B.J. Novak's rumored love interest Delaney Rowe claims her partner doesn't 'trust' her as fans blast mystery man
TikTok star Delaney, who was romantically linked to The Office actor, 45, in April, opened up about her personal life during an appearance on the Boy Problems podcast, hosted by Liz Plank, which was released earlier this week.
Although she never explicitly referred anyone by name, the social media star, 29, said: 'I'm not like, you know the cuffs aren't on, like I'm not like fully boo'ed up, but like, I am dating and it's going okay.'
Explaining the hurdles plaguing her current romance, Delaney continued: 'I was the problem, and I had to sort of reconcile with that recently.
'I was not sure and so I was sort of noncommittal for a long period of time when he was like very sure.
'And so now I am sure and he's like, "I don't really trust your intentions at this point."'
Although the identity of the person Delaney was referring to was not revealed, social media users have blasted the man in question and have branded him as 'hugely manipulating and gaslighting.'
Taking to Reddit, one said: 'That is not a man you should be fighting for girl.'
Delaney and B.J. first sparked romance rumors in November when they were snapped together at The Official How Long Gone After Party at The Standard in New York City
'To be honest, it sounds like he love-bombed her in the beginning and eventually won her over,' another penned. 'And then there was no more conquest so he lost most of his interest.'
'Okay so it sounds like he's hugely manipulating and gaslighting her,' a third remarked.
A fourth commented: 'Lol he doesn't want "proof" girl, he's trying to "test you" and make you prove to him that you're good enough for him, solely to destroy your self-esteem and seek revenge for the rejection he initially faced.
'He will never treat you well, but he will destroy your self-esteem and sense of self-worth.
'Even if you date him seriously, he will continue making you prove yourself to him until you're just where he wants you - controllable, accommodating and submissive.'
'Sounds emotionally abusive tbh,' another simply said.
A sixth added: 'This is also one of the oldest tricks for toxic men. They know when you're not ready so they chase you and push, then when you finally give in or you're ready, they pull away - blame you for not accepting their commitment but they won't end it either.'
Daily Mail has contacted Delaney and B.J.'s reps for comment.
Social media users have blasted the man in question and have branded him as 'hugely manipulating and gaslighting'
Delaney and B.J. first sparked romance rumors in November when they were snapped together at The Official How Long Gone After Party at The Standard in New York City.
The following month, in December 2024, there was talk that the two might be seeing each other after they were spotted together at the Bowery Hotel in New York City.
For years it has been speculated that he is still dating his The Office costar Mindy Kaling and they have welcomed children together.
Mindy and B.J. dated on and off from 2004 to 2007, and although they have publicly insisted their bond is now platonic, rumors have swirled about their relationship.
The pair have remained friends since they met while working on The Office in 2004 and in 2017, B.J. became Mindy's daughter's godfather.
Additionally, the duo have appeared at multiple public events together since their split, igniting speculation that their relationship might be more than just amicable.
Their Office characters Kelly and Ryan had a complicated relationship on-screen, and by the series finale, the two characters were back together.
At the 2022 Emmy Awards, the pair poked fun at their 'insanely complicated relationship' while co-presenting the award for writing for a limited or anthology series or movie.
When she received her star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame, Mindy - who has not publicly named the father of any of her three children - made headlines by describing BJ as an 'important and integral' part of her family.
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