‘My mum's postnatal depression was so severe it tore our family apart – then the same thing happened to me'
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When I was three years old, my brother and I came within a cat's whisker of being taken into care because of my mother's postnatal depression and chronic illness.
As a young woman, Mum had been dismissed by medical professionals as a malingerer and denied help for undiagnosed ME/CFS (a debilitating multi-system neurological chronic fatigue condition). When she had us, she developed severe postnatal depression on top of this.
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