Fury At What Husband Suggests Wife Do So His Sick Mother Can Move In
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A woman is appealing for advice online after her "incredibly angry" husband proposed she and their children temporarily leave their home so his ailing mother could move in.
The 45-year-old woman, using the handle ThrowRA_fe on Reddit, explained how her 56-year-old husband's insistence on moving his 78-year-old mom into their shared home came after her doctor recommended full-time care.
'You make God upset'
The mother-in-law (MIL), who previously lived independently with visiting nurses, would now require daily medical attention, though professional in-home care had not been fully explored.
However, the family conflict runs deeper than logistics. The original poster (OP) opened up about years of religious judgment and gender-based criticism from her MIL, including repeated comments toward her 11-year-old daughter.
"Wear leggings with your dress, or else you make God upset," the grandmother apparently said.
When the child expressed interest in becoming a veterinarian, the grandmother retorted that, "a proper lady should not work outside the home."
Stock image: Man in conflict between his mother and wife.
Stock image: Man in conflict between his mother and wife.Favoritism also appears to play a role in the family tension. The woman said her MIL treats her 8-year-old son with kindness while routinely criticizing her daughter.
Though her husband often defends them in real time, he has stood firm on relocating his mother into their house.
When the woman suggested a retirement facility, her husband reacted angrily.
"You can move out of the house," he told her, "but I'm not moving my mother into a retirement home!"
An edit added by the woman stated that nurses would still be involved in her mother-in-law's care, just on a daily basis instead of every other day, should she move in.
'Don't let that woman move in'
Nevertheless, reactions to the woman's Reddit post were swift, racking up 1,500 often infuriated comments within two days.
One of many supporters advised the woman to put her foot down: "Tell your husband to move in with his mother and he can provide her all the care she needs.
"You will continue your bring up your two children. Don't move out. Don't let that nasty old woman move in."
Another person urged the OP and her children to, "stay put while he moves in with his mother and takes care of those logistics.
"The kids don't have to be uprooted and he gets what he wants. Just because he wants in home care doesn't mean he's gets it with you and the kids around."
Some pundits pointed to legal and financial risks, urging the woman to consult an attorney before any action is taken. Among them, was a person who declared: "Don't move out unless the lawyer tells you to.
"You need to do this now to protect your children, especially your daughter."
Parallels to Past In-Law Conflicts
This is far from the first time Reddit has aired disputes involving in-laws and home life.
A previous Newsweek article described how a MIL came under fire online for rifling through a couple's personal items and criticizing how they ran their home.
Another Newsweek report highlighted a woman who was widely supported for arranging for her in-laws to be placed in a care facility and instead had her own parents move into her home.
Good Influence?
In a message to Newsweek via Reddit, user ThrowRA_fe said that she has not yet spoken to her husband about the situation, but planned on doing so soon.
"My husband is typically on my side and he plans on hiring full-time care for his mother if she is in our home," the OP continued.
"A common misunderstanding in the comments is that I will bear the brunt of caretaker roles. He wants his mother here because he wants her to be closer and to keep an eye on her.
"I don't want her here, not because I will have to care for her, but because I do not think she is a good influence on the children."
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