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‘Why would my beloved adopted son attack me?'– Dr Louise answers your questions
I adopted my son when he was a baby. He grew up in a loving home and we always made sure he was treated the same as our two daughters and that he felt loved and cherished. As he grew up, he became cheeky and got involved with kids who used drugs and told him his parents do not really care about him because he is adopted. He also started using drugs, despite our advice not to. A few months ago he woke me up early in the morning and asked me to take him somewhere. I said I would take him later in the day since it was still dark. He also asked me for money, which I refused. He then physically abused me and attacked me with a knife. I was told I was lucky to survive the attack. Why would he turn on me – the mother who has loved and cared for him since his birth, while his own biological mother discarded him and left him to die in the street when he was a baby? Rhonda, email Dr Louise The problem with drugs is that they have a profound negative influence on cognitive functioning, making it difficult to control anti-social and criminal impulses. They can also change someone's personality from loving to aggressive, demanding and controlling. The type of drugs your son was taking likely had this effect on him. It didn't help that his friends told him his adoptive parents don't care about him. This overrode the values that you tried to instil in him while he was growing up, replacing them with feelings of entitlement and the belief he can control you and do anything he wants to get what he wants. Unfortunately, he will now have to face the consequences of his actions. There's also genetics to consider. Genes are passed down from biological parents and these determine not only physiological traits but can also influence other aspects of development, including temperament and behaviour, regardless of upbringing. I ALWAYS TAKE THE INITIATIVE I love my boyfriend – he is a kind and gentle man, but very introverted. The problem is I am always the one telling him I love him, and only then will he say he loves me too. I am the one always giving him compliments like telling him how sexy he is, but he never tells me what he thinks about me except now and then when he tells me I look beautiful to him. This is getting me down because I feel that everything comes from me and he only reciprocates when I say something nice to him. How can I change this? Ronel, email Dr Louise Unfortunately, introverts tend to live in their own minds and may often think positive things about people but don't express them because they're shy or think it's not appropriate. But it's not nice to be the one who always takes the lead. You might catch him staring at you thoughtfully. When that happens, encourage him to express his thoughts and not hold back. You will find that many times it will be something complimentary about you. Continue to say positive things to him as this will encourage him to do the same. But be patient – it's difficult to change an entrenched personality trait. Humility is the foundation of all virtues Chinese philosopher Confucius ARE MY PARENTS UNREALISTIC? I studied marketing for three years at university and now find it very difficult to get a job. Any work I do find in my area of expertise pays little when you take into account that I am a graduate. I expected to be paid at least R40 000 a month, but they are only willing to pay me R30 000. I have no work experience and studied directly after I completed matric. My parents tell me I am worth much more than that and that I should let my degree now earn money for me, but they seem a bit unrealistic about what is available out there. What do you think? Ann, email Dr Louise Unfortunately, employment is scarce, and you are lucky to find a job without any work experience. The job market is now an employer's market as there are many people with your degree and with work experience who have been retrenched due to the poor economy. They are in a better proposition as they won't need as much training as a graduate would. It would be wise to accept the position you have been offered so you can gain some experience. Once you have experience you can look around for a position that pays more. Unfortunately, even with a degree, one must start at the bottom and work one's way up, earning the respect of an employer through good work and good values.
Yahoo
3 days ago
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Wife of South Korea's jailed ex-President Yoon Suk Yeol arrested over corruption allegations
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Yahoo
3 days ago
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Solitary cell with mattress on the floor for South Korea's once powerful ex-first lady
(Corrects paragraph 2 to specify the detention facility opened in 2011, not 11 years ago) By Ju-min Park and Jack Kim SEOUL (Reuters) -South Korea's former first lady Kim Keon Hee will spend her first day in jail on Wednesday in a cell much like the one her husband and ex-President Yoon Suk Yeol occupies as prosecutors pursue the once high-flying couple in a widening criminal probe. Kim was formally booked into the Seoul Nambu Detention Center on the western edge of the capital, a comparatively new correctional facility that opened in 2011 and one of the few run by a female warden. She will be treated in the same way as other inmates but will receive minor adjustments in her daily routine given her status as a high-profile figure, a source familiar with the matter told Reuters. Kim was imprisoned after a court approved a warrant for her arrest late on Tuesday on the grounds that she might destroy evidence amid an ongoing investigation into allegations of bribery, stock fraud and influence peddling. Kim's lawyers have denied the accusations against her and dismissed as groundless speculation news reports about some of the gifts she allegedly received in return for favours. Kim apologised for causing concern in the country and called herself "a nobody" as she appeared for questioning last week. Her solitary cell has a small table that can be used as a desk and for eating meals and a floor mattress to sleep on, said the source, who asked not to be identified because he was not authorised to speak to the media. Kim will have separate access to a common shower room and be allowed to exercise outdoors for an hour every day except on Sundays, the time staggered to avoid overlap with other inmates, the source said. Prison will be an entirely new experience for Kim, unlike for her husband who has already spent about 100 days in jail. Yoon is on trial over his botched attempt to impose martial law, on charges of insurrection, an accusation he denies. He has been imprisoned at the Seoul Detention Center, which despite its name is outside the capital to the south. 'POLITICAL MIND' The former first couple had lived in a spacious apartment in an upscale district of Seoul before Yoon's election as president in May 2022 and had returned there after his ouster for the martial law decree that resulted in a political disaster for him, his party and now for his wife. Kim is a wealthy businesswoman in her own right and most of the couple's assets including the apartment belong to her, according to a government database. Now, Kim will receive the same food as the average inmate, usually traditional Korean fare prepared at a cost of about 1,500 won ($1.08) per meal. On Wednesday, toast with strawberry jam, sausages and salad were on the menu for breakfast. A fine art expert who founded and ran a successful curation agency, Kim has been embroiled in a number of scandals before and after her husband's election in 2022, with the controversies at times overshadowing Yoon's turbulent presidency. Her fashion choices and policy lobbying in areas like promoting a ban on eating dog meat made her controversial in a country where a first lady has typically kept a low profile. Han Dong-soo, a former judge and a prosecutor who worked with Yoon, said Kim had "a politically strategic mind" and was a driving force behind her husband's ascent to top office. After she married Yoon when he was 52, Kim became the main influence of practically all of his thinking and decisions, Han said. Kim was 39 when they wed. "Kim Keon Hee chose him," said Han. "And she gave him the strategy and energy to be president" ($1 = 1,382.8000 won) Solve the daily Crossword
