandparents model patience can teach children resilience."
Children, tweens and teens often have busy schedules rivaling their working parents: two to three sports a season, volunteer work, music lessons…it can be a lot. While these activities can build confidence, friendships and skills, there's something to be said for free play. Grandparents can let kids (and their imaginations) run wild."Grandparents often have the time and presence to engage in relaxed, imaginative play," Dr. Saidi says. "This is not only fun, but good for brain development as well."The American Academy of Pediatrics has published research that finds that free play directed by a child is vital for exploration and self-discovery of preferences and interests.Related:
While it's not the be-all, end-all of human existence, Dr. Saidi points to research suggesting that kids who spend more time with their grandparents often move to the head of the class. For instance, one 2018 European SociologicalReview article shared research that found that grandparent involvement helped predict academic achievement. Dr. Saidi credits grandparents who have more conversations and foster curiosity in their grandkids for this benefit.Related:
While adults often feel they need to lead the way, Dr. Saidi suggests doing the opposite (within reason and paying attention to safety, of course)."You may love puzzles and crosswords, but your grandchild may love Bluey,"she explains. "Ask questions, show curiosity and meet them in their world. This communicates, 'I care about what matters to you.'"Related:
Reading books is a great way to bond with a grandchild. However, Dr. Saidi suggests telling stories too—specifically, she recommends grandparents tell their stories."Your life lessons — even the mistakes — are priceless," she explains. "When you share them, you share wisdom, laughter and perspective that they will carry with them through life."Related:
On the subject of mistakes: Don't strive for perfection (or give the illusion of it). There's no need, and Dr. Saidi says you're probably putting undue pressure on yourself."Just showing up and being there for them with your full attention, patience and kindness can go a long way," she explains.
Up Next:Dr. Crystal Saidi, Psy.D., a licensed psychologist with Thriveworks
The Power of Play: A Pediatric Role in Enhancing Development in Young Children. American Academy of Pediatrics.
Tying the Extended Family Knot—Grandparents' Influence on Educational Achievement. European SociologicalReview.
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