Invisible weight of fatherhood: 5 practical ways for dads to acknowledge, share and cope with their mental load
Today's fathers are far more involved than ever before. They help with children, manage household responsibilities, stay emotionally present, and plan for the future. But despite doing so much, many rarely talk about how stressed or tired they feel. Society often expects men to stay strong and silent, even when the mental and emotional load becomes too heavy.
This invisible "mental load" includes daily tasks like paying bills, remembering school meetings, or fixing things around the house, as well as bigger worries like planning for the family's future, managing rising expenses, or saving for the children's education. (Also read: Father's Day 2025: Psychiatrist shares 10 early warning signs of depression and anxiety in men )
Saloni Chawla, Counselling Psychologist, Santushti Healthcare and Lavleen Kaur, Chief Dietitian and Founder, Santushti Healthcare, shared with HT Lifestyle 5 simple ways fathers can reduce this mental burden:
The first step is to recognise the stress. It is okay to feel tired, worried, or low. When you accept that you are under pressure, you can begin to find healthy ways to manage it instead of pushing it aside.
Talk openly at home about what needs to be done. From school meetings to home repairs, discuss and divide responsibilities. Sharing both the tasks and the mental planning behind them can prevent burnout and strengthen teamwork.
Don't wait for a health scare to care for yourself. A short walk, time for a hobby, or just resting quietly can help you recharge. Looking after yourself helps you look after your family better.
You're not alone. Chat with other fathers at the park, school, or online. Sharing experiences builds a sense of support and reminds you that many others feel the same way.
If the stress feels too heavy, reaching out to a counsellor or therapist can help. Taking care of your mental health is not a weakness. It is a wise and strong step toward a healthier life for you and your family.
You do not have to carry everything on your own. A good father is not someone who never gets tired, but someone who is honest, supportive, and willing to share the load. And to everyone reading - check in with the fathers around you. A simple and genuine "How are you really doing?" can mean a lot.
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