‘Modern Love' Podcast: How I Decentered Men and Learned to Center Myself
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Natasha Rothwell plays characters who are constantly trying to improve and to better understand their desires. This season on 'The White Lotus,' Rothwell, an Emmy-nominated actress, is back playing Belinda, a striving spa manager with dreams of becoming her own boss. Ambitions like these are relatable to Rothwell, who created and starred in her own show, 'How to Die Alone.' But as she and her characters have learned, going after what you want often means changing your priorities and steering away from certain types of people.
Today on the show, Rothwell reads Jasmine Browley's Modern Love essay, 'I Decentered Men. Decentering Desire for Men Is Harder,' about the challenges and joys of putting your own needs first. And Rothwell tells Anna Martin how vision boarding has helped her center herself.
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'Modern Love' is hosted by Anna Martin and produced by Reva Goldberg, Emily Lang, Davis Land, Amy Pearl and Sara Curtis. The show is edited by Gianna Palmer and Jen Poyant, our executive producer. Production management is by Christina Djossa. The show is mixed by Daniel Ramirez and Sonia Herrero. This show is recorded by Maddy Masiello and Nick Pitman. It features original music by Pat McCusker, Elisheba Ittoop, Dan Powell, Marion Lozano, Carole Sabouraud, Aman Sahota and Rowan Niemisto. Our theme music is by Dan Powell.
Special thanks to Larissa Anderson, Dahlia Haddad, Lisa Tobin, Brooke Minters, Felice León, Dave Mayers, Eddie Costas, Sawyer Roque, Daniel Jones, Miya Lee, Mahima Chablani, Nell Gallogly, Jeffrey Miranda, Isabella Anderson, Christine Nguyen, Reyna Desai, Jordan Cohen, Victoria Kim, Nina Lassam and Julia Simon.
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