Man with the world's largest penis reveals agonising details of the night he lost his virginity...'it did not end well'
Matt Barr, whose manhood measures a mammoth 14in, has previously spoken about the downsides of having such gigantic genitalia.
'It's difficult, because it's not something you really spring on people as a surprise, because it just does scare people away,' he explained.
Mr Barr's member—boasting a girth of 8.5in—and is claimed to be the 'world's biggest medically verified penis'.
But size doesn't always make for success in the bedroom with Mr Barr opening up about how things went terribly wrong when he did the deed for the first time.
Speaking to Californian medic Dr Rena Malik, Mr Barr revealed that losing his virginity led him to be rushed to hospital.
While not divulging the details of the traumatic event he told the medic that 'it was not good, I went to hospital, so not ideal,' after having penetrative sex for the first time.
He added that losing his virginity was a 'long time coming' with his massive manhood having previously prevented him from having intercourse.
He detailed how he and a former lover 'tried, and realised it was kind of impractical', he recalled—but added that the pair decided to still spread the rumour that they had done the deed as 'a status thing'.
'That was supposedly my first time, but it wasn't really because it wasn't physically possible,' he confessed.
'It wasn't until a lot later that I ended up actually having what I consider to be penetrative sex.'
Dr Malik explained that the difficulties Mr Barr experienced likely arose due to the size of the average vagina being much too small to fit Mr Barr's massive member.
She said the average vaginal diameter is around 3.5in, and while this can sometimes double in size when a woman is aroused, the dimensions would still be too small for Mr Barr's member.
Mr Barr continued to say that he 'didn't really know what [he] was doing, like a lot of men' the first time he had sex, adding that he's since worked 'to ensure that doesn't happen again'.
'I do always try to bring it up when I can, not in a creepy way, it's the question of how do you have that conversation early enough in a relationship when you've already got a bit of a bond and it's kind of clear you can talk about sex and it's not creepy to do,' he said.
'I think that's key where you can, just because for both sakes it's very useful to have that as a barometer of what to expect rather than spring it on them very last minute.'
Mr Barr has previously spoken about other difficulties of having such a large member.
These include once being thrown out of a yoga class because they thought he had become aroused.
He said: 'I was wearing a very baggy shirt and shorts [but because of the] yoga positions, people just got the wrong idea.
'And that's the way it sometimes goes, but you can you can dress normally, baggy clothing, and it's not too difficult.'
Mr Barr has also previously told MailOnline that a cultural over-emphasis on size meant many men felt unnecessarily insecure in the bedroom.
'Feeling insecure around your equipment is unsurprising when penis size myths are spread so readily by porn or locker-room jokes that assume "bigger is better",' he said.
'Any insecurities you are feeling about your sexual performance is not alleviated by growing a few inches - and once you get so far beyond the norm it brings with it a whole host of new problems.
'Even if you have the biggest penis in the world, you still have to focus on improving your sexual performance to give your partners the pleasure they deserve.'
The NHS says the average size of an adult penis is 3 to 4in when flaccid, and between 6 to 7in when erect
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